I'm an adult, but I notice that I still need lots of attention from others to make me feel worthy as a result
people have said, I'm arrogant and a Diva, at it really hurts. I feel like I have to always be number one and I inadvertently cause people to feel inferior...then they start to despise me and since I'm so sensitive, it cripples me.
How do I get along with people and begin to the process of becoming whole...without being conceited or arrogant or always needing to be on the top.
thanks so much.
Answer:
Just be yourself. If you're comfortable with what you're doing, then why change? You can not please everybody. If you want to have true friends, they'll be the one to approach you and accept you for who you really are.
Don't be too sensitive. It's just their perception. And who the hell cares? They're not the ones who gave birth to you! Hello!
Go girl!
Try being the strong silent type,
wow me too. I think the key is to start appreciating what you have and start being as genuine to people as you can be. Dont put up a front acting all tough because people will asume that you, and its not...your sensitve. its hard to always get others approval, i dont know what to say about that one becasue i do that too sometimes. I think what you need is to truly build your confidence with a job or somethign you can excell at.. then you will know your great and wont be so insecure.
First I want to say that I appreciate your honesty. Secondly I want to say that God can change all of that. Pick up a Bible and start reading the book of Matthew, it will speak on how you should treat people. Aside from that, just pray for God to change you.
You need to work on your people skills. If people think you are a Diva, then they likely don't know you. It is just their perception of you. You need to smile and be approachable. That will go a long way to helping you overcome this. You will get the right attention then. People will want to chat with you. Learn to ask questions of people, ask about their family, their job, if you notice they have a new car, etc. It takes a little practice but I'm sure you will be fantastic at it.
Well, if you haven't noticed your a woman (Women love attention). And it's all about you.
I'm not sure.
Your problem arise from deep within. You need to learn to love yourself and be confident within yourself before you can solve a problem like this.
Try getting counseling it sounds like it would do a world of good in your case
Try thinking of others and not about yourself so much.
I'm not mean, and I have the same problem, but you are always going to get some jerk who will cripple you, and you wanting to be the top is going to make people belittle you even more. Be kind. Be yourself, and most of all, don't give it if you can't take it. Believe me, I know what you are going through, but hurting others will not improve your problems. Don't let people offend you. They don't know any better, and that is why everyone is the way that they are. You don't have to take their crap, nor do you have to take the offensive comments they give you. Nobody inflicted you with any sort of disease that makes you take offense in the crap that they say, so that is the first thing you have to think about when unpleasant things are said. Just respect them and before long people will respect you too. Respect brings respect. Have a great day!
you would be a good one too ask, is your chinese sign a goat?just curious, seriously email me with your birth year and month.if its febuary or january tell me if its late jan or before feb 25. this matters. ive been learning tons of chinese astrology and its been dead on. dont freak out im not some spychic tarot card reader. i do it for spychological reasons only kay. skysmama77@yahoo.com. anyways if you dont want to satisfy my curiosity heres what i think.
you sound alot like my sister. you take your life experience and think its the only right way to go. am i warm. you are closed minded to others opinions other than your own, hot even. your ready to stirve for anything and wont let anyone get in the way. am i burning up yet? heres my advice. instead of running through life like a steady freight train of power and your knowledge , take time to slow down, watch people. watch how different people intereact in different situations. be open minded to new views and opinions. allow someone to teach you instead of you being in control. seriously were you born in 79? or are you a monkey 80 maybe? a dragon 76? a tiger 74? or are you younger? maybe86 or whatever seriously i need to know email me any ways. im bettin on the goat because you said one thing that caught my attention your sensetive. i bet when someone truely knows you you are loving and comassionate and caring and good. let me help you unleash these strengths. i may sound crazy but its 11:30 at night. what do you want.
I'm sorry to hear about your problem, is truly sounds painful. I've had clients who have told me about similar problems. Often I've found they have had experiences during childhood where their parents weren't very free with compliments or praise. Praise was often withheld, and offered only to coerce some sort of behavior from the child.
The child grows up with low self-esteem, trying desperately to elicit praise or compliments out of others so he or she will feel good about him/herself. When no one is around, or if praise isn't forthcoming, the child (and later, the adult) believes they are bad, a failure, and alone.
Common tactics for women with this sort of personality include dressing provocatively and highly flirtatious behavior. This often turns other females off, and holds the interest of males for only a short while. Every rejection feels like a confirmation of the woman's worst fear, that she is alone and unlovable. She then redoubles her efforts (becomes even more daring in dress and behavior), with even more disastrous results.
A psychologist trained in mood and personality disorders can help you find that "happy medium" between feeling compelled to draw attention to yourself, and losing those sparkling parts of your personality which make you unique, individual, and special.
well, you just have to be confident about yourself first.
be confident that you can change into the person you want to be.
cuz if you dont want to be that person and just stay the way you are, then you shouldnt stress yourself to change.
if you want to be the person that dosent want to be arrogant and conceited, you have to learn to put yourself aside at moments and care about others.
listen to what they are telling you and respect/appreciate the fact that they are telling you something.
but, it may not be just you. it could be the people you are around. You should ask them to help you because they are the closest ones.
if they dont help you, i guess they're just not friends you really need
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How do I get along with people and begin to the process of becoming whole...without being conceited or arrogant or always needing to be on the top.
thanks so much.
