If you have had a really bad experience with some of of a different colour to you and as a result you didn't
Trust that particular race. or were scared of them or just didn't like them would that make you racist or traumatised.. I would like answere from all races?
Answer:
I believe you have been severely traumatized, but there is a cure..forgiveness!
Forgiveness unleashes a lot of tension and stress from our lives and opens our hearts to new experiences.
No it would just make you a sissy
not exactly, but was in a night club (OMG! just realised this was half my life ago!) and a guy came and asked if I'd like a drink with him, said no as I had a date, he asked if it was because he was black and went on and on! Told him didn't care if he was green with purple spots, not interested!! this still bugs me now, hate it when people play the racist card!!
RACIST!
Yes, I would agree that you have been traumatized. You have to dig deep in your heart and forgive. Also, you should realize that you can not hold a whole race responsible for the actions of one ignorant and mean person.
It will make you judgeful. Not racist.
I'm a caucasian and have had good and bad experiences with all races, judge people as individuals. You can become traumatized by that does not lead to racism unless you let it or were taught to be racist from your family, friends or environment.
Let it go you dealt with a bad person...don't blame people of the same color for one person's poor behavior.
There are people who may hurt you, and there are people who may care for you. It is not a color issue.
This sort of reaction is an immaturity of the mind. If a white person hurts you, is the next white person going to hurt you? Perhaps the next person who hurts you is a Japaneses person, then you'll be really confused because your theory didn't pan out.
Perhaps you need to branch out and find a new way to learn and interact with others. Be blessed.
The fact you asked such a question seems sincere.
I think you'll sort things out.
There are those who've had multitudes of bad experiences in this line. What you learn is that mankind is esentially evil with something that restrains some from being worse. These are called nice people.
Or use to be.
Nowadays evil seems untethered.
Not a good time to ' prove your sensitivity.'
Chin up.
Keep your guard up, and for Pete's sake don't feel you have to ' prove ' anything. For lack of a better word trust your instincts without falling prey to cynicism.
We all do this. And don't negate actual fact backed up by evidence. There are multitudes of people who will use their background, race, or color as full opportunists without conscience or care for the heart of others.
That's what the gangster wars were all about, actually. Politely stated as ' Ethnic Cheerleading. ' We're supposed to be morally responsible men and women.
Race or color has become an unmerited, obnoxious priority with only itself to recommend itself while truth, honor, and a sense of right and wrong have been thrown out the window.
At the risk of rambling on, I thought it important to add the following; the world tell us, mingle, have fun, circulate. Meet new people. Not bad under certain circumstances but friend is strong word to use on a lot of people. If at the end of your life you have won friend; that's a lot. You came out ahead. It may seem cold but, better alone, than badly accompanied.
i dont think so... but some people might. 2 b honest i think people r 2 quick 2 play the race, sex etc card nowdays.
I grew up in South London and had horrible experiences of all races (including white Europeans from both the West and the East). None of this has made me frightened of any race. I think that it is ignorance like this that causes racism. Racism is something that should have died out but only lives through ignorance. There are people I know and who trust me that make casual remarks about Jews and Turks being untrustworthy but are totally ignorant of the fact that I am coursing with that blood.
My wife was robbed at gun point by a different race, she is not racist as in hate, but I think her inability to let her guard down around that particular race's males would be seen as racist in some people's minds, she gets nervous when approached by these young men now, locks the doors if sitting at a red light and one crosses the street towards her. She is scheduled to testify against the guys next Tuesday, she is nervous. I told her to study the photos she had of them, but she refused, said if she couldn't recognize them, she would not send an innocent guy to jail. I thought that was a testament to her character.
Gilmore "Just get over it is much easier said than done" i would love for my wife to "get over it" she had a gun held to her and was told to "give me your purse bi#ch!" That's difficult to get over!
racist, you look at someones racen and judge them for anothers behaviour
grow up and get over it
I think every member of every race is "wired" to think "differently" about other races. I read about a "face recognition" study awhile back that concluded that people tend to gravitate positively towards those of their own race.
