Negative thoughts keep popping in my head, I'm no good, I'm useless, I'm dumb, I'm ugly, help me Im suffering
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Thoughts do not just "pop" into your head, as if they are from outer space. Nobody controls your thoughts but YOU. You are responsible for what you think.
Go to www.drphil.com and then click on "advice", then click on "self matters" then scroll down and click on the advice about "Eliminating Negative Self Dialogue".
You're better than what you give yourself credit for. You're not usless and ugly. You should really think and make a list of all the good things about yourself and start to appericate yourself and the world around you. We're not perfect and that's the way we're meant to be so keep on trying and I wish you the BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!...
Change your perspectives. Try seeing things in different ways. Make a mental effort to see things positively. Everyone goes thru a self doubting stage. Youll grow out of it.
Neli, Darling, you need an arsenal of Positive thinking to combat these thoughts. You need to constantly constantly constantly constantly constantly feed yourself wonderful soothing thoughts like, "I feel good about myself", "I approve of myself"
In fact, say the opposite of what you are saying to yourself if it is negative.
Also, know that the Lord loves you!
Remember that what you dwell on is who you become and how you will feel.
You have to keep on practicing no matter how hard it is...because--------plant seeds of Postive thoughts!
You, of all people, Neli, should feel like rejoicing..
God loves you so much! Even if you have never called His name.
I know God loves you because He waits patiently on you to call Him.
And in fact, I believe God loves you even more on the bad days.
I know God loves you because He takes those difficult days, those hard circumstances, those pains that seem unbearable, and uses them to help you grow.
God is all for you. He wants you to be happy and to grow in His love.
He wants you to know Him as well as He knows you.
He is always there, waiting. You can put him on "hold' if you don't feel like talking to him today ... and he will be waiting tomorrow, or the next day, or whenever you want.
You must be very special. For God to love you, trust you, and never give up on you.
I want to rejoice for you and I don't even know you. That's how God works.
You are so special, God sent His only son to die for you.
Now that is worth celebrating.
Write it down somewhere, "God loves me! And I love me, too."
And go celebrate. Tell someone. Buy a love song. Pick a wildflower. Talk to a bird.
Rejoice!
One way to combat negative thoughts is through working to resolve the sources of those thoughts:
Make a list of the things that you think are bad/wrong with you and then figure out ways to tackle them head on. Are you ugly? If so, why - bad skin? Change your diet. Fat? Figure out an exercise routine. Stupid? Take a class or go to the library etc. By actively confronting your fears and concerns you are making a positive effort to control them. Sitting around moping and hoping someone will come along to convince you otherwise is a tall order to fill (and what happens if they leave, move, die etc... are you suddenly useless again?) In my opinion, facing these fears head on will do 2 things: 1: it will show you which ones are false and 2: it will help you make an effort to change the things about yourself you don't like. Take control!
I agree with cassidy. You should engage in positive thoughts (it's called positive self talk). It sounds stupid, but it really works. I had the same problem and it got really bad. It almost feels like you are haunted by these thoughts. The thoughts could have come from other people or from yourself (not being able to let go of failure), but listen. Say the opposite of what you are thinking. I'm ugly...say I am beautiful. Say things like "I know I can do it, you are smart and good looking." It really works. There will probably be a period where you are like "man..this is stupid...I can't believe this stuff..I really am stupid or fat or ugly (etc)", but don't let it get you down..keep on talking to yourself because you ARE worth it. You are beautiful and lovely and smart. Peace.
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