Answer:
Just be yourself. If you're comfortable with what you're doing, then why change? You can not please everybody. If you want to have true friends, they'll be the one to approach you and accept you for who you really are.
Don't be too sensitive. It's just their perception. And who the hell cares? They're not the ones who gave birth to you! Hello!
Go girl!
Try being the strong silent type,
wow me too. I think the key is to start appreciating what you have and start being as genuine to people as you can be. Dont put up a front acting all tough because people will asume that you, and its not...your sensitve. its hard to always get others approval, i dont know what to say about that one becasue i do that too sometimes. I think what you need is to truly build your confidence with a job or somethign you can excell at.. then you will know your great and wont be so insecure.
First I want to say that I appreciate your honesty. Secondly I want to say that God can change all of that. Pick up a Bible and start reading the book of Matthew, it will speak on how you should treat people. Aside from that, just pray for God to change you.
You need to work on your people skills. If people think you are a Diva, then they likely don't know you. It is just their perception of you. You need to smile and be approachable. That will go a long way to helping you overcome this. You will get the right attention then. People will want to chat with you. Learn to ask questions of people, ask about their family, their job, if you notice they have a new car, etc. It takes a little practice but I'm sure you will be fantastic at it.
Well, if you haven't noticed your a woman (Women love attention). And it's all about you.
I'm not sure.
Your problem arise from deep within. You need to learn to love yourself and be confident within yourself before you can solve a problem like this.
Try getting counseling it sounds like it would do a world of good in your case
Try thinking of others and not about yourself so much.
I'm not mean, and I have the same problem, but you are always going to get some jerk who will cripple you, and you wanting to be the top is going to make people belittle you even more. Be kind. Be yourself, and most of all, don't give it if you can't take it. Believe me, I know what you are going through, but hurting others will not improve your problems. Don't let people offend you. They don't know any better, and that is why everyone is the way that they are. You don't have to take their crap, nor do you have to take the offensive comments they give you. Nobody inflicted you with any sort of disease that makes you take offense in the crap that they say, so that is the first thing you have to think about when unpleasant things are said. Just respect them and before long people will respect you too. Respect brings respect. Have a great day!
you would be a good one too ask, is your chinese sign a goat?just curious, seriously email me with your birth year and month.if its febuary or january tell me if its late jan or before feb 25. this matters. ive been learning tons of chinese astrology and its been dead on. dont freak out im not some spychic tarot card reader. i do it for spychological reasons only kay. skysmama77@yahoo.com. anyways if you dont want to satisfy my curiosity heres what i think.
you sound alot like my sister. you take your life experience and think its the only right way to go. am i warm. you are closed minded to others opinions other than your own, hot even. your ready to stirve for anything and wont let anyone get in the way. am i burning up yet? heres my advice. instead of running through life like a steady freight train of power and your knowledge , take time to slow down, watch people. watch how different people intereact in different situations. be open minded to new views and opinions. allow someone to teach you instead of you being in control. seriously were you born in 79? or are you a monkey 80 maybe? a dragon 76? a tiger 74? or are you younger? maybe86 or whatever seriously i need to know email me any ways. im bettin on the goat because you said one thing that caught my attention your sensetive. i bet when someone truely knows you you are loving and comassionate and caring and good. let me help you unleash these strengths. i may sound crazy but its 11:30 at night. what do you want.
I'm sorry to hear about your problem, is truly sounds painful. I've had clients who have told me about similar problems. Often I've found they have had experiences during childhood where their parents weren't very free with compliments or praise. Praise was often withheld, and offered only to coerce some sort of behavior from the child.
The child grows up with low self-esteem, trying desperately to elicit praise or compliments out of others so he or she will feel good about him/herself. When no one is around, or if praise isn't forthcoming, the child (and later, the adult) believes they are bad, a failure, and alone.
Common tactics for women with this sort of personality include dressing provocatively and highly flirtatious behavior. This often turns other females off, and holds the interest of males for only a short while. Every rejection feels like a confirmation of the woman's worst fear, that she is alone and unlovable. She then redoubles her efforts (becomes even more daring in dress and behavior), with even more disastrous results.
A psychologist trained in mood and personality disorders can help you find that "happy medium" between feeling compelled to draw attention to yourself, and losing those sparkling parts of your personality which make you unique, individual, and special.
well, you just have to be confident about yourself first.
be confident that you can change into the person you want to be.
cuz if you dont want to be that person and just stay the way you are, then you shouldnt stress yourself to change.
if you want to be the person that dosent want to be arrogant and conceited, you have to learn to put yourself aside at moments and care about others.
listen to what they are telling you and respect/appreciate the fact that they are telling you something.
but, it may not be just you. it could be the people you are around. You should ask them to help you because they are the closest ones.
if they dont help you, i guess they're just not friends you really need
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