The key to ending "racism" in its negative form is when we finally realize that people of other races are different and it's wrong to treat people poorly just because they are different.
As for your specific question, yes, I think it's a valid scenario. Look at veterans, POW's. I know several who fought in Asian conflicts, WWII in the Pacific; Korea; Vietnam...who say they are wary of Asian people. One man said he was very nervous around Asian people when he first got back from war, and he had to make conscious efforts not to be callous or even rude. At first, but it got easier with time. Was he evil for his initial reaction, or noble for recognizing it as wrong (they weren't shooting at him) and working to get over it?
I think the biggest hindrance to ending racism is the idea that any one race "owns" it.
I'd say you have forgotten how often people the same race or colour as you are have treated you badly!
Think about it!
Trauma initially. If you have the sense to ask the question, I think you have the sense to work through it. It is totally unreasonable to hold a whole race of millions responsible for the act of one or two people - even a group. Take care not to use trauma as an excuse for racism.
I guess its the easy route...but nothing in life is that straightforward.
I'm afraid you're going to have to assess every individual you meet unless you want to:
a) miss out on getting to know some wonderful people; and
b) let yourself in for some dodgy situations because you are automatically trusting someone because of their colour, country of origin, religion, accent etc
Im an Indian and I live in Britain
i was born here and have always ben trageted from an early age with racial slurs and bullied at school and in jobs
i have met some wonderful English people and some not so nice ones
Every south African I have met has been very condescending and dismissive
We have as a result of twoo hundred years under the British raj suffered greatly but teh thing I admire most about Indians is that we give individuals a chnace and we accept them for hwta they are
We don't tar the colour of a person with teh same brush as a result of experiences with one individual
I recently had a crass letter on yahoo from a South African lady who was quite aggressive about my statements teh at South africans I have met are racist and she wexplained why
That does not draw away from the statement made and she made no excuses for it
I therfore put it to her that racism is fear and that fear can result in harm to innocent people by generalising
It just isnt fair
I dont meet south africans or white people and think this is what they are like and this is what i expect
It would leave me a very bitter angry person
Instead I am open to individuals and the ways of teh world have taught me this
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Answer:
I believe you have been severely traumatized, but there is a cure..forgiveness!
Forgiveness unleashes a lot of tension and stress from our lives and opens our hearts to new experiences.
No it would just make you a sissy
not exactly, but was in a night club (OMG! just realised this was half my life ago!) and a guy came and asked if I'd like a drink with him, said no as I had a date, he asked if it was because he was black and went on and on! Told him didn't care if he was green with purple spots, not interested!! this still bugs me now, hate it when people play the racist card!!
RACIST!
Yes, I would agree that you have been traumatized. You have to dig deep in your heart and forgive. Also, you should realize that you can not hold a whole race responsible for the actions of one ignorant and mean person.
It will make you judgeful. Not racist.
I'm a caucasian and have had good and bad experiences with all races, judge people as individuals. You can become traumatized by that does not lead to racism unless you let it or were taught to be racist from your family, friends or environment.
Let it go you dealt with a bad person...don't blame people of the same color for one person's poor behavior.
There are people who may hurt you, and there are people who may care for you. It is not a color issue.
This sort of reaction is an immaturity of the mind. If a white person hurts you, is the next white person going to hurt you? Perhaps the next person who hurts you is a Japaneses person, then you'll be really confused because your theory didn't pan out.
Perhaps you need to branch out and find a new way to learn and interact with others. Be blessed.
The fact you asked such a question seems sincere.
I think you'll sort things out.
There are those who've had multitudes of bad experiences in this line. What you learn is that mankind is esentially evil with something that restrains some from being worse. These are called nice people.
Or use to be.
Nowadays evil seems untethered.
Not a good time to ' prove your sensitivity.'
Chin up.
Keep your guard up, and for Pete's sake don't feel you have to ' prove ' anything. For lack of a better word trust your instincts without falling prey to cynicism.
We all do this. And don't negate actual fact backed up by evidence. There are multitudes of people who will use their background, race, or color as full opportunists without conscience or care for the heart of others.
