Low self esteem!?
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Babe I bet you're gorgeous. I bet it's just your mind that's telling you all these negative things, not your reflection. If you believe you are beautiful, then so will everyone else, if you believe you're not then...
And it is so true that a smile and genuine happiness is the most attractive feature of all in a person.
There are two girls on the dancefloor, one is good looking, she is dancing, shaking her booty, big wide smile on her face, laughing and joking.. obviously having a great time, the other is average looking, she is fidgeting, looking down, and then looking around nervously and shly to see who is looking at her.. which girl is the guys most likely to be attracted to?? yeah you got it! And another thing hun, there is no-one out there who thinks they are perfect, we all have our insecurities and flaws, and the odd flaw in a person is beautiful, it is a characteristic of that person. You just have to accept who you are and how you look, and learn to love it. Don't waste your beauty years and your fun years, coz you know what, before long you will begin to age and get wrinkles and lots af responsibilities and so you will hardly ever be able to go out to enjoy yourself and show yourself off.
Best of luck honey xxx
Do something positive that will correct your view of yourself..
If you feel you are fat where do get this impression fact or fiction? If its fact then diet and eat healthily...
Look at youself in the mirror and study your face which bits you like and dont like ...is it society saying you are ugly or just you...whats the truth...I think everyone is human and so will others..
The biggest problem when you are with people is not your fat or ugly but if you dont smile...
hard to say without knowing what you look like
theres nothing more attractive though than a girl whos always smiling and laughing
Mind over matter. If you dont mind, it doesnt matter. If you think people look at you funny or talking about you just imagine what it would be like to have a lime on your head.
Yikes! That stinks that you think people are looking and laughing at you. I'm sure they are not. Most people are too wrapped up in themselves to notice other people so don't worry about that. Dress how you feel comfortable because you will be more confident and it will show. You might want to talk with a counselor or other professional about your lack of self esteem. You could be missing out on a lot if you feel others are laughing at you.
It really is only in your own mind. Its your own frame of mind that needs to change. I had a similar frame of mind based around my working career, I was never good enough, couldnt imagine myself being successful etc. I always put myself down. This went on for years and at one point I got very low. You have to somehow snap yourself out of it, as hard as that may sound. Go to drama classes or something were you get used to being in front of people and being in the limelight. It will help your confidence. When online, look up motivational sayings or pictures etc, I find they help.
I know the feeling. Ever seen I had my baby 8 months ago, I have been able to lose the weight and I've been getting really tired. My Boyfriend tells me everyday that I'm fat and lazy, he doesn't even want to kiss me anymore let alone have sex with me. Before I was pregnant I was doing modelling and was a size 10 (uk), now I'm a size 14 and have very low self esteem, I paid a photographer to photograph me, the pictures were good but I just hate my body, my boobs are size 34F and my stomach is so fat, I hate going out to bars with my friends because I look like a beach whale, I do have nice long legs and skinny arms but ever thing else is fat.
The more my boyfriend slags me off, the more I seem to comfort eat. Some people say I don't even look as though I have just had a baby but I think they are just saying that to be nice. I really do hate myself at the moment....
You should hire a photographer and get some pictures done because they really boost your confidence...well it works for most people just not me because there is no hope for me.
What happened that changed you own point of view about yourself? Try to think back to around the time you started feeling this way. What concerns me is that at one time, you didn't care what others thought. So, what changed? It is easy for others to tell you to do something to build yourself back up or to start excercising, however, ifyou don't know why things started to bother you when they did not before, then you can't fix it.
Several years ago, I was held-up at gun point. Before that incident, I had no fear of going places and doing things after dark. Now, when people are walking close behind me, I am startled and start to freak out. I have had to retrain myself not to be "a victim".
Long story short, start at what may have caused the self-esteen download and work your way back up from there. We love you and think you are beautiful!
what i have found is its practice...
do it gently..and not far from home
gently remind yourself that it doesnt matter what people thnk of you...only what you think of you..
there is no way you are going to be liked by everyone on this planet just as you cant like everyone either.
have you got friends that do like you for who you are..if you havent then its more difficult for you to do alone
i wish you luck
and its what your heart says that matters not what you look like!!
Awww bless you! :-)
I know you've probably had a dozen and a half people saying to you 'Its the inside that counts' and that's probably the last thing you want to hear BUT..they are right!
Let people love you for you! You have said that you know you are not fat and ugly, so you have nothing to be worried about! We all have insecurities from time to time, and believe me I have millions!
I've let my insecurities restrict me from doing things that I love for example, drama. I would hate for that to be the same for you!
Put up the link of the photo, people will be glad to give you honest feedback! People are probably looking at you either A) Because they can see your fear or B) Because your actually quite pretty!
Remember the people you walk past in the street, your most likely never going to see again! Their opinion shouldn't matter to you. Not meaning to be harsh, but look at everybody when you go out - you'll see that this world cannot be full of David Beckham's and Angelina Jolie's!
Be proud of who you are! Remember, there are lots of self-confidence courses out there! Or you could try surgery? Joke! OK, not the best time for jokes, but I'm trying to make you smile! :-) I'll just shut up!
Take care, let the rain wash your worries away..x Best of luck! I hope a star will cheer you up!
I have a similar problem. I got teased, ridiculed, dehumanized, etc. in school and I became so self-conscious that I just stopped going anywhere. I finally made a decision to get back out there and the more I exposure I had around people the less I worried about my appearance and what people might be thinking. There will be people out there that will try to ruffle your feathers, but more than likely there's something about themselves they are worried about and will torment other people to take the attention away from their own shortcomings. I've been out of school for more than ten years, yet I often find myself worrying about what people are thinking of me. I still get out though, and I think it's made a better person out of me. Go by this saying, "What doesn't kill you will only make you stronger". Now, get out there and stop criticizing yourself!
I remember myself in this situation and I know it's hard.
I think you should occupy you mind with something else except of analyzing what the others might have thought about you. Find a hobby or learn to play a musical instrument or anything that can keep your mind away.
Trying to guess what the others think about you will get you nowhere,just don't care and close yourself a little.And remember someday all this will be a bad memory.
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