Need some mental help?
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its their problem not yours. the past is history. their is nothing that you can change. if your family want to torture you with the past,explain to them, their is nothing you or they can do about the past. when they harangue you about the past just smile. it will drive them crazy
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Hey there
Time to get some positive people around you. Take one step at a time and question any negative thoughts you have..I mean really question and talk to someone you can trust and has a positive influence on your life.
Best wishes
Stop being negative and think of the positive. You're unique, and nobody else is like you; therefore there is someone who admires you. Tell yourself that it's no big deal, and you will learn for your mistakes. It's better to know about them than to avoid them and not learn your whole life.
Just go on with life. Do things that make you happy. Instead of doing things that don't. You can also forget about the things that you don't like and think about things you like.
Embrace your bad feelings, and sort them out. Even if it takes a long time, its better than bottling up your past. Then find a way to stand up to the people who put you down. Tell them that they do not own your mental health, and they cannot damge it anymore. They really shouldn't be bugging you something for 15 years. Unless you killed someone :P.
what r they saying !.. you know what i always do when people say negative things about me/ what i like /do i turn it around.. i say its becuase they're jealous.. its cus there jealous that i wear the most UN-MATCHING CLOTHES EVERR & they don't.. its cus there jealous that i have a HORRIBLE tan & they don't.. its cus there jealous that i have a better sense of music! and they don't.. just turn it around and if you get really down write in a journal, i thought it was kinda stupid but when i was eally sad and started to belive what they were saying i wrote in my journal and it felt like 20 lbs were off me shoulders and i was happy =]
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I've been hammered with negative talk by my family my whole life as well. i know where you're coming from and no one should have to go through it.
affirmations help a lot.. try looking in the mirror and saying a few positive things about yourself every morning. it may feel silly at first, but the more you do it, the more comfortable you will feel saying them and the more real they will become. another thing that helps is changing your thoughts around. for example, take something negative that you have been told about yourself, and think of things that contradict that, like something that is positive that you know makes that negative statement not true.
there are also two great books i would recommend, one is Mind Over Mood by Greenberger and Padesky and the other is called The Self-Esteem Workbook.. i'm not sure who that one is by.
good luck :)
Locate a copy of a book called, What to say when you talk to yourself. It is a great handbook on positive mental training for confidence and successful thinking.
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