My friend is using me! I AM so sick of it. What should I do?
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I've had that problem before. I made him pay me for time and gas.
Charge her 44 cents per mile, round trip, and give her a bill and tell her "no pay - no play."
If she gets mad at you - so what?
If she pays you - good job.
Your friend isn't USING you - YOU need to say NO!
i will say it LOSE her.
if she is doing this, she is NOT your friend.
keep your car out of the way,sight,and safe.
just tell her no you cant do it unless she gives you gas money. if she was a true friend she would atleast offer you some gas money for helping her out.
She is NOT your friend. I guess people hate being alone so much that they would rather hang out with losers, abusers and users. You arent alone though.
Tell her you can't afford the fuel costs.however, you'd be happy to help if she pays for fuel etc. Oh and tell her you'll need this beforehand.
start scraping off the losers in you life. I had the same issue and went broke trying to be Mr. Nice Guy. You don't need them, tell them to hit the road and when they grow-up they can come back to play.
This is really a "friend." Perhaps not. Perhaps she's awful, perhaps she's desperate. 40 miles is a long way for both of you.
What would you like her to do? It would probably take 5 hours to walk that distance. Should she leave home early? Is there a bus that would be more reasonable to ride? Could you lend her a bike to ride or help her get one from the police department? Why doesn't she have a car? Too poor or could she have a seizure disorder that prevents her from getting a license?
Does she need to work? Should she quit her job? Are there jobs nearby? Does she have expenses that she could meet through welfare, charity, begging, prostitution, moving home with parents?
You can decide what exactly you are willing to do for her and then tell her. It could be nothing; it could be 4 times to work and 2 pick ups + one special with her brother per month. You could set a price per trip or per mile. Then she'd have something to depend on and would know that she has to find other means.
She is using you, and she's not a friend. Tally up the miles and hours you've spent driving her and her bro around. Charge minimum wage for hours and then charge $.40/mile for wear and tear on your car. It should be a significant amount, show this to her and see what she does about it. IF she really is a friend she'll apologize and offer to repay you. IF NOT then you don't need her for a friend.
Next time she asks, tell her you can't.
Do it when you want, but don't do it all the time.
If you want, you can warn her ahead of time that you won't be able to give her rides all the time any more, and she needs to find another form of transportation.
When you turn down her request, do NOT explain why, just keep saying vague things:
Sorry, I just can't.
Because it's impossible.
It doesn't work out for me.
I can't, sorry.
Don't start making up reasons, or she'll just argue with you, and you'll end up doing it.
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