Hi zer! can u tell me how to boost my self esteem? thk?
Answer:
Try doing things that make you feel good about yourself like helping other people. I donate money to a homeless shelter and that makes me feel like I'm a decent person. When you do the right things, you'll feel good about yourself.
Learn a new skill or hobby, for example, a martial art such as karate or aikido.
7 Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem Quickly
Low self esteem can trip you up just when you need your self esteem is be at its best. These 7 tips will help you feel better about yourself quickly:
1) Think back to when you did something new for the first time.
Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning!
2) Do something you have been putting off.
Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house, tidying the garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills, making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following through!
3) Do something you are good at.
Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening, climbing, painting, writing… If possible, it should be something that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you forget about everything else. You will feel more competent, accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low self esteem!
And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow' regularly seem to be happier and healthier.
4) Stop thinking about yourself!
I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often accompanied by too much focus on the self. Doing something that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make you feel better.
5) Get seriously relaxed.
If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Some people do this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, meditation, or a physically-based relaxation technique such as Tai Chi can be incredibly useful.
When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!
6) Remember all the things you have achieved.
This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here.
Things like passing your driving test (despite being nervous), passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.
7) Remember that you could be wrong!
If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip 'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in!
Summary
Once you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self esteem is not just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and the things they do from day to day. Good Luck!
Nobody can boost your self esteem for you, only you yourself can do that. But for a start, you can start writing in english, and not...that. It makes you come off as fake.
Like anybody would typically say, look at yourself in the mirror, say you love yourself to your reflection...blah, blah, blah. It didn't help me much.
So that doesn't work because all you can see is an ugly face and a fat body. Then forget about trying to convince your reflection anything.
Make a list of all your good and bad qualities, two separate columns. The rule: you have to write at least ten good qualities. I know, sometimes that can be hard.
Examine your good qualities, remind yourself that most of those qualities you won't find in everyother twenty people you come across.
Now examine the bad qualities. Pick up your fallen pride and hold on to it tight, then strategize a way to relocate that bad quality to the good column. For example: you tend to be extra critical, make it a point to strictly give constructive criticism, mark: constructive.
Another option: buy an awesome outfit, wear makeup, get a new haircut (try a mohawk, it's real fun; dye it pink or blue), lose a few lbs. (only for those who need to), etc.
But mind you, this can turn 360 degrees and slap you right back in the face, so don't come off as fake, otherwise you might work the opposite to a magnet.
But the #1 rule: avoid fads. That's just a way of subconsciously telling yourself you're horrible the way you are, and you have to be more like other people.
Just follow the rules you make yourself, because you are an individual, and there is no way -no matter how much you try- you are going to be anywhere near half of another person.
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