(Serious Adult Question) Pornography normal?
My husband looks at porn on the internet. I don't mind. But my coworkers talk about how disgusting porn is and how disgusting men are that look at it. I get uncomfortable because I don't know what to think when so many influential people are saying all the time how disgusting they feel it is. Am I right to feel like my husband can look?
Answer:
This is an interesting question. Kudos to you for being open-minded. He's checking out porn, not cheating! Every man is entitled to look at porn if he wants to. Society is too uptight about that, especially American society. Europe doesn't care. Most art has nude people, like David, for example. I absolutely agree with you, though I am sure people will disagree and call us both disgusting because porn makes us women look bad. It's really up to you, and you seem to not care, so just go with that. Don't be a conformist, and go with society! Go with what YOU believe, and do not let anyone else sway your opinion!
My wife lets me look at porn.I look at it when she can't spend much time with me(you know) and I believe it keeps our marriage strong.
dont let him cause he'll be interested in other girls and not in you.
I don't think there is anything wrong with an adult looking at porn now and then, but it's a problem if it becomes an obsession for him. I've never heard of a wife who was fine with his husband looking at porn.
Do what you think it right.
HELL YAH I Jacked IT two hours ago and it felt great MMMMM....
I am going to do it now, high five!
other than porn, is he enjoying you as a person as well as on an intimate level. is he a good husband most of the time? does porn interfere with your sex life or is it satisfying... do both of you enjoy watching porn together? address these questions and you may get your answer that works for you
There are many different levels of what is considered "pornography". To some, its showing a woman in a bikini. To others, its a little more extreme than that. The most pornographic thing that I ever saw was broadcast live on TV on the morning of September 11th, 2001. After that, seeing people "making love" was tame.
As long as your husband makes love with you and not his computer monitor, I wouldn't worry too much.
Looking at pornography is perfectly normal. It is also a great way to add thrill and increase your sexual experience. I wouldn't listen to those people who say it is wrong. It is a multi billion dollar industy, so there must be a good deal of people who look. I know that my husband and I look at pornography and we're not ashamed of it.
To each his own. I just wouldn't let your co-workers on to your husband's dirty little secret. What happens in your house stays in your house. You should put a dirty magazine on her work station anonymously that would be so funny, and if anyone asks you didn't do it!
a man needs a sexual outlet it's healthy your coworkers don't know your man or live your life if he's a good man he's a good man even if he looks at porn
I don't look at it, but I always wondered the difference between (shock-downloading porn on the internet-shock) and looking at a Playboy. The internet sounds so much dirtier.
its wrong but right a the same time. i watch porn and the internet is like a porn smorgesbored. theres nothing wrong with your hubby checkin out porn as long as he still makes time for you in those departments. when women say men are pigs theyre right men are horn dogs its just our nature. dont let your snooty hypocrate co-workers make you feel bad. as longs as things are in the good with you and your husband everything is fine. dont worry too much about it no more.
csg
I think that people who are comfortable are ok with things like porn. Many people-women especially-are ashamed of their bodies and their imperfections. If they were just to accept that sex is a natural part of being a human-alone and with a partner-then they wouldn't be uncomfortable with porn. I personally have no issues with my man looking at porn-I even watch movies with him but if it takes my place in the bedroom then we have a huge problem on our hands. They just are sexual repressed and have no understanding on how to be comfortable as a sexual woman.
I think it's healthy for you to let your husband do that. You're human beings and are capable of being attracted to different people of the opposite sex. The key is control.
I read an article in the latest Maxim mag where some dude addicted to porn like a gambling or alcohol problem. He spent well over $10 Gs on porn because he couldn't "stay with the same girl" and would watch it than going out and having a social life.
Don't worry about what they say. You should feel sorry for people with closed minds. There is plenty of disgusting porn, but there is a lot of really great porn. It can help your relationship, bring you close, help you get past your inhibitions... at the same time, nobody needs to know what your husband watches at home...
Hugs
personally i don't see anything wrong if my b/f looks at it. i figure, hell let him have his fantasys. and if women are so worried about there men looking at porn they should make a porno or take some pictures for their man so that he has SOMETHING.
How can you program a computer : code
How can you program a person : pictures
If you allow yourself to be programmed, then you've cashed
out, you can't grow when you're self involved.
There is a passive part of you which takes everything in without question.
Here's your serious adult answer. Pornography is destructive to a relationship and marriage. Do not be swayed on this. Let me say it differently; it is normal for men to want to see pornography but it is not right or healthy.
But don't take my word for it. You can find file cabinets worth of data and research to the social implications and harm of pornography. People say it spices up there sex life? It helped there marriage? I say these people need to seriously re-evaluate there life and who they are.
Its normal. Men like looking at women (We are wired to do it), and unless it becomes an obsession there is nothing wrong with it or him. As for your coworkers, well they try to suppress such activity, because they are insecure and figure if a man looks it means he is cheating on them (or will shortly).
If men went around and said the it was discussing that women have these long conversations and talk about everything, women would tell us that they are "wired" to communicate and there is nothing wrong with it. After all you won't find men going around discussing such personal things with coworkers or friends for the most part.
These women want their men to be women. You can't tell them that you believe they are wrong or you will be thrown out of the "woman's club", but they really have no clue at what the real score is.
Viewing pornography is normal for both men and women.
What, we should think of sex only for the purpose of making babies and any arousing thoughts are a sin if not focused only on the aspect of propagation of the species?
Is it normal for adults to have different sexual interests?
