How would this affect me,if at all,years later?
It wasn't sexual abuse,per say,but made me very confused and uncomfortable.He even asked my mom to have my brother and I come to school early each day--we walked to school--to help set things up in the cafeteria.My brother did all the work while I was 'called away'.
I've had depression and relationship problems almost all of my adult life.Could these actions all those years ago still have an affect on me?
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Yes.definitely. It is very brave of you for sharing your experiences here and is a sign that you are able to begin dealing with what has happened. Get some professional assistance to work through it and you will be well on your way to resolving current relationship problems/depression etc.
Best wishes.
Yes, you shold find some counselling to help you understand and deal with this issue. It was sexual abuse.
I would see a counselor about this. There are many different things with relationships that can be thrown off by an abuse of power when you are a child. Don't be too concerned, though. Relationships are not always easy, but it will most likely help to talk about how you felt (in the most truthful sense) with a trusted therapist.
Keep your chin up and look to the future! You are alive and well, you have four children (which some people cannot do, when they would like to), and you are ready to let this go, I am assuming. Sometimes you can find solace in getting some things off your chest which have bothered you for a long time.
Good luck, and if you need immediate help, try talking to God, if that helps.
Absolutely it could affect you. Sounds like he made you feel as if you were an object to him and not a valued person. I'm sure being a student and him being a teacher, no one would have believed you and that along would have been damaging. Have you ever talked to a counsellor about this? Sounds like you really need someone to process it with.
By the way- I was 5'10" when I was 12 as well.
He abused his position, took advantage of you and made you do things you didn't want to do. His actions could have been worse and I'm so glad that they weren't but you can't quantify the effect this has had on you by telling yourself it wasn't as bad as it could have been. Take care Sunshine. You owe it to yourself and your family to get some closure. x
I answered the same question and it did the same to me. You're being much braver. :)
i would say yes b/c u were a minor and he wasn't and that's a sexual abuse or something like that but yea it would affect u
*hugs* That sounds horrible. =/ A friend of mine was sexually abused and I've been through depression, too, and it sounds like you have been affected by it. Do you repeatedly think of these situations? Does it affect the way you approach men/teachers? :) Well, I would definitely recommend talking to professional therapist about it, because it really helps to get it out (it sounds cliched, but it's true). I hope things get better with you. :)
As many people have said before me, please seek councling. Sexual abuse doesnt have to be intercourse, what he did WAS sexual abuse and its good that you are talking about it. your depression and problems could very well be the result of the abuse, please, for your own good, seek help and advice. I hope the best for you.
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