Will i be successful in life being shy and introvert ?
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You might not like my answer, but like you, I had the same problem. Your brother who was the first born, had your parents undivided attention during those five years. The experts say that a child's personality is formed within the first five years. Then you came along and now there were two boys. The attention now was divided between the two of you. Usually the oldest child and the first seems to get more attention, sorry to say but it is true. I know you love and respect your brother and will so for the rest of your lives. What I had to do was to see a therapist, who helped me over a 4 year period to become confident, secure (it seemed that I was always insecure, one of the reasons for my shyness), and a sense of purpose. Without the help of a therapist, I still would be shy and insecure. I seriously wish you luck and a Good Life.
It depends on what your goals are. Do you honestly see yourself as "shy" and "introverted", or are you simply "quiet" and "contemplative"? You don't have to be like your brother to be a success. Be you. If you feel the urge within you to get out more and be more expressive, that's when you need to try to become that way. But if you're only responding to other people's opinions of what you "should" or "should not" be, then you're trying to behave in a way that's just not natural for you. If they think it's so great to be the way they're trying to make you be, then let -them- be that way. But it doesn't sound like that's your actual nature. Be yourself. Emily Dickenson was "shy" and "introverted" and I think she could be considered a success today. Many quiet, contemplative types do great things, all without changing who they really are.
Again, change if you really _want_ to, but only because that's who you really are, not because others -tell- you that's who you really "should be".
I starred your question because I'm kind of like on the same boat. I'm shy, introvert and am 22. But I am a female and I have an older sister who is the complete opposite of my personality.
I also hate it when people make fun of my shyness or when they comment on how quiet I am, so I understand what you're going through. :(
Yes, I believe you can still be successful while being shy and introvert as long as you have the will and determination to achieve your goals. However, people with these personality traits will have a harder time finding happiness because people need friends to journey with in their lives. It's hard for me, although I'm having my dream job but I am still miserable because I don't have any friends and I hesitate whenever I want to speak my mind on certain issues.
Keep marching on and God bless.
While it doesn't hurt to have a certain level of assertiveness, just remember, actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap, and often the less you say, and the more you do ,makes intelligent people see you for what you really are. Many of the great accomplishments recognized are done without fan fare, or noise by people who appeared to be unassuming and withdrawn. An extrovert, socially active, and "famous" among peers and relatives is not always the best thing, as many people view people like that as self-serving, annoying, invasive, obnoxious, and posers. They'll talk the talk, but when it comes to walking the walk, they balk.
What do you want to prove? You may love your brother, and respect him, but you are not your brother. You try to prove yourself by trying to be something you're not, you'll have no contentment or mental peace. People won't buy it, and will have less respect for you. If people don't want to accept you for keeping a low profile, screw them. Go your own way, and when the day is over, and you're satisfied with what you have accomplished, then you'll have your contentment, and mental peace.
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You want to prove that people are wrong thinking that you won't succeed in life if you're shy. I understand that; that you do not want to be underrated, or dismissed. However, it sounds like you've made this your top priority.
If you're surrounded by people (including family members) who can't accept what they see as a flaw, then it's time to get away from them for awhile, and establish yourself somewhere else. You're still a young adult with a long life to go, and once you get more experience in the real world, your shyness will probably fade as you get older. Where your family and other aquantainces are concerned, if you can't please them, then it's time to please yourself.
There is nothing wrong with being shy, but it's up to you to come out of your shell. The next time your parents say why don't you be like your brother ? Tell them that you admire your brother but we are two different people. I have 2 boys my oldest was my shy one my youngest the outgoing. My shy was did well and still does well for himself, but he struggled to come out of his shell but he did. Get envoled in alot of social events mens baseball, church any thing that makes you socialize. Strike up a conversation with a total stranger, every day say I am going out there and open up a little each day. good luck
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