Adulthood (What Can I do?)?
Ummm...yeah, I'm seriously trying to figure this all out. How can teens take growing up so calmly? All guys are excited about turn into a "man" and stuff, but it makes me horribly depressed. I hate massive hair on places except the head. I can't stand beards, and I don't want to constantly shave my face every day and then have it back before my day is finished.
I hate being in a position like this. Things change when people grow up, I know. I don't wanna become fat and hairy and a slob like my dad and step dad. I don't want to lose my close friends, and I don't wanna end up alone in the world because of my secret insecurities.
I have a lot of friends, and I mean a lot. I can walk into a room and find a group to talk to. I used to not have to put up with this stuff last year because I wasn't so social. Now I have to worry about my appearance and how I act all the time, and I can't cope with growing up anymore.
I'm sorta hoping the have pills for this. If not, what should I do?
Answer:
first of all, you should never have to rely on a pill to solve your problem. That's the wrong mentality. Secondly, be yourself. YOu obviously have no problem making friends. So if you have to prove yourself around a certain group or try to impress them, just be yourself. Eventually, the true friends will stick. Growing up isn't so bad. Losing friends one place almost always means making new ones elsewhere. It's your choice whether you stay in touch and thankfully the internet makes it uber-easy. Finally, if you don't want to end up gross looking just stay fit by eating right and excercising bc/ you won't ever have to worry about gaining pregnancy weight. I can personally vouch for some pretty hot guys in there 50's and 60's and not just in hollywood. hope you feel better now.
Boy, you sound depressed! And your approach to growing up is soooo negative! You say you have a lot of friends, but it sounds like this isn't a good thing in your eyes. So why are you trying to impress them by keeping up your appearance and your attitude? You are who are, and you're going to be who you're going to be. If you don't wanna be a slob like the fatherly figures in your life, don't be! That's up to you! Make the best of what you've got. You mentioned shaving, there's no way out of that really, so try not to worry about things you can't change.
Your last statement sounds potentially bad, I hope you're not so depressed that you're having bad thoughts. Try antidepressants, hun. That may help.
Embrace it, kid. Soon you'll learn to wear stubble like the chick magnet that it is (with certain women anyway), and take advantage of the massive rush of testosterone coming your way by getting in the gym and keeping yourself in shape so you don't end up being a fat slob. Start changing your wardrobe to emphasize your broadening shoulders. Remember that your peers are growing up with you, and the changes in you will evolve right along with them and their perceptions. Embrace the added responsibility and revel in the independence that comes with it. It's inevitable that you'll grow up anyway, so there's no use in being depressed over it. It's not going to make time slow down. Lead the way, set the example if that's what nature's intended.
I sympathize with you. Must be terrible for young lady to have these problems. Stop taking steroids.
Well first off don't count on a pill to solve your problem. I wish that you had included your age, but I'm guessing your probably between 14-16?
Now if you are concernced about hair growth I encourage you to look into electrolysis or laser hair removal. It's not exactly cheap, but the money that you'll save on not taking a pill you can use for hair removal.
As far as turning into a "slob" like your dad and step dad, don't worry about it! Make it a point to stay active. Develop healthy eating and exercising habits and stick to them and you will never turn into a slob or become overweight.
You refer to your insecurities as secrect. The truth is that other boys your age are feeling the same way! It's true! Try to relax and be yourself. If you find yourself getting tense in social situations, just take a deep breath and pause for a moment to analize the situation. It's probably not as bad as you think it is.
Please realize that you will get over this! Look at all the men in the world...they all go through it and you will too!
I encourage you to talk to someone about this in person. Maybe your school counselor or a teacher you trust a lot. Try talking to people before you resort to medication. If all else fails you could have anxiety problems and need to be medicated, but please please please try everything you can before you medicate yourself. Best of luck!
I'm going to let in on a little secret.... Growing up is a part of life! Unless you happen to find Neverneverland, you can't stop the sands of time. The good news is, that you can approach it with a positive attitude, and perhaps it may not be as bad you envision it. I would just assume block out my teen years, but even if I did have some positive experiences as a teen. I would probably have still been excited about becoming a man. You will probably discover that you have a lot of advantages as you continue to grow up. As far as the negative stuff, its unfortunately part of life as well, but again, the good news is that your friends are also going through the exact same thing you are. In fact, you may actually become closer to some of your friends, and/or make new and maybe even better friends.
In short, have a positive attitude and take one life changing event at a time. You might be surprised at how quickly you forget your desires to remain a teen. Hopefully this will help some. Good luck!
i wonder whats going to happen to you if something really goes wrong. maybe it already has. only you can keep you from becoming a fat hairy slob. if you have insecurities, dont make them secret. nothing will change if you dont. you are the only one who can lose your close friends, and its not with unwanted hair. im 55, and havent changed much at all. if you have to alter your appearance and how to act to keep friends, then they are not friends, and your lying to yourself. your problems are your dad and stepdad. you need to get past that.
chill out, bro...
