Is there really karma (I didn't get a lot of answers so I'm posting this here also)?
My ex treated me pretty badly in the past, and I have broken all contact with him, but sometimes I still get angry that he basically got away with being emotionally abusive to me. I used to forgive him every time he did something wrong, and I'm afraid I let him trampled over my feelings too many times. I guess I am angry at myself for letting him do this to me for so long. In the end, I stopped talking to him because he insulted me and told me to go away... I still feel embarrassed even though I know that he was just a jerk and a liar. I feel stupid that I let my feelings for him overrule my self-respect. Sigh, I guess what I want to know is whether people like him would get what they deserve. I've thought about vengeance, but I realize that that would be emotionally harmful to me as well. I've tried forgetting about it because he's not worth my attention, but I feel this burning injustice which is hard to forget.
Answer:
I believe in Karma too.. You know thinking of bad thing happening to him should be enough for you. You hold you head up high, your better then him.. And let me tell you something that you should always remember. We say we allow people to abuse us because of our feelings. Well love is a choice, not something you catch.. Did you hear that.. love is a choice, so don't let anyone treat you in any way you don't want to be treated. If you allow that, then their future actions against you are your fault. So in the future, stand your ground, expect and demand respect. When your next boyfriend steps out of line, let him know your expectations of how he needs to treat you. Because your worth it..
Got it girl?
So no more being the victim to abusive jerks.
well im sorry that happened but dont worry he will get what he deserves and so will everybody else that did wrong....
yes there is
it just doesn't swing the way the hurt person wishes it to
if you're the hurt person, you'll never see anything resembling "justice"
pain is relative
you cant equate your personal pain with an others proposed suffering
learn from it, move on, get over it- you will.
time really does heal all wounds, believe me
right about the time you could care less what hes going through or if hes suffering
you'll hear he got attacked by a rabid dog
fell into the subway rails
OR contracted leprosy from a Tijuana whorehouse
Yes there is Karma. You get back what you put out.
There is also the law of attraction. You become what you think about.
i'm sorry for what happened but don't worry everyone gets what they deserve in the end
i sooo believe in karma! i believe people who are crappy have crappy things happen to them. problem is we may never know when that happens. also we cant be too happy when it does happen 'cause that wouldnt be good karma either. i had a rotten x as well, liar, cheater, all around bad guy. i put up with it because i loved him, so call me stupid if you want. since then i have met a wonderful guy, treats me well, loves me lots. the x has hooked up with a woman that treats him the way he treated me. karma? i think so. and as much as i hated him, i do feel bad for him 'cause i know how it feels. but i also think he asked for it.
Your question about Karma has nothing to do with what you have described except to the extent that some of the principles of karma may eventually work against him when his behavior begins to result in his being the victim of his own emotional brutality.
Karma is an ideal that says, in so many words, that you benefit from what you give..."it is better to give than receive" and what you have described is more about the fate of consequences which ultimately revisit a person who has done harm.
Forgive, but don't forget.
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Yes, there is karma. We're in school. Some of the bad things that happen to us are from things we've done to others. When we're in between physical lives, we design our next life based on the lessons we need to learn. Though there is free will, we choose our genes and put ourselves in with families / groups that will provide the necessary experiences. Your ex will go through all of the feelings he put you through...there is no escape.so don't feel like you have to get revenge. The train is on the track and he is tied to the track.
Some of the negative things that happen are lessons of another kind, like training for a job / experience later in life. What better way to help homeless people (who are traumatized) than to experience the trauma firsthand?
Many times, all kinds of things are thrown together in a grand design. Your ex chooses the experiences to teach him not to treat people the way he treated you, and it 'just happens' to be the exact training he needs for helping people that have been through what you have been through...later in his life. ♪♫
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Consider this. It could have been your karma to meet up with this guy and get abused by him. Perhaps you abused him in a previous life. See this experience as a lesson in your life. Just be thankful that he has taught you never to allow others to walk all over you in the name of love. Sometimes we need difficult situations to learn various lessons in our lives. It will take time to get over it, but you will get over it, if you want to. In the mean time absorb your mind in something that interests you.
Good luck! Try doing some yoga and/or meditation to calm you down
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I believe in Karma too.. You know thinking of bad thing happening to him should be enough for you. You hold you head up high, your better then him.. And let me tell you something that you should always remember. We say we allow people to abuse us because of our feelings. Well love is a choice, not something you catch.. Did you hear that.. love is a choice, so don't let anyone treat you in any way you don't want to be treated. If you allow that, then their future actions against you are your fault. So in the future, stand your ground, expect and demand respect. When your next boyfriend steps out of line, let him know your expectations of how he needs to treat you. Because your worth it..
Got it girl?
So no more being the victim to abusive jerks.
well im sorry that happened but dont worry he will get what he deserves and so will everybody else that did wrong....
yes there is
it just doesn't swing the way the hurt person wishes it to
if you're the hurt person, you'll never see anything resembling "justice"
pain is relative
you cant equate your personal pain with an others proposed suffering
learn from it, move on, get over it- you will.
time really does heal all wounds, believe me
right about the time you could care less what hes going through or if hes suffering
you'll hear he got attacked by a rabid dog
fell into the subway rails
OR contracted leprosy from a Tijuana whorehouse
Yes there is Karma. You get back what you put out.
There is also the law of attraction. You become what you think about.
i'm sorry for what happened but don't worry everyone gets what they deserve in the end
i sooo believe in karma! i believe people who are crappy have crappy things happen to them. problem is we may never know when that happens. also we cant be too happy when it does happen 'cause that wouldnt be good karma either. i had a rotten x as well, liar, cheater, all around bad guy. i put up with it because i loved him, so call me stupid if you want. since then i have met a wonderful guy, treats me well, loves me lots. the x has hooked up with a woman that treats him the way he treated me. karma? i think so. and as much as i hated him, i do feel bad for him 'cause i know how it feels. but i also think he asked for it.
Your question about Karma has nothing to do with what you have described except to the extent that some of the principles of karma may eventually work against him when his behavior begins to result in his being the victim of his own emotional brutality.
Karma is an ideal that says, in so many words, that you benefit from what you give..."it is better to give than receive" and what you have described is more about the fate of consequences which ultimately revisit a person who has done harm.
Forgive, but don't forget.
~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~
Yes, there is karma. We're in school. Some of the bad things that happen to us are from things we've done to others. When we're in between physical lives, we design our next life based on the lessons we need to learn. Though there is free will, we choose our genes and put ourselves in with families / groups that will provide the necessary experiences. Your ex will go through all of the feelings he put you through...there is no escape.so don't feel like you have to get revenge. The train is on the track and he is tied to the track.
Some of the negative things that happen are lessons of another kind, like training for a job / experience later in life. What better way to help homeless people (who are traumatized) than to experience the trauma firsthand?
Many times, all kinds of things are thrown together in a grand design. Your ex chooses the experiences to teach him not to treat people the way he treated you, and it 'just happens' to be the exact training he needs for helping people that have been through what you have been through...later in his life. ♪♫
~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~
Consider this. It could have been your karma to meet up with this guy and get abused by him. Perhaps you abused him in a previous life. See this experience as a lesson in your life. Just be thankful that he has taught you never to allow others to walk all over you in the name of love. Sometimes we need difficult situations to learn various lessons in our lives. It will take time to get over it, but you will get over it, if you want to. In the mean time absorb your mind in something that interests you.
Good luck! Try doing some yoga and/or meditation to calm you down
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