That's what the gangster wars were all about, actually. Politely stated as ' Ethnic Cheerleading. ' We're supposed to be morally responsible men and women.
Race or color has become an unmerited, obnoxious priority with only itself to recommend itself while truth, honor, and a sense of right and wrong have been thrown out the window.
At the risk of rambling on, I thought it important to add the following; the world tell us, mingle, have fun, circulate. Meet new people. Not bad under certain circumstances but friend is strong word to use on a lot of people. If at the end of your life you have won friend; that's a lot. You came out ahead. It may seem cold but, better alone, than badly accompanied.
i dont think so... but some people might. 2 b honest i think people r 2 quick 2 play the race, sex etc card nowdays.
I grew up in South London and had horrible experiences of all races (including white Europeans from both the West and the East). None of this has made me frightened of any race. I think that it is ignorance like this that causes racism. Racism is something that should have died out but only lives through ignorance. There are people I know and who trust me that make casual remarks about Jews and Turks being untrustworthy but are totally ignorant of the fact that I am coursing with that blood.
My wife was robbed at gun point by a different race, she is not racist as in hate, but I think her inability to let her guard down around that particular race's males would be seen as racist in some people's minds, she gets nervous when approached by these young men now, locks the doors if sitting at a red light and one crosses the street towards her. She is scheduled to testify against the guys next Tuesday, she is nervous. I told her to study the photos she had of them, but she refused, said if she couldn't recognize them, she would not send an innocent guy to jail. I thought that was a testament to her character.
Gilmore "Just get over it is much easier said than done" i would love for my wife to "get over it" she had a gun held to her and was told to "give me your purse bi#ch!" That's difficult to get over!
racist, you look at someones racen and judge them for anothers behaviour
grow up and get over it
I think every member of every race is "wired" to think "differently" about other races. I read about a "face recognition" study awhile back that concluded that people tend to gravitate positively towards those of their own race.
The key to ending "racism" in its negative form is when we finally realize that people of other races are different and it's wrong to treat people poorly just because they are different.
As for your specific question, yes, I think it's a valid scenario. Look at veterans, POW's. I know several who fought in Asian conflicts, WWII in the Pacific; Korea; Vietnam...who say they are wary of Asian people. One man said he was very nervous around Asian people when he first got back from war, and he had to make conscious efforts not to be callous or even rude. At first, but it got easier with time. Was he evil for his initial reaction, or noble for recognizing it as wrong (they weren't shooting at him) and working to get over it?
I think the biggest hindrance to ending racism is the idea that any one race "owns" it.
I'd say you have forgotten how often people the same race or colour as you are have treated you badly!
Think about it!
Trauma initially. If you have the sense to ask the question, I think you have the sense to work through it. It is totally unreasonable to hold a whole race of millions responsible for the act of one or two people - even a group. Take care not to use trauma as an excuse for racism.
I guess its the easy route...but nothing in life is that straightforward.
I'm afraid you're going to have to assess every individual you meet unless you want to:
a) miss out on getting to know some wonderful people; and
b) let yourself in for some dodgy situations because you are automatically trusting someone because of their colour, country of origin, religion, accent etc
Im an Indian and I live in Britain
i was born here and have always ben trageted from an early age with racial slurs and bullied at school and in jobs
i have met some wonderful English people and some not so nice ones
Every south African I have met has been very condescending and dismissive
We have as a result of twoo hundred years under the British raj suffered greatly but teh thing I admire most about Indians is that we give individuals a chnace and we accept them for hwta they are
We don't tar the colour of a person with teh same brush as a result of experiences with one individual
I recently had a crass letter on yahoo from a South African lady who was quite aggressive about my statements teh at South africans I have met are racist and she wexplained why
That does not draw away from the statement made and she made no excuses for it
I therfore put it to her that racism is fear and that fear can result in harm to innocent people by generalising
It just isnt fair
I dont meet south africans or white people and think this is what they are like and this is what i expect
It would leave me a very bitter angry person
Instead I am open to individuals and the ways of teh world have taught me this
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