How do I break the cycle of abuse?
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Have you thought of going to see a professional counsellor or other therapist? he or she will be able to help you break the cycle of abuse.
Wow, your name isn't Jess by chance is it? In all seriousness I could tell you quite a few things that you need to do to change but your ability to do them without reinforcement is a whole other issue. You need to seek out a counselor at University if you are in school or you need to seek professional help of a psychologist. You'll hear it a million times but if at your age you recognize it's wrong you're made an important step. If you can't stop the behavior you know is wrong it's going to require professional help. An answer on FunQA.com is not the way to go. See somebody before it's too late.
Well like most things the first step is to realize you have this problem. The second step i would take is to get support! There are places and support groups doctors ect that can help you over come your fear of turning out like your father! This is a pattern that is more common in families then you might think. Alot of times it goes on with out anyone knowing !You are a victim as was i at one time! You have the strength and power to change this! Admitting is the first step and you should be very proud of yourself! Seek support from specialist that deals with this type abuse you will feel better when you have support !
Well, first i think that you should try meditating. Try doing this in the evenings it is really relaxing.You do not have to cross your legs, just sit in a quiet place and try to think about the things you did that day and try to rate it as good or bad.
If you rate a bad try to improve on it. And if you did annoy or abuse anyone that day, try to apologize the next day or when next you see that person(if not right away). It is hard at first but it pays off in the long run.
Also try to listen to some light music. For example if you where listening to songs like "hate in your eyes" by chamillionaire, try to listen to songs like "teach me again" by Tina turner
sweetie go for help.you are crying out for help.your mom did not know what to do it is so sad,i am so sorry you had to go tru that.your dad is sick he also needs help .the good thing is you know you need help.if you do not get help you will be just like him.that why this things keep going on,because people are ashame of the things they do,thier anger gets out of controll,when you li ve in a house hold like that.you are so tense you dont know how to act,you are so sc ar ed.you will say something wrong.when you live that way its abuse.thank GOD YOU KNOW YOU NEED HELP.please get help.i am so proud of you for wanting help.GOD BLESS
The is no instant remedy for the damage you suffered. it takes hard work, patience and substantial investment.
by the way, you should remember that to some extent you are your abusive father.
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