What do you think about insecure people?
Now I'm beginning to realise that insecurity is all just about self-obsession. Do you generally find insecure people to be the most selfish? The people who are too wrapped up in what others think and their own shortcomings that they forget about other people's feelings, and think they are justified int reating them like crap.
Is being insecure ever an excuse to make your friends, family or lovers feel awful? What do you think?
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I think different people manifest their insecurity in different ways. If you are a good person, but insecure, then you will be good to people because you really care what they think of you. If you are basically an a-hole and insecure, then you will probably be mean to people, criticize and belittle them, etc to make yourself feel better.
I don't think we can justly correlate "insecurity" with a person's overall morals, social prowess, general personality traits, etc.
I know plenty of people who are insecure about themselves in one way or another but are wonderful people nonetheless. I also know people who really suck and I loathe who are insecure as well.
When a person is young, 25 & under and insecure, they simply need a boost of encouragement. Older adults who are insecure are usually in need of attention or pity.
In my opinion, I think being an insecure person is rooted from sometime in their life when they were hurt, or their trust was violated. I think it is wrong for an insecure person to be mean to others, if anything they should treat others as they would like to be treated. They need to remember that people are individuals, with their own way of thinking, and of doing things. They should give everyone a chance, not treat everyone like they were the person that hurt them in the past.
Being insecure means that you feel you must berate others in order to feel good about yourself. It is the epitome of self-obsorption.
Insecurities are generally all about a person - they are insecure because they don't feel good, smart, pretty, lovable, witty, kind, rich - take your pick or keep adding to the list. Some people will have one area of their life that they are insecure about; this is not uncommon and doesn't mean the person isn't nice, or that they are self-obsessed. For example, a person might feel insecure with their job - is the company going out of business, does the boss like them, etc. But this person could be very secure in other areas of their life. It is when a person is apparently insecure about everything in their life that they become self-obsessed; and out of this self-obsession they constantly look for approval from others, as though this somehow makes them worth something. You find this insecurity a lot among actors - the constant seeking of approval, needing to keep in the spotlight as though this somehow validates them as a person (my opinion only). It just reminds me of Sally Field, many years ago, when she received an award and all she could say was "you like me, you really like me" as though liking her acting equated with liking her as a person.
These are my opinions and observations only. I'm not a psychiatrist, just happy with who I am. And being insecure is not an excuse for making others unhappy - although insecure people don't necessarily do this intentionally.
An insecure person is someone who needs friends and people who love and care for them, they need to know that there are people who care for them and who love them, you could turn an insecure person into a confident human being if you make friends with one.
one of my staff in my working place always feel insecure in a competitive way, she needs to be the best, popular and envious if she couldn't have the same things that my department has. I find that she also selfish in sharing what she has...ideas but very vocal in boosting her self image.boastful.
Mind you..aggressiveness in getting what she wants is part of her trait...definitely no shyness or being shameful after that.
When she really get carried away and 'too much', she is usually been told off.no one deserves to be treated that way and she has a 'kiasu' complex.
Insecurity is a pessimistic self-concept. If I used those words right.
Most of the time, I think insecurity comes from people who were told what they believe in now about themselves, and that's the part when you'd say, "They just need confidence." But the people who's been told that they're fine and still believe that they're not good enough, that's self obsession. Sometimes you have to draw the line of where you think you're not good enough. I mean, if you have good health, not failing miserably at whatever you do, and don't have a crappy attitude towards life, then there's no reason to be insecure.
I'm insecure, but it's not because I think I do have faults. I know I have faults, and there are way too many for me to try fix all of them. Some insecure people would say that they're simply pointing out the truth, which would be my excuse as well, but it's true for some people.
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