Does recovering from a tragedy actually involve a form of lying to yourself in order to feel better?
If something has hurt you, and torn your heart in two, and left you at the mercy of others, I don't see how one could overcome these things, and so completely as to not let it affect the rest of your life?
I realize that this is not a bad thing; experience is the only way we can grow, and the only way to grow is to suffer accordingly. It's obvious in anyone that the amount of maturity or superior character is parallel to their milestone life experience.
But the loss, or tragedy still leaves that hole in your soul. Now, I'm sure the thought of God has popped into most of your heads but that won't do it for me; I am way too practical.
But in order to get past difficult to accept circumst's do you have to convince yourself of the opposite of the facts? No he didn't leave her cause she was fat, yes, your husband survived that car accident..etc. Do you ever completely heal, without that ache in the bkgrd?
Answer:
The way to get over a tragedy is to learn the lesson that tragedy has brought into our life. The way to forever suffer from a tragedy is to distract ourself, stay in denial, not face reality. When we are willing to accept the truth that life experiences are for our learning, even tragedies, we will grow and understand ourselves better and repeating the tragedy is no longer an experience we need to have.
Refusing to see our part or learning from tragedy almost insures repeating the experience.
that's certainly one way of looking at it.
Yes, you can heal, and no, not by lying to yourself.
When you are so hurt, you are coming from a place where the tragedy overwhelms you. Allowing yourself to detach from the experience, heal and respect yourself is putting you in a better place. After you have recovered, you see where changing yourself instead of the situation is actually healthy and normal.
no because that will always be in u know maytter what but u can move on i mean ur not gonna let one trajety ruin ur whole life no u r gonna move on and forget it but it will always be in u as a memory.
Although many people do lie to themselves (certainly not everyone) after a tradgic accident sooner or later they have to face the facts and that's when the real recovery begins.
On some level yes. Although in psychology its not considered lying its more like positive self affirmations. For instance you get up every day and tell yourself I am a good person. You do it over and over even if you don't believe its true, in essence therefore lying to yourself. But eventually if you stick to it something changes, its no longer a lie. You know you are a good person. Not so much lying, as teaching yourself a healthier way of thinking.
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