I have extremely low self esteem?
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I think the problem is that you put too much of your self esteem in the superficial idea that looks are what's important about a person. I mean, what's more important about me, my looks or who I am and what I do for others?
I mean, it does suck that you feel that you don't measure up. But who says you're accurate? Maybe there are people that are into you but you feel that no one can be into you and as a result, you think they aren't even when they are.
Look, you don't want to be with anyone that is just with you for your looks either. The reason? When there is someone who is more attractive, then they leave. However, when someone gets with you because who you are, there isn't anyone quite like you.
Good luck. You can overcome this. Just don't buy into the crap ideas sold on TV. Looks are important there so that they could sell stuff. But it isn't like people really like the attractive people for who they are, just what they represent.
So basically, you have to stop putting your value in looks and also, don't overly value people based on thier looks. Look at the heart and others will start to look at yours.
self esteem is so complex its not something that make up is going to fix and no, you're not mental. however esteem comes from knowing thyself and loving it as you are. It probably doesnt make a lot of sense to you right now and youre probably going "well how do i do THAT?" well it takes a LOT Of work and you sound pretty young. You may just be depressed. Anyways - email me if you need more info. happy to help as much as i can but buzzwords are only that - words
you should try to get out sometimes and watch good movies like the Holiday or I now pronouce you Chuck and larry( for the getting out part). you are pretty no one is ugly unless they make themselfs. and don't think about what people would say 'bout you!.
first think about all of your good qualities and then work on the ones you dont like. use make up very sparingly, get you a good hair style and know that you have as much to offfer society as anybody else does and know that you have to like yourself because God made you so you have to love what God created! you are worth loving!
Long story short, I had horribly low self esteem for years... It was affecting my life, job, and even my physical health. I found hpnotherapy. One session changed everthing for me. They say that change occurs within 6 sessions or less. I can honestly tell you that I now love my body, my mind, and myself. You shoud see a hpnotherapist for your first session. They after you can learn self hypnosis as well. Try it. It really works. I promise.
You can try googling topics regarding self-esteem, read as many articles as you can about helping yourself. List down the ways you can do that for yourself. Then carry them out one by one. When you are completely sure that you've been successful in overcoming the task, take on the next one.
& ofcourse if all else fails, you've got the professionals that can help. I'm sure it works well.
Good luck! :)
get a life. see a phycologist. get a hobby. think about yer hi and low points of life.focus on the high ones!
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