Either the people you work with have a terrible sex life or they are trying to draw the attention away from themselves and if you were to look in their closets you would find an arsenal of leather lingerie and a nice collection of whips.
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Answer:
This is an interesting question. Kudos to you for being open-minded. He's checking out porn, not cheating! Every man is entitled to look at porn if he wants to. Society is too uptight about that, especially American society. Europe doesn't care. Most art has nude people, like David, for example. I absolutely agree with you, though I am sure people will disagree and call us both disgusting because porn makes us women look bad. It's really up to you, and you seem to not care, so just go with that. Don't be a conformist, and go with society! Go with what YOU believe, and do not let anyone else sway your opinion!
My wife lets me look at porn.I look at it when she can't spend much time with me(you know) and I believe it keeps our marriage strong.
dont let him cause he'll be interested in other girls and not in you.
I don't think there is anything wrong with an adult looking at porn now and then, but it's a problem if it becomes an obsession for him. I've never heard of a wife who was fine with his husband looking at porn.
Do what you think it right.
HELL YAH I Jacked IT two hours ago and it felt great MMMMM....
I am going to do it now, high five!
other than porn, is he enjoying you as a person as well as on an intimate level. is he a good husband most of the time? does porn interfere with your sex life or is it satisfying... do both of you enjoy watching porn together? address these questions and you may get your answer that works for you
There are many different levels of what is considered "pornography". To some, its showing a woman in a bikini. To others, its a little more extreme than that. The most pornographic thing that I ever saw was broadcast live on TV on the morning of September 11th, 2001. After that, seeing people "making love" was tame.
As long as your husband makes love with you and not his computer monitor, I wouldn't worry too much.
Looking at pornography is perfectly normal. It is also a great way to add thrill and increase your sexual experience. I wouldn't listen to those people who say it is wrong. It is a multi billion dollar industy, so there must be a good deal of people who look. I know that my husband and I look at pornography and we're not ashamed of it.
To each his own. I just wouldn't let your co-workers on to your husband's dirty little secret. What happens in your house stays in your house. You should put a dirty magazine on her work station anonymously that would be so funny, and if anyone asks you didn't do it!
a man needs a sexual outlet it's healthy your coworkers don't know your man or live your life if he's a good man he's a good man even if he looks at porn
I don't look at it, but I always wondered the difference between (shock-downloading porn on the internet-shock) and looking at a Playboy. The internet sounds so much dirtier.
its wrong but right a the same time. i watch porn and the internet is like a porn smorgesbored. theres nothing wrong with your hubby checkin out porn as long as he still makes time for you in those departments. when women say men are pigs theyre right men are horn dogs its just our nature. dont let your snooty hypocrate co-workers make you feel bad. as longs as things are in the good with you and your husband everything is fine. dont worry too much about it no more.
csg
I think that people who are comfortable are ok with things like porn. Many people-women especially-are ashamed of their bodies and their imperfections. If they were just to accept that sex is a natural part of being a human-alone and with a partner-then they wouldn't be uncomfortable with porn. I personally have no issues with my man looking at porn-I even watch movies with him but if it takes my place in the bedroom then we have a huge problem on our hands. They just are sexual repressed and have no understanding on how to be comfortable as a sexual woman.
I think it's healthy for you to let your husband do that. You're human beings and are capable of being attracted to different people of the opposite sex. The key is control.
I read an article in the latest Maxim mag where some dude addicted to porn like a gambling or alcohol problem. He spent well over $10 Gs on porn because he couldn't "stay with the same girl" and would watch it than going out and having a social life.
Don't worry about what they say. You should feel sorry for people with closed minds. There is plenty of disgusting porn, but there is a lot of really great porn. It can help your relationship, bring you close, help you get past your inhibitions... at the same time, nobody needs to know what your husband watches at home...
Hugs
personally i don't see anything wrong if my b/f looks at it. i figure, hell let him have his fantasys. and if women are so worried about there men looking at porn they should make a porno or take some pictures for their man so that he has SOMETHING.
How can you program a computer : code
How can you program a person : pictures
If you allow yourself to be programmed, then you've cashed
out, you can't grow when you're self involved.
There is a passive part of you which takes everything in without question.
Here's your serious adult answer. Pornography is destructive to a relationship and marriage. Do not be swayed on this. Let me say it differently; it is normal for men to want to see pornography but it is not right or healthy.
But don't take my word for it. You can find file cabinets worth of data and research to the social implications and harm of pornography. People say it spices up there sex life? It helped there marriage? I say these people need to seriously re-evaluate there life and who they are.
Its normal. Men like looking at women (We are wired to do it), and unless it becomes an obsession there is nothing wrong with it or him. As for your coworkers, well they try to suppress such activity, because they are insecure and figure if a man looks it means he is cheating on them (or will shortly).
If men went around and said the it was discussing that women have these long conversations and talk about everything, women would tell us that they are "wired" to communicate and there is nothing wrong with it. After all you won't find men going around discussing such personal things with coworkers or friends for the most part.
These women want their men to be women. You can't tell them that you believe they are wrong or you will be thrown out of the "woman's club", but they really have no clue at what the real score is.
Viewing pornography is normal for both men and women.
What, we should think of sex only for the purpose of making babies and any arousing thoughts are a sin if not focused only on the aspect of propagation of the species?
Is it normal for adults to have different sexual interests?
Either the people you work with have a terrible sex life or they are trying to draw the attention away from themselves and if you were to look in their closets you would find an arsenal of leather lingerie and a nice collection of whips.
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