My future is completely screwed up and i feel like committing suicide?
hey..
i'm 21 and i've just finished college...i'm quite hardworking and intelligent guy, good in studies etc...but i did 1 wrong thing last year which haunts me even till now..when we were having campus interviews i didnt prepare well for them..and now i dont have a job..all my friends who are much useless than me have got good jobs..
what do i do now...nothing in my life seems to go my way..everywhere i'm being met with failure..why this bad luck to me??
i feel like killing myself...might even do that in sometime..
help
Answer:
I'm sorry you feel hopeless. I know a lot of people probably tell you this, but here me out...you are 21. The world is yours for the taking. Everybody does something "wrong," but the difference is how you deal with "failure." There is nothing to gain from dwelling on what you did wrong. Life is about falling down and picking yourself up. Also, don't think of the past, don't think too hard on the future. Be in the present moment, in the NOW.
Whenever I feel hopeless and suicidal, I think of what I'm grateful for in my life. This may or may not help you depending on if being grateful comes naturally to you. My mom still struggles with it and her life is in shambles. Whenever I feel angry, resentful, negative...I think of what I need to be grateful for.
I don't mean to preach...it's just that if I were 21 again...trust me, that's why I'm working on a 5 year plan because I don't want to be 40 and feeling like a failure. Maybe set goals for yourself...because good things don't just fall onto your lap...people who get just the right opportunities are usually already prepared. Imagine, being given an opportunity of a lifetime but not being able to take it because you weren't prepared. Mistakes are to be learned from...nothing more. Everyone has made major mistakes...it's not worth dying over. In fact, it makes life more challenging. Also, real happiness isn't a feeling...it's understanding life and being content with it's ups and downs.
Good luck...your world may seem broken beyond repair, but it's just begun. If a grandmother can go to Harvard medical school and become a doctor, you can do anything!
Start interviewing again and this time prepare for them! Network, use your college employment service. If people want to know why you haven't gotten a job before (interviewers) just tell them that your were working so hard to do well and make good grades and actually LEARN the information to be able to use it that you just didn't have the time.
You're 21 and you have a degree? Good for you!! You've got a lot to look forward to! No sense comparing yourself to your classmates, because everybody has different experiences.
So you screwed up, welcome to the human race!! Take the problems you had and use them as experience for the future! Things will fall into place but you have to be looking out for the opportunities, and if you stay depressed, you may not see a good thing when it comes along. Hang in there! And please talk to someone!
Good things sometimes come disguised as bad things, you may have things that look like failures right now but might actually be good in the long run.
First of all remember that Suicide is the premanent solution to a temporary problem.. You can get a job back but not your life... Prepare yourself, start looking for job posts and go for the interviews wilh full confidence... Dont let these pitfalls depress you.. Something better is definately in store for you.
All the best!!
big deal. start looking for other interviews and other jobs.
You're future is not screwed up, you have at least five decades of life left in your body. One thousand great things can happen in a month! Did you know that?
Imagine what can happen in a year; and you have about fifty years or more ahead of you!
Stop thinking about suicide, it's the ultimate act of cowardice. Besides ...the hurt you'll put on your loved ones is a pain they don't deserve because you don't get it!
Life is full of crap. But all that crap sinks to the bottom of your life, and the cream always rises to the top. Drink the cream and flush the crap.
You have fifty years to help make this world a better place for a lot of people. Five decades.
"Success is a state of mind". I would suggest you change your attitude about your life, the state of mind you are in now is depressing. The only one who can change your mind is yourself.
Now get on with your life, it's going to be just fine.
Ask yourself this question: 'In 21 years time, what ten things would I like to have done?' Write them down in a list, hardest to achieve at the top. Start at the bottom and begin to work your way up, ticking each achievement off as you go. If you manage to achieve all 10 within the timescale, start another list...
You should just commit suicide, you are screwed.
You need to call a crisis hotline and talk with a professional. If you are this upset about something so small, call right now. They are listed in phone books or call a local hospital for a crisis number.
no. commiting sucide means u r a looser. You are thinking of only ur self. What of your parents. have u ever think of them, they have raise u make u capable to stand on your own feet. they have dream that one day their son will support us at our old ages
and about job this is not the end of the world. When one door is closed then the other is opened for u. May be that ur first interview was screwed up because, it can be that god has secure some other good job for u. u cant stop on your one attempt. Dont yuo know that Try try untill u die.
