How do i handle this this ? how do i get this out of my head?
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NEVER leave yourself alone with him.
Lonely. Desperate. There was no need for him to any of that.
Tell him to back off and that you do not want that type of friendship.
Call the police - you'e been sexually assaulted.
He is not a friend if he makes u feel disturbed and upset. Have no more to do with him.
This is WAY out of line !
His "depression" is absolutely NO excuse for a blatant misconduct of this nature ! He was attempting to "use you" as a remedy for his situation ! Conduct of this sort can only be seen as a major indicator of a sincere character flaw and YOU should stay well clear of this person !!
First of all my grievances go out to you I am sorry that this had to happen and now you have to deal with the post-traumatic stress. First like the gentlemen before me said call the authorites. You will probably be disturbed which is what the human mind tends to do after such a traumatic event. I would just try to not develop a phobia after what had happened. Remember that not all men are like this, but don't get non-cautious. I wish I could tell you exactly what to do. When it comes into your mind I would try to rationally reflect on what happened. However, I am not a qualified expert when it comes to this. I will pray for you.
Hello,
(ANS) Your friend is probably both upset and very confused at the moment, is going through a difficult patch in his marriage. He's turned to you for support and emotional comfort as someone he feels safe with, your someone he can confide in about his problems.
Having let out his true feelings, he probably felt he could be intimate with you, meaning sharing feelings does bring people together in difficult circumstances.
However, he is confused because he still obviously fancies (desires) you, and seeing his vulnerability perhaps he thought sex was possible or on the agenda.
**Sex can be confused with comfort, I can see why he might have confused the two things but they are very different issues entirely in my opinion.
**The way he behaved was confusing because it sounded like his advances were actually inappropriate under the circumstances.
**He should have taken his feelings to his wife and shared them with her instead and that would have helped heal the rift. And brought them both closer, his erotic feelings or need for comfort would have been better if they had been expressed with his wife instead of you. (no disrespect).
**Don't feel badly about yourself because it sounds like you did nothing wrong or anything to be shamed of.
**I'm NOT at all surprised you feel rather mixed up by what took place, if he was confused then he's left you with some of that same confusion if that makes sense. He's left you with VERY mixed confusing messages about his relationship with you too, he's clearly confused about his marriage too.
Ivan
your friend is now married and so if he feels that things are falling apart, he can if he so choices talk to other people, he is not alone
he is also looking for a mother to solve his problems or try too, when he should be looking for a counselor
last but not in the least, his behavior to you was one inappropriate, manipulative, and selfish.
how do you get it out of your head, tell him or write yourself a letter to express how you felt, burn it, if then you want to do something about it, report it, forget it. or just move on you can
You did not resist. This shows your approval. Why are you disturbed then? You better ask yourself.
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