Would yu hate this person?
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she must be in her teens or really early 20's. What I would do whould be the same as what my father did to me and had me join the military. That way you travel and get paided to see the world.
i would be confused.
never hate .pray for that person
i would say think about someone besides your self and be relistic and just say well you dident
That would hurt my feelings VERY badly. I honestly don't know what I'd do with myself it would hurt so bad.
I'd think that the last 6 months have been pretty unbearable for both of you and that she's done something about it.
Well, I think she isn't very comfortable at home, and has a whiny attitude.
That is no reason to hate.
Sorry, but she sounds childish.
I do not hate anybody.
Hate is a useless emotion and waste of your precious energy.
Let it go.
You can do nothing about it.
Time changes everything.
In time you will both look back on that time and laugh or cry.
Just move on from thinking these thoughts.
I could write on and on.but the truth is quite simple : She needs a reality check!
Sounds like she has a love interest over there to me. IMO I think she was just setting you up to go back anyway. She just doesn't want you to know about the "other" person in her life. Maybe she was trying to guilt-trip (i.e. con job) you into financing it too... Oh crap... you did didn't you?
Any way it sounds like you don't have a good communications relationship with your daughter. Sounds like she feels you would object to her choice of lovers? Why would that be? Could it be she found another woman (i.e. lesbian)? Another man of different race/ethnicity/religion? I'm only telling you what I think. Need more data to be more accurate...
I would have refused to listen to it for 6mo You can be compassionate and state you are disturbed that she is not happy and use reflective listening to acknowledge her feelings Try not to advise unless she specifically asks and then only do it in terms of the pluses and minuses of each choice then even then you could get caught up in it so beware Listen talk little
After that I would back off.
I would be direct w her and state that you cannot handle all the complaining so if she cant say sthing nice to keep quiet I wouldn't offer her my home to visit next time just visit her when she can promise to be in a good mood Learn about how to talk to complainers there is a way to diffuse it you mustn't suggest anything or try to make them feel better Ho w they get their energy is by draining yours and getting you to participate in the constant"make me feel better while I do nothing"-refuse Change subject Move on Leave the area State you have something to do important
Heck yeah! Sorta.if I did a good enough job of raising my daughter that she can be that much in empowered. Then you did well. Sometimes even the best of daughters, when they know they are being contrary, take it out on the ones who taught them better. You went from singular to mutiple there so you leave no room to answer.Are these the people she went over there with in the first place? Meanwhile, I would want to give her a swift kick in the dignity, just for my own feelings. Then I would wish her the best. Part of growing up is picking your battles, I know you feel lonely now, but isn't it peaceful? Wait till she calls you and cries "Mommy send money I'm coming home, I'm so..", You'll be having horrid flashbacks before you make arrangements. Lol
Meanwhile, If you are a young person that treats your parents thisa way?.pffft...good luck with that Karma thing~
I am sorry to hear that your daughter did not consider your feelings and the feelings of her friends here in the USA. I hope she outgrows her selfishness.
If she is over 18 and she has her own money, let her go back overseas. If you are paying for it, stop payment immediately.
Again, I am sorry what your daughter did to you, but please forgive her. What if she marries someone overseas?
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