What causes tension in my whole family?
I live in a family of 2 younger brothers and my parents. We stay tenssed all the time. We don´t have the patient to answer each other´s simplest questions, we just start yelling and fighting. Why is it so? My father is the one the most problems, he cant control his anger at all and sometimes I think his behavioure causes all this tension in others...Is it really his fault of being a bad model for us or am I blaming him for our own actions? I am really concerned about our family please tell me what you think.
Answer:
ive seen this before, and truthfully its too much testorene and subliminal messaging, you dad has anger becuz he's insecure and trying to keep himself as an alpha male, its happen in my family, to many boys not enough girls, my wife's family is the exact opposite, three girls and one man no competiton almost no testorene
just have peace with them and then no one will be tensed.
There is so much back story I do not know. Your father could be angry all time because that is who he is. Or he could have had something happen to him early in life that changed him. It could be any number of things and he may have even repressed it so much that he doesn't know it himself. So I can't really do anything but tell you my own personal story.
My family was nutso for a period too. I almost killed myself because I couldn't take the tension. In the end though my parents went to counseling. So that is what I suggest. Try counseling. But first tell your family how you feel about the whole situation even if it does only lead to a bunch of yelling. At least you will have made your voice heard. The try counsenling, if not with the entire family, at least for yourself. You can contact social services to find free counseling. And if it is REALLY bad you can even have social services or child protection services legally charge your parents with verbal, emotional, and even psychological abuse that might shake them up. People often think of abuse as only being physical but it is not. Legally it is not either.
I had to do that to my girlfriend because she kept endangering my step-children by taking them with her to see the old drug addict boyfriend who was very verbally abusive and manipulative. Whenever the got back from one day with him, the kids were stressed out and emotionally wrecked for the next two weeks. But the threat of losing her kids made her shape up, though she did get furious at me first. But it's much better now and she is in therapy.
Well, I hope it all works out for your family. If not then you just have to remain strong and learn to let go, and not let the whole thing consume you as hard at it may be.
all it take is the prescence of one persons bad vibes to throw everyone off. hes set the foundation for your current living situation. tell him to leave. j/k.
This is your chance!You must start to con troll your self,Try for one incident for a day. Be paint. Always keep telling your self that "I am calm....I am not going to yell or fight
all these fighting are useless .
Always these fighters want to drag others to the scene ,If you can stay away or you can defeat all your father's attempts to get you for the fight , your calm and untroubled appearance will give them insight for the best
good luck
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Answer:
ive seen this before, and truthfully its too much testorene and subliminal messaging, you dad has anger becuz he's insecure and trying to keep himself as an alpha male, its happen in my family, to many boys not enough girls, my wife's family is the exact opposite, three girls and one man no competiton almost no testorene
just have peace with them and then no one will be tensed.
There is so much back story I do not know. Your father could be angry all time because that is who he is. Or he could have had something happen to him early in life that changed him. It could be any number of things and he may have even repressed it so much that he doesn't know it himself. So I can't really do anything but tell you my own personal story.
My family was nutso for a period too. I almost killed myself because I couldn't take the tension. In the end though my parents went to counseling. So that is what I suggest. Try counseling. But first tell your family how you feel about the whole situation even if it does only lead to a bunch of yelling. At least you will have made your voice heard. The try counsenling, if not with the entire family, at least for yourself. You can contact social services to find free counseling. And if it is REALLY bad you can even have social services or child protection services legally charge your parents with verbal, emotional, and even psychological abuse that might shake them up. People often think of abuse as only being physical but it is not. Legally it is not either.
I had to do that to my girlfriend because she kept endangering my step-children by taking them with her to see the old drug addict boyfriend who was very verbally abusive and manipulative. Whenever the got back from one day with him, the kids were stressed out and emotionally wrecked for the next two weeks. But the threat of losing her kids made her shape up, though she did get furious at me first. But it's much better now and she is in therapy.
Well, I hope it all works out for your family. If not then you just have to remain strong and learn to let go, and not let the whole thing consume you as hard at it may be.
all it take is the prescence of one persons bad vibes to throw everyone off. hes set the foundation for your current living situation. tell him to leave. j/k.
This is your chance!You must start to con troll your self,Try for one incident for a day. Be paint. Always keep telling your self that "I am calm....I am not going to yell or fight
all these fighting are useless .
Always these fighters want to drag others to the scene ,If you can stay away or you can defeat all your father's attempts to get you for the fight , your calm and untroubled appearance will give them insight for the best
good luck
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