Teacher Suicide?
My class was particularly rowdy, and this teacher (we did not know) was struggling with severe clinical depression. I am afraid we pushed him over the edge. How do I deal with the guilt?
Answer:
There is nothing for you to feel guilty about.
There is nothing dumber for a teacher to do than to kill himself because he couldn't control his own class.
He could have quit if he felt he is not build for the job, his issues lie in his personal life not in his inability to display leadership.
Do not feel guilty, yet keep in mind that you need to respect teachers who are putting a lot of time and effort with very little pay to compensate what they are giving.
Yet, suicide is a selfish act, a coward's way out, and I don't want you to beat yourself up in guilt.
Treat people the way you want to be treated, be sensitive and compassionate but understand that what happened had nothing to do with you.
Wish you the best.
If you were not one of the rowdy ones...don't feel guilty.
It may not have even been the misbehaving kids who 'pushed him over the edge'.Suicide occurs when one's stress level exceeds his capacity to cope with it.
I would bet money that you didn't push him so over the edge that he killed himself. He probably had other issues. It wasn't your fault he killed himself so don't worry about it
You pay it forward. You cannot fix what happened but you can offset your "wrongs" by doing twice as many "rights." How? Tell your story. Help other people learn from your mistakes. Speak up when you see others doing "wrongs." And, tell them to pay it forward.
The world would be a better place if we all did... (Watch the movie if you haven't seen it.) Pay it forward... (since you can't pay it back)
if you really feel you were part of reason, then you will have specific events to account for part of the teachers breakdown & death. otherwise .
you are slightly guilt-stricken b/c of the death itself &the dissapearance of the person from your regular routine its starting to impact you.
the school should be providing grief counsellors to all students or there should be an adult that you can talk to. best tthing to start is to talk with someone about it & they should be helping you realize how to "learn" from this event.
-properly deal with your guilt (whether warranted or not)
-look to how you can use this to learn & what things (that make you feel bad) you would like to change (&how)
You have to be honest with yourself, in that your teacher had problems that stretched far beyond how rowdy you all were as a class. People who commit suicide are extremely troubled, beyond what you are even capable of understanding. You just have to figure out how to tell yourself that it would have happened regardless of how the class behaved. He was beyond help, there was nothing anyone could have done except to have been there with him and tried to stop him.
People who are left behind in a situation like this often feel responsible in some way. You will likely never know the true reason for it, just know that you were NOT a part of it, and there was nothing you could have done to stop him.
It has/had nothing to do with any of the students. It is something he was dealing w/ internally and didnt know how to communicate about it externally. When suicide happens..people try to figure out what "they" did wrong. It doesnt have to do with "other people". he had stuff going on inside his head that he didnt know how to deal with, so he did what he thought he had/wanted to do. Its very sad, but dont blame yourself, or anyone else.
It was coincidental that he's suffering from an illness. Students in general are rowdy when in class and this is a very common occurence inside a classroom. Stop feeling guilty for that teacher had a choice to seek medical attention and you never know the severity of his condition. Bear in mind that teachers are well aware of this common occurence in a classroom. I can still remember that one of our teachers broke her stick to keep us quiet and she cried in our class and we all felt so sorry and guilty. Give your prayers and let this be a lesson. teachers have feelings and students are giving them a hard time in doing their job.
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