How can I be an inconsiderate and assertive person?
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No, being bad is not an advantage, being a bit tougher is an advantage. You need to love and care for yourself and give to yourself as much as you do to others. Learn to say "No", its difficult but you feel so much better when you have done it a few times and I think people learn to stop taking advantage once they realize you are not always on hand for them to use and abuse.Tell yourself that you are a good person and if people don't see this it is their misfortune. Good luck.
can't help, I'm the same way
being bad is not an advantage. remain a kind and considerate person and good things will come to you.
Make a decision. Stand up straight, take a deep breath and go directly to a martial arts studio. Get in shape. Next time somebody tries to step on you, side step the attack and drop them.
you dont wanna be an incosiderate assertive person...cause they suck. any one who is your friend now will probably begin to dislike you if you change like that...yeah considerate and caring people seem kinda hard to find these days so dont become another one of those jerks.
It sounds like you just need some healthy boundaries. The world needs more considerate and caring people!
One place to start is if you are getting your feelings hurt all the time, you might be trusting other people with your feelings who simply do not deserve that kind of trust!
Shy, considerate, and caring are excellent characteristics to have.
I think you might be getting hurt because you are not discerning with those you allow into your "world." Also, some people need black/white boundaries or they will hurt you with out even realizing it.
Being bad is a blessing in disguise. It's also exhausting.
You want to be inconsiderate? Go kick someone's dog.
You want the respect and admiration of just about anybody who meets you? Stay right where you are and keep being beautiful. People are inconsiderate and overly-assertive because they couldn't figure out how to be like you, so they created a way to try to be 'better' than you by default.
They'll never be your equal, no matter how much they hurt you. And after the hurt feelings pass, you're back to being happy, and they are back to being envious.
Don't change. Please.
I'm the same way, that's why I've lost tons of money and wasted so much time worrying about uneccessary things that I'll never be able to change. Guys who use and abuse and have everything also have girls' attention and people like us get left to mingle. But don't ever wish you were an inconsiderate, careless person. They'll get theirs in the end.
Dont worry, sometimes i feel like me being too nice of a person makes people take advantage of me too. You dont gotta be bad to have an advantage. Just know your limits in being too nice cause it IS bad to be passive. Be sure to stand up for yourself when you know someone is doing TOO MUCH or else they'll keep doing the same things to you over and over again.
And i know this is corny but if you're a pisces then you're REALLLY meant to be that way.
Stay the way you are.
Do the exact opposite of every thing you would normally do.
I tried this because I am very timid when it comes to dating. It seems to be working.
one thing to change is the shyness . being considerate and assertive aren't bad qualities... shyness means you don't have self-confidence. this is something that's hard to work on, but, definitely fix-able... setting boundaries (and not letting people take advantage of you) is something you must learn as you grow. when you realize that your happiness is just as important as the other's. that you must take care of yourself to truly appreciate and take care of someone else, then you are on the path to self-discovery... read self-help books, assert yourself more (in a positive manner), join a book club or other type group of something that you are passionate about... this is your life... only you can write the pages it becomes!
You can't control others feelings or their actions. If your a nice person just accept as who you are and know that you are better than them. You should be true to yourself.if you're a nice person...then own it.
I don't think you really want to be a bad person, but maybe you are just resentful that you feel being good isn't taking you anywhere. You need to practice some assertiveness training. Pretend you are in a restaraunt, and someone brings you a steak done medium rare when you asked for well done. Pretend you are sending it back. Act out this skit with another person. Practice makes perfect.
be careful what you wish for.
You just keep on being like you are. And NO, being bad has no advantage at all----But YOU do! You'll do fine.
bettyk
hey, don't ever change yourself for anything or anyone - especially if you are a considerate and caring person! I think that what you need to learn to do is to build boundaries around things that are sensitive and close to you. Protect your vulnerable and soft sides carefully so others don't take advantage of your caring and considerate self. Take small steps and build your confidence and boundaries along the way. Good luck and continue being nice. We need more nice people in this world...
its courage. I have the same problem
I can understand you wanting to be assertive, which by the way is NOT a "bad" way to be! But, why would you want to be inconsiderate? Do you want people to hate you?
Write down all the good qualities you think you'd like to have, then work on creating your new image. Sounds to me like you're already off to a good start!
Simple. Booz hard and close your eyes at all matters that come your way.
you know what i use to be like you and i use to get my feeling hurt all the time by stupid kids and until one day that i said I'm stop and put my feet down I'm not getting hurt any more so u just have to get mad and get even u need 2 cause if u don't ull be step on and u don't want that I'm person that I'm nice and when u step on me once ur gone
so just thing u could do it and i know u can u just need alittle help and ur ready to be a B""""" so just think you could and go for it good luck..
never say i can't there is no mean for life, try to be more active gradually step by step . you must say that i am strong
am not weak . i know you can do it .if not send me to know to gether the steps .
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