Disparity in personality tests about social skills?
When most of the personality tests say that I'm supposedly a very social person, but I don't really socialize, what does that mean?
The tests say that I'm the type who would often have lots of friends, etc. However, in reality, I have almost no friends and do not socialize. Additionally, I tend to avoid many social events.
What does this mean? Does it simply mean that I'm seriously lacking in social skills but would socialize lots more if I have them?
Answer:
Firstly, I am not going to assume that you did your personality tests online. Online tests are NEVER empirically credible in the first place. I am assuming that the tests you took were well validated and are credible in terms of what they are set out to measure.
Now, personality tests, or any single psychological test for that matter, cannot be taken at face value. Results obtained need to be interpreted amidst the context of the person taking the test, as well as other results obtained via other psychological tests.
That is why it is common for people to feel that certain tests are not accurate. In fact, they don't tell you what or how you are, they tell you that there are signs and potential that you have certain characteristics.
Dude. Who ever said that personality tests online are actually accurate? Some random person just made that test upp.
Most likely what it means is you aren't answering the questions honestly.
Often times who you are online isn't really a reflection of who you are outside of the internet. Online, we see ourselves as how we truly want to be, which isn't necessarily how we are in real life. Sometimes even the most shy of people in school can be the most outgoing person you'll ever meet online.
Simply put, outside of the internet our personality isn't just a reflection of who we are, it is also a reflection of how we perceive that others think of us. Because of this, if our self-esteem isn't the greatest or if we have been in situations in the past that make us timid in the present, that alters our personality dramatically. However, online none of that is taken into affect. We are who we want to be, because we aren't being stereotyped by those who know us.
It's not that your lacking in social skills. It's that a personality test online shows who we are ideally. Real life shows us who we are when you lump together our own views of ourselves with the experiences of our past and present.
It is very difficult to socialize these days due to the increasing constraints our cultural lifestyle present to us in the guise of "choices." You may be social but you are not stupid and you are simply avoiding what you probably should avoid and just need a few ideas as alternatives. It really is possible that the social situations that have presented themselves to you so far were simply unattractive to you and that's okay. You are probably perfectly sane and healthy-minded, but social pressure tends to evoke a response in us of internalization; that is, blaming ourselves when we are not fitting in.
My suggestion is to join clubs or groups where you can meet people that are passionately interested in the things you are. It seems like a good start. And it is important to make yourself do it if you are still feeling shy because it is always a brief hump of anxiety for anyone before walking into a room with a group. But once you get going it is easy. This is much better than the retarded relationships we get into at work or on the Internet.
I sat down and went thru all the questions you have asked since march.
You need a male role model. period.
Join boys scouts.. get a big brother ,
see the boys dean at school
or go to a Minister,Rabbi or Priest.
You will not get more socialized by peering into what we think about you on FunQA.com
anyone that reads your questions will see you are lonesome (we all get that way,so its OK for awhile but not as long as you are showing) and need a dad figure to guide you. You are asking very smart questions and If I were a dad I would be proud to have you for a son. and because you are smart I expect you will do what I have suggested. Don't ever be afraid to ask an adult for help. If you get turned away... ask someone else. I am pushing you as hard as I can... but I am just a person at a computer. now go get real life help.
I care.
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The tests say that I'm the type who would often have lots of friends, etc. However, in reality, I have almost no friends and do not socialize. Additionally, I tend to avoid many social events.
What does this mean? Does it simply mean that I'm seriously lacking in social skills but would socialize lots more if I have them?
Answer:
Firstly, I am not going to assume that you did your personality tests online. Online tests are NEVER empirically credible in the first place. I am assuming that the tests you took were well validated and are credible in terms of what they are set out to measure.
Now, personality tests, or any single psychological test for that matter, cannot be taken at face value. Results obtained need to be interpreted amidst the context of the person taking the test, as well as other results obtained via other psychological tests.
That is why it is common for people to feel that certain tests are not accurate. In fact, they don't tell you what or how you are, they tell you that there are signs and potential that you have certain characteristics.
Dude. Who ever said that personality tests online are actually accurate? Some random person just made that test upp.
Most likely what it means is you aren't answering the questions honestly.
Often times who you are online isn't really a reflection of who you are outside of the internet. Online, we see ourselves as how we truly want to be, which isn't necessarily how we are in real life. Sometimes even the most shy of people in school can be the most outgoing person you'll ever meet online.
Simply put, outside of the internet our personality isn't just a reflection of who we are, it is also a reflection of how we perceive that others think of us. Because of this, if our self-esteem isn't the greatest or if we have been in situations in the past that make us timid in the present, that alters our personality dramatically. However, online none of that is taken into affect. We are who we want to be, because we aren't being stereotyped by those who know us.
It's not that your lacking in social skills. It's that a personality test online shows who we are ideally. Real life shows us who we are when you lump together our own views of ourselves with the experiences of our past and present.
It is very difficult to socialize these days due to the increasing constraints our cultural lifestyle present to us in the guise of "choices." You may be social but you are not stupid and you are simply avoiding what you probably should avoid and just need a few ideas as alternatives. It really is possible that the social situations that have presented themselves to you so far were simply unattractive to you and that's okay. You are probably perfectly sane and healthy-minded, but social pressure tends to evoke a response in us of internalization; that is, blaming ourselves when we are not fitting in.
My suggestion is to join clubs or groups where you can meet people that are passionately interested in the things you are. It seems like a good start. And it is important to make yourself do it if you are still feeling shy because it is always a brief hump of anxiety for anyone before walking into a room with a group. But once you get going it is easy. This is much better than the retarded relationships we get into at work or on the Internet.
I sat down and went thru all the questions you have asked since march.
You need a male role model. period.
Join boys scouts.. get a big brother ,
see the boys dean at school
or go to a Minister,Rabbi or Priest.
You will not get more socialized by peering into what we think about you on FunQA.com
anyone that reads your questions will see you are lonesome (we all get that way,so its OK for awhile but not as long as you are showing) and need a dad figure to guide you. You are asking very smart questions and If I were a dad I would be proud to have you for a son. and because you are smart I expect you will do what I have suggested. Don't ever be afraid to ask an adult for help. If you get turned away... ask someone else. I am pushing you as hard as I can... but I am just a person at a computer. now go get real life help.
I care.
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