I like older men..? is this sick or disgusting?
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Maybe you are looking for a father figure - you seem to have missed out on a strong masculine figure around the house. An alcohol dependant father would not have shown you the love and apprecitaion you would have needed and longed for as you grew up..
My advice to you is ,- Stay away from the dirty old men, all they will do is hurt you in the long run.. They will use u in ways you didn't know possuble because they have as you said 20 , 30 yrs more experience in the big bad world..
Talk to someone.. perhaps a counsillor and try to find a mentally mature MAN your own age.. He will be able to protect you 5 times more than the filthy perverts that would be looking for a girl 20 or 30 years younger than them..
Take my advice
Everyones different.
you sound like you just might be younger like still in school...you need too wait till you are 18 too date older men..but when you turn 18 and want too date a older man you just get right on it...if that's what you want...myself I'm 43 and i like younger men , like 10 years younger..so you just wait till you are legal..
Sick AND disgusting, although if they are disgustingly rich then congratuations on having great taste!
Most likely you are compensating for a lack of a father figure in your life at some point. In all probability, when you do date someone that much older than you for these reasons, you will eventually be tired of either being taken care of, or not being taken care of enough.
Your preference is very common. Some women like that the man doesn't want commitments. Some women like the material things. Some women seek maturity of mind. I was lucky. I found a woman just like that. She tells me I'm the youngest she ever dated, I'm 1 year younger and I made friends with her former boyfriends.
you answered your own question! since you never got the relationship and love you crave from your own parents you are looking to fill the void with an older man. you are looking for that man to treat you like a little princess since your own dad didn't.
Please go and get some counseling, or go live with a relative that is stable. Relationships with older men can be difficult.
First of all, if you were to marry one, you may never have children. Also, if you might want to be "physical" that might not be something they can give you. I know from experience,
it is not all that it is cracked up to be. You look for these guys because you are not getting the stability you need at home. Please get some help from a therapist.
as long as you're an adult, and you don't harm anyone, you are entitled to your own tastes.
Sounds to me like you're looking for the father you never really had!
the feelings are normal but your thoughts are wrong idk how old you are but no guy that age is really gonna love you they jus want you because of the physical not the mental... i mean i guess since you grew up around all that crazieness you matured faster then the other kids mentaly so its only natural you want some one on your same mental level...plus you never had the love... so im guessing all you really want is for some one to love you... thats why you want older guyz cause thats what they show you... but going with a guy who is 30 aint gonna get you nowere... they wont really love you. hey yo i know the feeling and yo if you ever wanna talk jus hit me up i might be able to get back to you right away cause i really dont have internet. but hey come on i know things are hard but keep yo head up it will get better..
Pick me! Pick me! Pick me! I spoil you rotten and take good care of you!
Hi sad angel
different women have different preferences
get a good education, go to university, read as much as you can and pray if possible
hope you find happiness
Its perfectly normal. Alot of girls and women are attracted to older men. I think yours stems from your father not liking you, you want some one to take care of you, and that's perfectly normal. Its not sick, and its not disgusting. How ever, if you are under the age of 18 then just wait it out. When you are 18, you can date these older men. A few years can seem like an eternity but they will pass.
No, that's okay. I think I like much older men too, but quickly put it out of my mind because the older men I like are already "attached". I find them more mature and responsible, and just generally know more than a lot of men my age.
I've read a lot of old novels set in the 18th or 19th century and it was very normal for a man in his 40's and 50's to take a wife 20 or more years younger. In one of Dostoevsky's books, 50 was considered the best age for a man to settle down and marry (because by that time, he has peaked his career and earned his fortune). I have a Hungarian friend who thinks it's cool -- but her boyfriend (husband now) is about her own age.
Charlie Chaplin fathered children when he was 90 or so. The fact that the woman got pregnant would suggest she was no older than 40 or so (an age difference of 50 years, old enough to be her grandpa).
As long as you aren't terribly young yourself (not under 18, say), no one can really object to your taste in men. If you are under 18, the guy should probably approach your parents about dating you (but from what you said, fat chance of this working out). Will Durant (famous historian) fell in love with the woman he would marry when he was 28 and she was 14 (!). She was one of his students. He resigned his job and asked her parents, and they consented to the marriage (1911), and it was a beautiful life for them. She was very intelligent and became his collaborator in all his works.
Ok you like older men because they have something to say to you not like men your age maybe. If you feel good and happy that is the most important who care what people think? You don't live for people...
What you're feeling certainly isn't sick, however you have to make healthy decisions for yourself. I can understand where you're coming from but you can't give control of your life to another person. Older men will have had a lot more experience than you, and that could be dangerous if you're feeling vulnerable.
Honestly, I don't think you're really ready for a relationship yet. You should develop strong friendships first and become stronger before you even think of a proper relationship. Don't let older men manipulate or use you in any way.
Try talking to your mom and be honest about your feelings. You can move on with the proper support but a relationship may be detrimental at this stage.
There's nothing wrong or sick or disgusting in liking older men --- but, if you want to get involved with one, please see to it that you are over 18. Crushes on older men shouldn't be a problem under 18. If you get the love and companionship and understanding and anything else you look for in a relationship from a guy, his age shouldn't really matter. If he makes you happy, then don't worry if he's 10 or 20 yrs older.
Good luck!
are you in your 30's. omg- yes thats nasty to marry a 100 year old. lol
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