What should we do with this type of people?
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Sometimes, there is nothing you CAN do with people that take and take and are unwilling to reciprocate when it's time for them to help you.
It is natural to get angry, but it is good that you let it go and CHOOSE to not let it bother you.
If they need help again, point out to them, in a nice way, that they didn't help you the last time you needed help, and then help them anyway. This should make them feel guilty, without ruining the work relationship.
If they CONTINUE to take advantage of you, then its okay to ignore them when they next need your help. Maybe this will get the point across.
make friend with them maybe later they'll change after they get to know you
I have the same problem ,
ok listen
some people help each other like you
some dont help to help
some people help those who onley helped them
so dont help as much as you used to so people stop asking to help them
then eventually they get irritated .when they do ask them to help you ,then they will
and then they see how it feels
It helped for me .?
Everyone mostly thinks about themselves, and what they would get out of helping people. You shouldn't be friends with people like that, and you should continue to help as many people as you are able to. Don't just offer your help if you know you would be going out of your way to do it. The people really trying to make a difference in their lives will offer their help to you, because ego is also a big part for the emotional brain.
Pick and choose carefully what type of help you ask for and what type you offer. When offering help, see to it that you are not interfering with the other person. And when asking for help see to it that the help you are asking for is really needed. And you also want to make sure that the other person is not waiting for you to do the "ground work" before they can join.
By focusing on your self, you will fine tune your perceptions of what is and what is not helpfull. This will, in turn, enable you to evaluate better who is, and who is not, really helpfull. You can then make alliances with those who are, and ignore those who are not.
I have a similar problem. In my case, I get angry because I ask people to help me, they say yes, then never follow thru. But it is my problem , because I kinda put them in a silent tit-for-tat situation, where I help them alot in areas of my expertise, but then I ask for help... in areas that are not their expertise. Some of these people will help me, if it is very easy for them.
On the other hand, I have some friends who work hard to help me when I ask for help, when they are able. When I have a choice of which people to spend my time with, I chose the ones who try to cooperate,rather than exploit... But I do spend a little time, allowing the exploitors to use me to get their work done... But I've learned not to sacrifice my work, for the sake of their work... and sometimes I tell them that I have a deadline (that conlicts with their deadline), and that if they can help me complete (!) my task, as soon as we are finished, we can work on theirs...
If you are going to assume this responsibility, your compensation should be greater, (talk with your supervisor). He should be aware of the situation. If not making him aware, will at least cause adjustments.
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