Did anything terrible happen to you as a child?
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Yes...
When I was 9 months old my mother left me who I've never seen. My father found a new wife and she took care of me as my mother but when her and my father separated he left me and went to Vietnam and came back with a new wife, and a child. During this time my step-mother was depressed and she took a lot out on me. Constantly telling me I was a mistake that no one wanted me not even my own mother. She would hit me like I was grown women, and she often tried to kill her self leaving me to blame myself for the cause of everything. She also had two kids from other relationships, but they were her blood children. That constantly told me that they were not my brother and sister and made me feel like an outcasted alien. They abused me. My sister would burn me with curling iorn and lock me in my room too only pee my pants and get beat for it. I was pushed down a flight of stairs on a tricycle. I was molested by my brother. I was constantly abused verbally and mentally by all members of my family. My father’s side of family would speak in Vietnamese and think I couldn't understand and make comments about my weight and how fat I was. My father was never there for me. I was burned when I was aprox 8 with 3rd degree burns and my father was down the street I called him and asked him to take me to the hospital and all he could say was he was busy. I spent a great deal of my life trapped by negative cruel people who didn't care about anyone else but them selves. I left home when I was 15 years old and maintained a full time job and a house by myself. The effects of the way they treated me made me into a very hateful person. I was always judgmental, and I would never ever let anyone get close to me. I've spent a major amount of my life depressed and I cried a lot even at 20. I was still shedding tears from bad memories. There are million other things that happened but it's all the same. Abuse is abuse. When I got older I dated bad people who lied to me controlled me abused me because it felt like it was all I deserved. I was always settling for men who treated me only half decent. Just yearning to be loved. I've never felt pretty ever, and I'm very insecure with myself, though I'm a great faker, and pretend I'm the most confident person in the world though I'm not. In the end it did affect me a great deal and it still effects me. I tend to get depressed faster than the average person. I dwell on things a little too long. I tend to think negative thoughts before positive. I'm a bit of a loner.
Any how
I'm doing great now I have a beautiful son who I could never imagine doing these things too. I have a loving husband. A huge house, a car. People in my life that love me.
Life is not perfect but we try our best and move on...
yeah my mom and her yelling it really has made me a depressed person because i am so sick of it!!
Ummmmm. the only thing that rwaly has happend bad to me is my mom left me...
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My dad disappeared when I was 5.
I wish my Dad disappeared when i was 5. To put it bluntly someone who looked at his kids like invaders. Why are you here bothering me and mom? Well to say still bothers me 30 years later.
yes. in 4th grade my bff haley died in a go cart accident over spring break...we were really close and i wouldn't speak to n/e 1 for days...now im really cautios and try not to be to close to ppl, im too afraid to loose them.
Don't you mean how has it affected you?
I think we all have a painful childhood memory, of course some are worse or not as bad as others, but it's still a painful memory. I hope readers really listen to me when I say this; that your childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over!
My mom was very abusive to me and I never knew why. I found out the day after my father took his journey back to Creator. My little sister decided to inform me that I didn't belong biologically to my dad but was a product of rape..it was the worse kind of course! I was the product of my uncle raping his little sister ( lucky for me, they were both adopted ). Daddy took me on anyway and married my mom, but the pain for her never really ended. It was a secret that was kept for 39 years. She loved me because of Dad but she hated me at the same time because I was a constant reminder of what her brother did to her. In the 60's there wasn't any counseling for things like that. It was assumed that it was the woman's fault automatically. Not knowing the truth for so many years and being abused by my mom caused me to become an abusive mother. Now I have to deal with that guilt to my kids and deal with losing my Daddy twice in 2 days. The one high-point that I have is my sister told me this to hurt me. But after Mom and I finally had a chance to talk about this and get closure for both of us, I can look at my sister and tell her that Dad had to love her while he CHOSE to love me...so that makes me more special. I know that it si petty but it makes me feel better.
There are some great, but sad, responses to your question. A lot of them have commonality, a loss.
But my background is one of indifference. But I can say that despite all of my accomplishments, none of them were ever enough. Even after having a house and property bigger than theirs, still not enough.
But speaking of mother's and lying, my mother lied to me. She said she never had a drinking problem. Bold in your face lie. It's easy to see now, but of course not then. It may have saved me some time, if my parents could tell me there was a history there that I should avoid. But everything was a secret. No sharing, honesty, even hugging was not exactly right.
The Good News... my daughter WILL get the things I missed, and a little extra if I can.
There, I said it. I can't put blame on them, nonetheless, I've said it. That feels better.
did anything hapen to you as a child? means what you wanna know after the child was born or any kind of feotal incidence which might have an affect ?
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