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I hate being in a position like this. Things change when people grow up, I know. I don't wanna become fat and hairy and a slob like my dad and step dad. I don't want to lose my close friends, and I don't wanna end up alone in the world because of my secret insecurities.
I have a lot of friends, and I mean a lot. I can walk into a room and find a group to talk to. I used to not have to put up with this stuff last year because I wasn't so social. Now I have to worry about my appearance and how I act all the time, and I can't cope with growing up anymore.
I'm sorta hoping the have pills for this. If not, what should I do?
Answer:
first of all, you should never have to rely on a pill to solve your problem. That's the wrong mentality. Secondly, be yourself. YOu obviously have no problem making friends. So if you have to prove yourself around a certain group or try to impress them, just be yourself. Eventually, the true friends will stick. Growing up isn't so bad. Losing friends one place almost always means making new ones elsewhere. It's your choice whether you stay in touch and thankfully the internet makes it uber-easy. Finally, if you don't want to end up gross looking just stay fit by eating right and excercising bc/ you won't ever have to worry about gaining pregnancy weight. I can personally vouch for some pretty hot guys in there 50's and 60's and not just in hollywood. hope you feel better now.
Boy, you sound depressed! And your approach to growing up is soooo negative! You say you have a lot of friends, but it sounds like this isn't a good thing in your eyes. So why are you trying to impress them by keeping up your appearance and your attitude? You are who are, and you're going to be who you're going to be. If you don't wanna be a slob like the fatherly figures in your life, don't be! That's up to you! Make the best of what you've got. You mentioned shaving, there's no way out of that really, so try not to worry about things you can't change.
Your last statement sounds potentially bad, I hope you're not so depressed that you're having bad thoughts. Try antidepressants, hun. That may help.
Embrace it, kid. Soon you'll learn to wear stubble like the chick magnet that it is (with certain women anyway), and take advantage of the massive rush of testosterone coming your way by getting in the gym and keeping yourself in shape so you don't end up being a fat slob. Start changing your wardrobe to emphasize your broadening shoulders. Remember that your peers are growing up with you, and the changes in you will evolve right along with them and their perceptions. Embrace the added responsibility and revel in the independence that comes with it. It's inevitable that you'll grow up anyway, so there's no use in being depressed over it. It's not going to make time slow down. Lead the way, set the example if that's what nature's intended.
I sympathize with you. Must be terrible for young lady to have these problems. Stop taking steroids.
Well first off don't count on a pill to solve your problem. I wish that you had included your age, but I'm guessing your probably between 14-16?
Now if you are concernced about hair growth I encourage you to look into electrolysis or laser hair removal. It's not exactly cheap, but the money that you'll save on not taking a pill you can use for hair removal.
As far as turning into a "slob" like your dad and step dad, don't worry about it! Make it a point to stay active. Develop healthy eating and exercising habits and stick to them and you will never turn into a slob or become overweight.
You refer to your insecurities as secrect. The truth is that other boys your age are feeling the same way! It's true! Try to relax and be yourself. If you find yourself getting tense in social situations, just take a deep breath and pause for a moment to analize the situation. It's probably not as bad as you think it is.
Please realize that you will get over this! Look at all the men in the world...they all go through it and you will too!
I encourage you to talk to someone about this in person. Maybe your school counselor or a teacher you trust a lot. Try talking to people before you resort to medication. If all else fails you could have anxiety problems and need to be medicated, but please please please try everything you can before you medicate yourself. Best of luck!
I'm going to let in on a little secret.... Growing up is a part of life! Unless you happen to find Neverneverland, you can't stop the sands of time. The good news is, that you can approach it with a positive attitude, and perhaps it may not be as bad you envision it. I would just assume block out my teen years, but even if I did have some positive experiences as a teen. I would probably have still been excited about becoming a man. You will probably discover that you have a lot of advantages as you continue to grow up. As far as the negative stuff, its unfortunately part of life as well, but again, the good news is that your friends are also going through the exact same thing you are. In fact, you may actually become closer to some of your friends, and/or make new and maybe even better friends.
In short, have a positive attitude and take one life changing event at a time. You might be surprised at how quickly you forget your desires to remain a teen. Hopefully this will help some. Good luck!
i wonder whats going to happen to you if something really goes wrong. maybe it already has. only you can keep you from becoming a fat hairy slob. if you have insecurities, dont make them secret. nothing will change if you dont. you are the only one who can lose your close friends, and its not with unwanted hair. im 55, and havent changed much at all. if you have to alter your appearance and how to act to keep friends, then they are not friends, and your lying to yourself. your problems are your dad and stepdad. you need to get past that.
chill out, bro...
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