How to Overcome Shyness?
I have Epilepsy and for me that issues is not likely to keep me from getting work. I'm lucky that my Epilepsy is controlled by medication. What is more likely to keep me from getting empoled is my shyness and not so great skills in talking with people. I'm not good at starting up conversations or keeping engaged in conversations. I tried a Job Placement at a retail Store and the manager said that my shyness was a concern he would have if he hired me. So any advice on being more comfortable talking with people would be appreciated.
Answer:
When you talk to someone, imagine him/her in situations that will make you readily conclude that he/she is just like you. Think of this person sitting in a toilet bowl, and you know that this person is just like you and everyone else.
You will not be intimidated, even in the presence of a king or queen, if you visualize this person in that situation.
Did not mean to be gross --- I just thought this will drive home the point that none of us is a lesser person than the next.
do something outside your comfort level and look into the mirror wearing nothing but underwear and look at how good you look..thats wut i do whenever i get ready in the morning and then i feel confident all day cuzz i know im sexy
I strongly advise you to get that job! Jobs in retail are great for people to work through their shyness. I did. With so many people coming through that you don't know and will probably not see again, it provides an opportunity to engage in conversation with them, however small or large. You will most likely come right out of your shell. Just be friendly and say hi to people with a smile; guaranteed feel good!
Talk more to your friends and family. This should build up your confidence in talking. If you are shy because you think what you say will be incorrect and laughed about, don't think about it. Just blurt it out before it passes through your head(except rude comments). Remember, practice makes perfect, and that goes for everything, speaking too.
try meditation.
one way to overcome your shyness is to be less conscious of yourself. don't think too much about what you're going to say or how you look. if you can't help being too self-conscious, just shift our attention and focus mainly on the topic of converstion. meet people. gain more friends. talking with people are good ways to practice your social skills, thus overcoming your shyness. through your interactions with others, you will realize that everyone is shy in some ways.
there are many ways to start a conversation. it all depends on the situation you're in. just start from simple topics such as commenting on the person's clothes, by asking where he/she bought it.. or by asking the person how old the pet if he/she is with a pet. just keep on giving polite and simple comments and the conversation will flow once you find you're common ground. sometimes, you just need to keep on asking questions (but don't make it sound as if you're interrogating) and share something about yourself as well until you find some common interest that you could really talk about.
look for a job. even though you're shy, you can still find a job if you look harder. and start from you're job to build your social skills. good luck.
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Answer:
When you talk to someone, imagine him/her in situations that will make you readily conclude that he/she is just like you. Think of this person sitting in a toilet bowl, and you know that this person is just like you and everyone else.
You will not be intimidated, even in the presence of a king or queen, if you visualize this person in that situation.
Did not mean to be gross --- I just thought this will drive home the point that none of us is a lesser person than the next.
do something outside your comfort level and look into the mirror wearing nothing but underwear and look at how good you look..thats wut i do whenever i get ready in the morning and then i feel confident all day cuzz i know im sexy
I strongly advise you to get that job! Jobs in retail are great for people to work through their shyness. I did. With so many people coming through that you don't know and will probably not see again, it provides an opportunity to engage in conversation with them, however small or large. You will most likely come right out of your shell. Just be friendly and say hi to people with a smile; guaranteed feel good!
Talk more to your friends and family. This should build up your confidence in talking. If you are shy because you think what you say will be incorrect and laughed about, don't think about it. Just blurt it out before it passes through your head(except rude comments). Remember, practice makes perfect, and that goes for everything, speaking too.
try meditation.
one way to overcome your shyness is to be less conscious of yourself. don't think too much about what you're going to say or how you look. if you can't help being too self-conscious, just shift our attention and focus mainly on the topic of converstion. meet people. gain more friends. talking with people are good ways to practice your social skills, thus overcoming your shyness. through your interactions with others, you will realize that everyone is shy in some ways.
there are many ways to start a conversation. it all depends on the situation you're in. just start from simple topics such as commenting on the person's clothes, by asking where he/she bought it.. or by asking the person how old the pet if he/she is with a pet. just keep on giving polite and simple comments and the conversation will flow once you find you're common ground. sometimes, you just need to keep on asking questions (but don't make it sound as if you're interrogating) and share something about yourself as well until you find some common interest that you could really talk about.
look for a job. even though you're shy, you can still find a job if you look harder. and start from you're job to build your social skills. good luck.
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