I was a premature baby, PLEASE READ?
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To me you sound depressed. I don't know if it is because you are a premie or if there is something else going on. Perhaps a counselor could help you work through this and give you advice on how to handle the problems you are having. Also a doctor may be able to prescribe some anti-depressants for you that could help some. I think it is cool that you are trying to take the initiative and look for answers to your problems. Best of luck to you. This is my way of answering. Hope it helps.
Knowing the fact that you're premature could encourage bad 'behaviours' such as laziness or impatience. However, all these aspects are part of a person's personality as no one is perfect. Being born premature could result in many other things, including how you were treated as a baby and what medication you were on, etc. I've not heard of any causes from prematurity however if you are concerned with certain habits you'll always have the ability to change them. Simply recognising and accepting bad behaviours is a step towards a degenerate personality. Work on your weaknesses and become a better person, no matter how premature you are :P I know it sounds strange, but working towards a set goal can really work wonders.
That has nothing to do with being premature. It's all about being 16. Your hormones are starting to kick in, your body is growing, and changing. Slow down and take a breath. You surely love your family and they love you. It's takes some maturity to realize your parents worry about a 16 yr. old girl and only have your best interests at heart. This will pass.
Certainly, there may be continuing conditions that must be identified and dealt with carefully so that it is understood that a positive outcome will result. This may lead to counseling. Acceptance that these conditions may exist;and explain the tendencies for these behaviors, but are not excuses for behavior. There may be many others reasons for your behavior that are not associated with your pre-birth and early birth experiences. At 16, not many children have a picture perfect relationship with their parents and family members. You may want to enlist the assistance of a developmental psychologist. This type of professional has the information you and your parents may be looking for and may provide guidelines to help you and your family during these trying years.
It's true that premature babies can be a little behind others of their own ages, especially socially and physically. This matters most when they are very young. At young ages even a month or two can make a difference in a child's abilities. There may be other psychological, socialogical and physiological ramifications...
HOWEVER, it does sound like you are looking for reasons to excuse your behaviors. I'm not saying you are, just that it appears you might be. Think about it, and ask yourself if this is what you are doing.
Some of the things you describe are just natural results of your age... not getting along with parents, temper flares, laziness. all are things you can likely overcome. Adolescense can be a very trying time and every teen experiences what you are talking about, in varying degrees.
I'd suggest you talk to a school counselor, or some adult you feel you can honestly trust and respect to give you honest and wise answers... how about a grandparent, either yours or someone else's.
I'm not a professional in regards to this matter, but I have lived almost 55 years now, and I've learned some things. I doubt that your problems are as much a result of your premature birth, as other things.
I hope you find some help with all the things you need, Lili
Here are a couple of sites you can check out.
http://www.drgreene.com/21_905.htm...
http://www.prematurity.org/research/prem...
But frankly, you don't sound a whole lot different from most adolescents. The changes in hormones brought on by puberty can make you emotionally changeable, anxious, agitated, depressed, etc. Sibling rivalry exists everywhere and at all ages. Most teenagers don't get along with their parents. That's your job at that age. You are learning to break away and develop your own independent self. Some people are smart enough to use the resources of their parents' experiences, most are not. Laziness can be a sign of the extra energy that's being used up by the body in the growth spurts of this age. Or, if you look really closely, you may find that you are lazy only as applied to things you don't want to do but have plenty of energy for the things you do want!
But the real core of your question is this: What can you do about it if that is the cause of your problems? You can't go back and be reborn later. What counts is what you do now.
Snoop, low birth weight babies do have more problems than their higher birth weight sibblings, but being bad tempered or insensitive is not one of the problems. Actually 3 pounds is not normally life threatening. Younger children tend to be more self absorbed & immature than their older sibblings & all teens must try to assert their competence while still incompetent. Now if you were telling me you had health problems or learning disabilities, I would conclude that might have something to do with your low birth weight.
Having raised 7.5 children I've concluded it is natural for them to have self doubts & conclude parents are either idiots or hate them when those hormones start to kick in. Chuckle, lazy people are responsible for most of our labor saving inventions. Hang in there, your parents will get a lot wiser as you grow older.
I don't know that being premature is why you have your problems but I would say there because of other reasons. I have an 11 year old daughter that was 3 months premature wieghing in at 2lbs. 4 oz. and 10 inces long. She has cerebral Palsy because of it. Other than that shes o.k. Shes very loving and affectionate and not at all angry or insensitive.
to be a premature children does not to do with your temper or lazy.On your age of 16years try to avoid to listen what your parents wants.maybe your parents are very busy at their job and they don`t have any time to show their love for you.so therefore you ignored them.your parents tried to have a communications with you but you show not interested or go away or else lots of excuses well be made.try to listen with your parents they knew what is best for you.then you can give your own opinion without your parents dictating you.the most you hate of.about lazy i think you just do that to punish yourself and your parents who really cares and loves you a lot.Try to show your love and respect to them or else whole family need a help from a psychiatry to be open and honest each other.be honest to yourself.
I have a premature todler...she is a mess...it is possible that yeah maybe you have some wierd wires in your head...but listen your 16.you are going to be fine...don't dwell on what you can't change.change what you can...and you can always change how your thinking...
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