My feelings froze in time?!?

When I used to live in Mexico, my uncle got married to an American woman who already had 3 children from her previous marriage. They would send the kids to Mexico to spend summers with us and they would stay for months. I didn't know English and they didn't speak Spanish but we were kids and we understood each other by playing. I fell in love with one of them, at that time i was 10yrs old. He left to USA when the summer ended and i was very sad.. he came back 3yrs later and i fell in love more! i was completely crazy for him. I even told some of my family members that i loved him and he knew too...but we couldn't communicate very well. He left and i didnt see him for 4 more yrs..and it was very brief...now i have a boyfriend already and i moved to USA. I've been with my bf for 5yrs and today i saw my "cousin" and he's married and he has a little kid...but why do i feel like time froze for me and i feel like something is not over yet.. like if i still love him ..but its crazy..help!!

Answer:
Ah, the first love. That's the one we always remember. I believe this is the case for you. That first crush that we get, I don't know that we ever really get over it. You don't see that person for years, and then you see them and your heart rate increases and all that good stuff.

My advice to you is to appreciate the feelings that you have for him, but to realize that you need to move on. You have to make a mental decision here that supercedes what you feel in your emotions. It's tough, but you have to do it or you'll continue to like him in vain for years.

yeah but you will get over it. i would not mess with him bc he is married and plus you have a bf once someone is married leave them alone it will only cause more problems

well u should tell urself am i happy with my bf and am i ok with the love of my life with someone else the answer to that should be yes because i think u loved as a brother kind of not a person u would spend ur whole life with.

It's not a very good idea to get involved with family (even if its by law) and you have a boyfriend and he is happily married. You are both happy so you should let it go.

Aww...that makes a good romance. But honestly, not mocking or anything but I guess we never really will fall out of love with our first love.
You are sentimental and meeting him again brings back all those 'novice' feeling and fond memories. Remind yourself that NOTHING took place during those tender years. Afterall you have been in love with this 'image' of him for 3years or so! It's okay to feel the way you do but your feelings are merely a sort of intoxication from the past. You'll get over the hangover soon.

Sober up now and walk on by.
Best wishes to you.

Just be friends to much time has past. He is married and has a child, you have to let it go or there would only be pain to come of it.

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