Exhausted ?
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when people interact with us in a way that has more to do with them initiating and trying to win games than it has to do with communication it can be totally exhausting! spotting what games are being played out by your co-worker could be useful here - try berne's 'games people play' (and that would be a GOOD book to take along if you take the other contributor's suggestion that you use one like a shield - a v good suggestion i thought)...but don't forget to think about your part in the game you are playing - every abuser NEEDS a victim...or what games you play that have nothing to do with your co-worker!
they say that ALL relationships are transferential - that we bring whatever our experiences of others have been up to that point to every new relationship...wondering what her projections onto you are...bet she's fighting with her mum or a sister really...and wondering about how that makes you react...you react to HER or to what the situation reminds YOU of?
Tell them the truth.
just take it easy, its not worth worring about, do what you are suppose to do and don't bother about anything else
Take a book with you, so you don't have to argue on your breaks. It will be to avoid her for a while if you reading a book, hopefully she will move on to someone else while your tied up reading.
Honestly If i were you you sanity is more important. Sometimes you just have to be blunt in a nice way of course. Tell him/ her in your own way exactly how you feel and nothing against her but to relax, you dont have to say it exactly how i am saying it but in your own way. Me personally am very blunt I dont let anyone put me down and thats your job and you got to be there make it as peaceful as possible for yourself.
For a short period of time take your lunch else where, like outside. When asked just say that you have to eat quickly because you have some things to do.
Eating outside will also help you out because of the fresh air and sun. Getting enough sun can be an important part of your health. It's give you that little bit of energy you need.
Good luck.
You may have an allergy at work or home? Flu like symptoms and exhaution is not a symptom of stress.
Are you sure that all what you have said only happens after your interaction with this certain co worker? If yes then listen to what I have to say.
We all intake and give out energies; both negative and positive; during the course of our interactions, dealings and work and actions.
Most of us do not realise that at the bottom of all our actions, are the activities of that type and kind of energy with which we have although interacted and dealt with earlier and soaked in, but which our body systems could neither release on their own nor could motivate and drive us to work hard to release them.
As a result ,these energies accumulate within and become the cause of effects as experienced by the self within the body, our behaviour and our actions.
Why this happens is due to lack of inner power and strength of immunity of the self within.
In your particular situation I feel that the energies which she lives with are those of the negative kinds, which your body is incapable of bearing within itself; very much like hers; except that she subconsciously and ignorently uses them to drive her self and her emotions.
It seems that like her, you too are weak within and lack emotional will power and firmness of resolve to firmly deal wih situations outside with the help of positive energies.
However in your case there seems to be a silver lining because unlike her, you are not only feeling the pinch within but also trying to find answers for seeking relief from same.
All energies belong to nature; whether positive or negative; and they can be had from nature only.It is however upto us whether we take it from pure and clear nature or from impure and unclear one.
Negative energies can be tackled best with only positive energies; which are essantially those of the pure and clear spirits of joy, love and compassion of nature; and which can be found only one hour before sunrise in green/ water areas and during prayer / worshipping times in religious places; when the fresh pure and clear energies operate.
While being there one can also perform activities of exersise ( yoga types preferably) or of service, charity (preferably during worshipping and prayer times with focus on god and for his self only)
I suggest that you take care of your own self; forget being with her, and work hard to make your own life a better one; especially by working hard to connect your self with pure and clear nature as mentioned above.
There can be many remidies for your problem; but knowing that all of them originate from those types and kinds of feelings, thoughts, and actions which have their origins in such type and kind of nature, mind, knowledge, intellect, consciousness, focus, ego, pride and egoisim; which may or may not be pure and clear is a wise thought to begin with.
Medicines can also help , but in a superficial way only.
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