Depression help? (Any advice but esp. people who have gone through it)?
What I mean by this is I'm a student, and whenever I am sitting in class, everybody around me seems to do things like shake their leg, cough, or sniffle at me because I find myself looking at the floor a lot and I guess they can read my lack of confidence and jump all over me for it.
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hi..what you need to do you have said it yourself is to just work on gainging confidence in yourself little by little.you can also talk to friends close ones and family about how you are feeling abt yourself and let them give you pointers on how to deal with it.it would be good to also look around for friends and not set yourself apart am sure there must be someone around you who has striked you as being a good approachable person.so just take the move and get to know them as they do you.that way you start making friends who will build you and viceversa.they say a human being is not an island and one cannot live alone.so you need to learn to interact with others and give everyone a chance,and if people pick on you esp in big groups ignore them.try to concentrate on the positives in your life and not only the negatives!!am sure there are many good things in your life.
should you need encouragement youc can also count on me to give you moral support!!ok good luck and let me know how it goes!
OK, Been there , done that.. You are experiencing an awful , terrible paranoia. You think people are after you, and them making noises etc, may well be aimed at you..People are cruel sometimes.. The only ways I came out of it, was to take my meds, go to counseling, and challenge myself out in public..I made myself go and place myself in the situations I dreaded the most. And my self confidence came back... When it's there it will show!! Good luck and keep on trucking!
Hay I don't have depression or anything but yeah I know how it feels when people realise you're not the most confident person ever (and i'm guessing your quite shy. ) and realise that you're an easy target and think that it makes them look big by getting you down.
My advice is to not think about what anyone else thinks of you, push any worries to the the back of your mind. Just say to yourself 'I don't care what anyone thinks'. Think that to yourself when you first get the worry. Think good about yourself (i'm not the best person to advise people on this lol) say to yourself 'your the best'. There is no need for modesty.
I hope this helps you. XD
If it doesn't maybe speak to someone who is an expert on helping people through this kinda stuff.
I had a similar problem in college.. I was pretty outgoing in High School, Track team, friends, parties and girlfriend. But in college I seemed to lose whatever knack I had for people and people around you can pick up on that, and usually they dont spare you much.
First of all, usually those people that are the rudest or attack others the most are those with the biggest esteem or insecurity issues. So my suggestion is to not take the slights that happen to you day to day very seriously. You have to have your "plan" in mind, go to school, study, get good grades, get into a graduate school, etc. Then other people will naturally see you doing this and be jealous and try to give you a hard time. Just ignore them and stick to your plan. You will undoubtedly come up with more creative ways of dealing with people like this as the years go by, and some ways are less nice than others, but ignoring someone and geniunely not caring what they have to say usually can defuse most would-be antagonizers pretty quickly.
My advice to you is to sort through what is most significant in your day and stick to it. Did you go to class and turn in a good homework assignment? Did you answer a question and impress your professor. Those are the important things, not what the idiot next to you is doing. If you did then you can pat yourself on the back knowing that that fool secretly is probably envious of you in one way or another.
Once you have a "plan", then you can build confidence in yourself by sticking to it come hell or high water. Persistence is a learned trait that will help you in your life time. Decide to do something significant, and ignore or defeat everything that wants to bring you down in the process. Then you will have the confidence you want. But there will always be people out there trying to "get your goat" whether you like it or not. The wrong attitude to take is that you are just going to avoid life because of it.
Also you are probably going through a time of finding out who you really are, and it is probably different than who you used to be. You are changing and unsure of yourself and thus more vulnerable. Rest assured that when everything is done you will probably be both better and stronger than before you started out.
My mom had depression and it was well-managed. Consult with a psychiatrist. Also remember that most people have issues about themselves, dont beat yourself up - dont believe the hype.
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