Why do people cling to people who treat them badly?
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They probably had some sort of emotional neglect in their childhood. Most likely their self esteem and self worth has suffered. They likely cling to any attention they can get, even if it is negative. Most likely, because of their childhood, they are accustomed to holding out for the scraps of loving attention this person gives them once in awhile. This is a sad situation, and happens too often :(
its a self esteem issue. when you have self-love and self worth, this doesnt seem to be an issue.
Because basically no one wants to be denigrated emotionally in whatsoever. Also because of high self-righteousnesses.
Because being treated badly is better than being ignored.
Other then a self esteem issue, I also believe that it has something to do with the law of scarcity. People who treat others badly can also be very nice at times. Those that cling to them may be attracted to that occasional kindness, and, thus, accept the person that treats them badly.
Human nature as just that way..Creatures of habit that is a giving..One becomes "cozy as is" Rather than going for an UN charted area..Stick with what you know i guess..could be worse out of ones own bubble.
People with low self-esteem will accept any sort of attention - positive or negative. Often they wait for the other extreme too - lots of kindness, which balances out or eradicates the bad.
Because in some sick way they feel that negative attention is better than no attention at all and eventually start to confuse abuse for love. it is a sick cycle and some messed up people really seem to get off on screwing with the weaker minded "clingers."
They fell thats what they deserve.
It has a lot to do with the clingers personality. This person probably loses interest and gets bored with someone who provides her with continous security. This type of person works her way to the fight, goes through the tough time, enjoys the post fight love period, and again craves for the cycle. any thing else will be psychologically boring.To get away one needs proper councelling to see the big picture and then recognise it as a pathological pattern
I suppose some people think that abuse is better than neglect.
one word Acceptance
To gain acceptance that they have not had or gained from that person,
In the hope that they will be loved by that person, and they might change, but alas usually never happens
I have read most of the answers to your question at this point, they all have a certain amount of truth basically. My understanding of your question is > relateing to male - female realtionships > In my life one has always been looking for the good and or love on the human level > which in itself is almost an impossibility > most men I have loved and believed loved me did not always treat one badly one believes this to be a truth in most > male - female realtionships > that is why people one believes tend to hang on because of the good times > like in the movie > "The way we were" People sometimes do not want to admit they were not meant for each other but different circumstances causes them to meet fall in love > the love at first is great > then it becomes onesided for one > the other starts the bad treatment > the other fights the belief that it is over because of the good treatment and the seemingly love the relationship started with and just hangs on until they cannot anymore because the other person is making a joke out of the person and the relationship > yet the other keeps accepting the bad treatment hoping things will go back to the way they were > then there comes the comfort zone and many other complications that araise > yet like butler said "frankly I don't give a dam > yet she said tomorrow is another day > bottom line if it does not kill one > God forbid > it will only help the one that is being treated badly be a stronger person and able with the help of the Triune God be an overcomer and win the victory > because after all victory is in Jesus Christ and because of Him > and life does go on > and God knows the what > when > how > and always turns the bad into good. That is why I love the Triune God so. Yes one may be lonely > but one is never alone and through it all one learned to trust in Jesus Christ one learned to trust in God. One also believes to see the goodness of God in the land of the living on our planet in our universe > in Gods' timing > it is like that donkey the town people threw into a deep pit; they did not stop at that the people kept heeping garbage in to that pit on to that donkey (jackass) > well that donkey kept shaking that garbage off and stomping it down > then one day that donkey shook it off stomped it down and walk right out of that pit. God is Love and I love Him so much and shall be eternally gratefull and thankful to our Triune God > becasue when all else fails God is there waiting with open arms to make your life better as you grow older than when you were younger. Oh how I love Jesus oh how I love God and I am so thankful for the Holy Ghost. Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning > Thank you for asking that question > it really helped me in answering it to see just a little more clearly. 1+1+1=1 > Watch and Pray.
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