Im so paranoid sometimes!?
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wow i used to do the exact same thing... and i still kinda do sometimes... for me I think it's cuz i'm so scared of being betrayed or losing someone. I guess i don't really trust people that much... now i try to always be doing something else while i'm on msn or waiting for a call. That way I can try to keep my mind off stuff.. I think it would be a good idea if u tried to figure out why u're doing that.. maybe it will help u fix it...also , remember that whenever u jump to all those conclusions about things it's probably not true. It's just ur mind playing tricks on you. Ignore it and do something else... try to think possitively all the time.. it's usually not as bad as u think it is. It was hard at first for me to control my thoughts (which i have alot of :| ) but once u get used to it u'll be a lot more happy.
It seems that you may be insecure. I wouldn't call you paranoid. It's not like you think everyone is out to get you. It's hard to overcome that, I used to be that way too. Now, I make a consious effort to not dwell on why they may not have called me back right away. Like, maybe they are busy, or didn't get my voice mail. Maybe they have something important going on in their lives they're trying to deal with. Nine times out of ten, it is something like that. Then I'll be glad I wasn't worrying about it. It does take some effort, but eventually you'll be able to do it.
This usually stems from a lack of self esteem and a lack of self confidence. I don't have an easy answer on how to overcome it - maybe read some self help books on building your self confidence. I used to be like that too - I was always worried about what everyone was thinking about me, but now that I'm older and have developed confidence, I don't give it a second thought. Learn to be happy with yourself and you will find that people naturally gravitate towards you and you won't have to worry about what they think.
I was like that for a long time too. Don't worry about it. For me the reason was that in fourth grade I was an outcast and my friends were NEVER stable. Then suddenly in seventh grade I became one of the most popular kids in school. But not that kind of popular - like the mean girl kind - the kind where you are kind, honest, and have quite a few good friends with whom you share a mutual respect and sense of caring. I always thought they would hate me the next day because of my elementary school experience. I would talk to your friends about it because they can help you a lot! Also think if there was anytime on your life that you think caused this habit. Talking is seriously the key to everything. When I was a kid we didn't have FunQA.coms so I had to learn that the hard way lol! Good luck! :^)
I have a good friend who always says "Never Assume" and it sounds like that motto might work for you. Never ever assume you know what is going on when another person cannot reach you right away. Life gets busy for everyone and you need to stay busy too.
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