Self-hatred, self-acceptance??
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Well I don't think self hatred and self acceptance are the same issue, they are more opposite than the same.Self hatred usually starts when we are young and as a baby were not loved enough, didn't have their needs met, or/and were abused as a child. When a baby is dependent on their parents for love and support that was not fulfilled then they will grow up feeling insecure, needy and have low self esteem. Also when they get a little older if they are taught to be judgemental of themselves (usually from fear of being punished) it will be very difficult for them to forgive themselves for mistakes and when they are too old to be be punished by their parents, they can get so much guilt built up that they can feel the need to punish themselves (just like the parents used to do).
Self acceptance can be a very difficult thing to do because it takes a lot of work to undo all the years of damage that was caused by the neglect and physical punishment. Being able to forgive yourself for mistakes that you make (this is really more like fear of being hit for making a mistake), but since it started when they were a baby they had all of these years to just reinforce this and that fear will make you hate yourself, to the point of feeling you don't deserve to live because you are too afraid that you are just in the way, bothering people, or like a failure. There is also abandement and betrayal issues, and the innability to trust other people because if you can't trust your own mother you don't really develop that skill and it seems nearly impossiable to comprehend how to get close to someone.
The wores part is people often go through life never figureing out where it started from or how to fix the problem. most of the time the parents will put their children on anti-depressants that is what mine did. Oh by the way this is only one way of looking at it and I hope I didn't get too off topic, I am better at explaining self hatred than acceptance as that is what I am still trying to figure out, I can only write from my experience and that is as far as I have gotten.
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