Can some people not help themselves?

We dated, I still like her and she's told me she still likes me. Good, we can at least be civil in each other's company. However, she chose someone else, they are getting married. I'm happy if she's happy and all that but don't bother me with what's going on now etc. I'm looking for someone else. So what can you read into body language if anything? The last time we talked on our own she was tilting her head to one side when smiling, there was plenty of eye contact and then she kept pushing her chest out in my direction!! Warning sirens are going off in my head! I'll be where she is tomorrow and have to see what happens. When you're trying to stop thinking of a person in 'that way' and they are taken yet they act like they do when they're on the pull how are you supposed to think? Is this whole notion of body language being a key element in knowing whether someone likes you or not a load of garbage? Or can people just be like this subconsciously without it meaning anything? I'm lost!

Answer:
this is just my opinion...
it doesnt matter what her agenda is...you will run yourself silly trying to suss out other people...ok some things might be obvious...but that doesnt tell the whole story...

whats your agenda?...if you didnt still care about her or want her you wouldnt be writing and asking these questions...
so its more about you dealing with this, grief/loss or pride...
and let her go...you have a good attitude there already with "if she is happy then you are happy"...thats not easy and its quite rare..so i commend you for that.

let it go..i feel you are better off out of it...you seem to be more together then she is...even tho you might have feelings of wanting to protect her.even from herself..she has to learn...

as i say .none of the above is true...just my thoughts
One word "egotism"
sounds like she wants best of both worlds. although she is happy with someone she still wants you to want her as well
Simple she wants it all she thinks she has some kind of control over you , move on , she's teasing you
you have to let go, she's getting married. doesnt mean she's still not attracted to you and she may be the type of person who is delighted to have someone in the background that still loves her although she is marrying someone else. Avoid her and move on!
Although I can't be 100% certain, from what you've described, it sounds like she wants to see (consciously or subconsciously) if she can still attract you. She might have a few insecurities or she could be one of those that likes to yank people's chains or any number of other things. Being female, I do know that some girls/women do test an ex's reaction to a bit of flirting. Most of the time, they don't mean anything real by it. They just want to see if you still find them attractive. It's a confidence booster. I'm betting every time she thrust her chest out, she saw you noticing this and felt better about herself as a result.

Another possibilty is that she just fell into her old habits of how to act around you. It might not have been on purpose. Everyone has a certain mode of behavior they use for different people in their lives. Such as, you wouldn't use flirting when talking to your uncle nor would you be likely to call your friends "sir" or "maam" as you would to an esteemed family member or potential employer. Where this girl is concerned, she could have just adopted her previous method of behavior as she previously had when you were a couple, out of habit and without realizing it.

It is also possible that she's playing games with you. I can't be sure because of course I wasn't there, but you were and are probably the best judge of the reasons behind her actions. If you think she's playing games with you, my advice is stay away from her for a while. She could be the kind that wants her cake and to eat it too. If that's the case, she might be bad news and could hurt you in the end or cause some other mischief that you won't like.

My best estimate is she was just trying to see if you still found her attractive, if she could spark your interest. I wouldn't take anything she does (flirting wise) as anything serious. Maybe she's just playing for fun's sake, but maybe she's not.

One last thing. How much did she mention her finace? If she brought him up a lot in the context of getting married, then she might be innocent of anything sinister and just happy and letting it show. If she brought him up and bragged on him in a way that wasn't nice, or didn't mention him much at all, then she's most likely playing games with you. If you think that's what she's doing, be careful.

Anyway, I think the biggest question is how would you feel if she was seriously trying to get you to be attracted to her again? Would you want to date her again? Who decided to break up...you or her? She's engaged, so it sounds like she's moved on. Have you? No disrespect meant, but if she's still driving you crazy in some respects, there may be some latent emotions clouding the issues you're dealing with.good or bad, I can't tell from your words, but I hope it clears up soon.

I know that's not a straight answer and I'm sorry for that, but I hope something here helps you figure things out. Good luck getting it all sorted out..

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