What's the best way to make a man feel appreciated?
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You cannot "make" anyone "feel" like anything... You can encourage him, love him, maybe that is all he needs. But ultimately he has to decide to better himself. If he doesn't, then there is not a whole lot you can do.
Oh for the love of god.
Food, Beer, Sex.
That is all any guys wants. The order of preference is different for us all.
AND P.S. EVERY GUY HATES BEING ANALYZED.
Never refuse him sex and treat him like a child. Praise him, tell him how much you care, show him how much you care and never complain; men hate that.
tons of compliments, tell him how much you love him, he helps you out and how you couldn't do things without him. Also ask for his advice or opinon as much as possible.
Compliment him for things you want him to do in advance. Don't be a nag, but also don't be a crutch. Be honest with him, but focus on the positive and encourage him.
If you treat him fairly, and accord him compliments when they are truly in order, then that should be all that is necessary. If he needs more, then he's just a needy little boy and probably will never be more than that. Sorry, but it's the truth.
Tell him that you care for him, and that he is your number one. Let him know that you appreciate his love and what he does for you. When having sex, let him know that he feels good..make him feel "big".
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Try to compliment him on the very small things he does that please you. Be his best friend! Agree with him and don't nit pick him to death.
If these things are too hard for you, find a new boyfriend, that has a better attitude.
tell him... that you appreciate him and everything that he does.. if you mean it, he'll believe you... good luck
WOW... this is a really good question and applies not only to your BF, but to all men everywhere!! You are going to get a lot of different responses, but I have found this book to be quite objective and extremely helpful in my marriage. I wish I had it when we were dating! My parents could use a copy too. It's called "For women only: what you need to know about the inner lives of men (what he desperately wants you to know)" by Shaunti Feldhahn. She did documented research on thousands of men. I love this book because it literally gets inside your man's head! It's incredible.
She answers soooo many questions (including yours above) and more, and explains them in "woman lingo..." there are reasons your bf can't explain what he's going though, like other men can't talk to their wives the way they wish they could. She explains that. It's so cool! You can also go to her website as well. This might also be a minor detail, but it's a small book, so it fits in my purse and I read it whenever I get the chance. You don't want to read it all in one sitting though, information overload!
My advice is to check out her book and skip to the section you need, or go to her site. You will find what you are looking for and so much more. You bf will appreciate it more than he could (or will) say! :) Best wishes!
The old addage...Bad attention is better than no attention. Guys are pretty basic. A little affection goes a long way. You need to give him positive reinforcement daily. He'll probably reflect that right back at you. At one time I'm sure you were very touchy feely.Then one day a month goes by and you relize that you haven't even really talked. Start to reconect. You will be amazed at how quickly he will turn around.
His self-esteem has to come from within himself and he has to be willing to change his thinking.
You can boost his ego, say all the right things, but eventually you will get tired of being his 'cheerleader'.
Reading material to consider:
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman (for you)
and for him:
How to Raise Your Self-Esteem, Nathaniel Brandon
The Aladdin Factor, Jack Canfield & Mark Victor Hansen
The Magic of Thinking Big, David J. Schwartz
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