You're young enough to turn your life around if you're unhappy with it. There are plenty of resources out there for people to get good paying jobs. 21 and a degree already..hell you're better off than I am. I'm 21 and been working since out of high school.
On another note. As tough as life gets sometimes, suicide is no the way to go. Let me tell you a story. My father now in hid mid-40's, has been clinical depressed since he can remember. He's been on every depressiong med. known to man, been to therapy enough for several people. But this past April, everything was happening too much at once. So he decided to take some sleeping pills, light a fire in the laundry basket in his room and go to sleep. He woke up 10 minutes later to his dog barking because he was scared. Then it hit him. What the hell was he doing? He ran out of the house and saved himself.
At that moment, all though he still has depression, he knows what he did was a big mistake. (he now longer has a house or his best friend, his dog). Life is too valueable, and it's not our decision to say when it is over. There are a lot worse off people out there than you and my dad. Things will get better. We're young and have a lot of oppurtunity to change.
I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do.
its not the end of the world yet.not getting a good job,happens to alot of people everyday,if they all commit suicide i guess the population would be quite low now. don't get screwed up for small matters like that.there are alot of people out there hoping to get a decent education or the money to educate their kids,and they still remain hoping that sometime in their life the day will come,but you have accomplished alot already in your 21yrs, just go on trying,i know its hard to get a good job these days but still its too early to talk about your future being screwed up.
okay first off...congratulations on finishing college! hell of an accomplishment there...and not all can complete that major task...don't worry about the campus interviews...i screwed them up too...they are just a drop in the bucket and the really really good jobs are not interviewing at the campus...no matter what it looks like for your friends who were successful there...the campus interviews are for peon jobs...they know kids just graduating will jump at anything and that is what they give them...a lot of possibility but they start small and it takes forever to get the possibilities they speak of...look for a job which suits you...keep applying...take any rejection letters and make a collage...mine covered a whole wall and made me laugh...especially when i got my job and i have power over all those little people who got the jobs out of college interviews...it really pisses them off...:) take your time...find what is you and what you will be happy with...it is out there you just have to find it...
if you commit suicide...you won't get paid the big money...
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i'm 21 and i've just finished college...i'm quite hardworking and intelligent guy, good in studies etc...but i did 1 wrong thing last year which haunts me even till now..when we were having campus interviews i didnt prepare well for them..and now i dont have a job..all my friends who are much useless than me have got good jobs..
what do i do now...nothing in my life seems to go my way..everywhere i'm being met with failure..why this bad luck to me??
i feel like killing myself...might even do that in sometime..
help
Answer:
I'm sorry you feel hopeless. I know a lot of people probably tell you this, but here me out...you are 21. The world is yours for the taking. Everybody does something "wrong," but the difference is how you deal with "failure." There is nothing to gain from dwelling on what you did wrong. Life is about falling down and picking yourself up. Also, don't think of the past, don't think too hard on the future. Be in the present moment, in the NOW.
Whenever I feel hopeless and suicidal, I think of what I'm grateful for in my life. This may or may not help you depending on if being grateful comes naturally to you. My mom still struggles with it and her life is in shambles. Whenever I feel angry, resentful, negative...I think of what I need to be grateful for.
I don't mean to preach...it's just that if I were 21 again...trust me, that's why I'm working on a 5 year plan because I don't want to be 40 and feeling like a failure. Maybe set goals for yourself...because good things don't just fall onto your lap...people who get just the right opportunities are usually already prepared. Imagine, being given an opportunity of a lifetime but not being able to take it because you weren't prepared. Mistakes are to be learned from...nothing more. Everyone has made major mistakes...it's not worth dying over. In fact, it makes life more challenging. Also, real happiness isn't a feeling...it's understanding life and being content with it's ups and downs.
Good luck...your world may seem broken beyond repair, but it's just begun. If a grandmother can go to Harvard medical school and become a doctor, you can do anything!
Start interviewing again and this time prepare for them! Network, use your college employment service. If people want to know why you haven't gotten a job before (interviewers) just tell them that your were working so hard to do well and make good grades and actually LEARN the information to be able to use it that you just didn't have the time.
You're 21 and you have a degree? Good for you!! You've got a lot to look forward to! No sense comparing yourself to your classmates, because everybody has different experiences.
