For my mom and brother, i need advice. help.?
sometimes my mom gets crazy. actually my dad ruined her life-with a lot of girls, always drank alcohol, used to beat her up and took all the money. in 3years of marriage life(actually not even 1year), he left my family. since that day, she has blamed him to us over 20years, even though me and my brother used to meet him occasionally, she always told us everything's his fault. she's still poor(i helped her so many times but i'm in debt too cuz of her), she hates men as male. when she get mad, she's like a psycho ***..
my brother, he's 25 but acts like teenager. i mean, he stopped studying in university, don't even work, is just addicted to playing computer games-never sleeps on time. when i and my mom scold him, he always shouts like a beast, sneers at us and blames mom and dad. he used to collect military stuffs like knives and murder weapons as a hobby, so i stopped asking him to get counselling cuz he thinks i meant mental hospital. i'm scared..what can i do for my family?
Answer:
For you it all started when your mom began to blame her husband for all the bad things that have happened in her life. Now you, & your brother have inherited that trait, & are busy blaming her, your dad, & no doubt someyimes each other.
You can end this vicious cycle today by adhering to one truth alone.
YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO CONTROL OVER ANYONE BUT YOURSELF
.
Recognize that your mom, & brother are living the way they do because of the choices they make.
Stay focused on your own well being, & take charge of YOUR future, & stop worrying about what is going on in their lives.
Maybe then they can learn from you by your good example.
Leave them.
When my father left my mother it destroyed her. I took on many responsibilities to care for her threw her nervous breakdown. The more I did the more she relied on me. Finally, we had a huge blow out and I left her to her own demise. She pulled herself up. Got help. Got an education. Built her life. With everything I did the thing that helped her the most was leaving her.
You only have this family. Unfortunately you are stuck with them. The only thing you can do is try to support them without putting yourself in debt. Emotional support can sometimes be as valuable as money. Your brother and mother both need professional help and as the only "sane" one in the group it may be up to you to get them there. I wish you all the best and hope all turns out well for you.
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my brother, he's 25 but acts like teenager. i mean, he stopped studying in university, don't even work, is just addicted to playing computer games-never sleeps on time. when i and my mom scold him, he always shouts like a beast, sneers at us and blames mom and dad. he used to collect military stuffs like knives and murder weapons as a hobby, so i stopped asking him to get counselling cuz he thinks i meant mental hospital. i'm scared..what can i do for my family?
Answer:
For you it all started when your mom began to blame her husband for all the bad things that have happened in her life. Now you, & your brother have inherited that trait, & are busy blaming her, your dad, & no doubt someyimes each other.
You can end this vicious cycle today by adhering to one truth alone.
YOU HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO CONTROL OVER ANYONE BUT YOURSELF
.
Recognize that your mom, & brother are living the way they do because of the choices they make.
Stay focused on your own well being, & take charge of YOUR future, & stop worrying about what is going on in their lives.
Maybe then they can learn from you by your good example.
Leave them.
When my father left my mother it destroyed her. I took on many responsibilities to care for her threw her nervous breakdown. The more I did the more she relied on me. Finally, we had a huge blow out and I left her to her own demise. She pulled herself up. Got help. Got an education. Built her life. With everything I did the thing that helped her the most was leaving her.
You only have this family. Unfortunately you are stuck with them. The only thing you can do is try to support them without putting yourself in debt. Emotional support can sometimes be as valuable as money. Your brother and mother both need professional help and as the only "sane" one in the group it may be up to you to get them there. I wish you all the best and hope all turns out well for you.
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