So you screwed up, welcome to the human race!! Take the problems you had and use them as experience for the future! Things will fall into place but you have to be looking out for the opportunities, and if you stay depressed, you may not see a good thing when it comes along. Hang in there! And please talk to someone!
Good things sometimes come disguised as bad things, you may have things that look like failures right now but might actually be good in the long run.
First of all remember that Suicide is the premanent solution to a temporary problem.. You can get a job back but not your life... Prepare yourself, start looking for job posts and go for the interviews wilh full confidence... Dont let these pitfalls depress you.. Something better is definately in store for you.
All the best!!
big deal. start looking for other interviews and other jobs.
You're future is not screwed up, you have at least five decades of life left in your body. One thousand great things can happen in a month! Did you know that?
Imagine what can happen in a year; and you have about fifty years or more ahead of you!
Stop thinking about suicide, it's the ultimate act of cowardice. Besides ...the hurt you'll put on your loved ones is a pain they don't deserve because you don't get it!
Life is full of crap. But all that crap sinks to the bottom of your life, and the cream always rises to the top. Drink the cream and flush the crap.
You have fifty years to help make this world a better place for a lot of people. Five decades.
"Success is a state of mind". I would suggest you change your attitude about your life, the state of mind you are in now is depressing. The only one who can change your mind is yourself.
Now get on with your life, it's going to be just fine.
Ask yourself this question: 'In 21 years time, what ten things would I like to have done?' Write them down in a list, hardest to achieve at the top. Start at the bottom and begin to work your way up, ticking each achievement off as you go. If you manage to achieve all 10 within the timescale, start another list...
You should just commit suicide, you are screwed.
You need to call a crisis hotline and talk with a professional. If you are this upset about something so small, call right now. They are listed in phone books or call a local hospital for a crisis number.
no. commiting sucide means u r a looser. You are thinking of only ur self. What of your parents. have u ever think of them, they have raise u make u capable to stand on your own feet. they have dream that one day their son will support us at our old ages
and about job this is not the end of the world. When one door is closed then the other is opened for u. May be that ur first interview was screwed up because, it can be that god has secure some other good job for u. u cant stop on your one attempt. Dont yuo know that Try try untill u die.
You're young enough to turn your life around if you're unhappy with it. There are plenty of resources out there for people to get good paying jobs. 21 and a degree already..hell you're better off than I am. I'm 21 and been working since out of high school.
On another note. As tough as life gets sometimes, suicide is no the way to go. Let me tell you a story. My father now in hid mid-40's, has been clinical depressed since he can remember. He's been on every depressiong med. known to man, been to therapy enough for several people. But this past April, everything was happening too much at once. So he decided to take some sleeping pills, light a fire in the laundry basket in his room and go to sleep. He woke up 10 minutes later to his dog barking because he was scared. Then it hit him. What the hell was he doing? He ran out of the house and saved himself.
At that moment, all though he still has depression, he knows what he did was a big mistake. (he now longer has a house or his best friend, his dog). Life is too valueable, and it's not our decision to say when it is over. There are a lot worse off people out there than you and my dad. Things will get better. We're young and have a lot of oppurtunity to change.
I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do.
its not the end of the world yet.not getting a good job,happens to alot of people everyday,if they all commit suicide i guess the population would be quite low now. don't get screwed up for small matters like that.there are alot of people out there hoping to get a decent education or the money to educate their kids,and they still remain hoping that sometime in their life the day will come,but you have accomplished alot already in your 21yrs, just go on trying,i know its hard to get a good job these days but still its too early to talk about your future being screwed up.
okay first off...congratulations on finishing college! hell of an accomplishment there...and not all can complete that major task...don't worry about the campus interviews...i screwed them up too...they are just a drop in the bucket and the really really good jobs are not interviewing at the campus...no matter what it looks like for your friends who were successful there...the campus interviews are for peon jobs...they know kids just graduating will jump at anything and that is what they give them...a lot of possibility but they start small and it takes forever to get the possibilities they speak of...look for a job which suits you...keep applying...take any rejection letters and make a collage...mine covered a whole wall and made me laugh...especially when i got my job and i have power over all those little people who got the jobs out of college interviews...it really pisses them off...:) take your time...find what is you and what you will be happy with...it is out there you just have to find it...
if you commit suicide...you won't get paid the big money...
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