If someone bullied you...?
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It depends on the person being bullied. Does the bullying just "roll off your back" or do you walk away feeling defeated. If one could ignore the bullying without it effecting him it would be best. However if you are being hurt, physically or psychologically, there should be some type of intervention. For each situation the the intervention will be different. Some situations might call for disciplinary actions. Others might require therapy for the one being bullied.
As far as "standing up for yourself" or a friend, just be smart about it. If you think it may help the situation, go for it. However in most cases it won't, so be careful!
At my school, if someone hits you, and you hit back, even in self defence, then both you, and the person that hit first goes to In School Suspension. I don't think this is right though.
To ignore them, will only make them madder, and eventually get you a black eye. Standing up for yourself is what you see in the educational cartoons. Stand up for your friends though. Yes, there is definately an obligation for you to stand up for them. Our whole bulling system is twisted.
When it comes down to it.if they continue bothing you, you have to eventually kick their ***...
Perhaps you should take a lesson from Jesus. That might help in deciding what is best when people "bully" you. Thank you and may GOD come soon to right the wrongs that have been done on this earth.
i'm not much of a fighter myself. but i've had to do some fighting in my life and fairly recently. i'm a 51 year grandmother of two. my dad and two older brothers always told me to walk away from a fight if i could ,but if i couldn't fight to win. that meant fight dirty. i don't really believe in fighting but it's our moral obligation to defend those who cannot defend themselves. i cannot abide bullies. i have found that with most bullies that once someone is willing to fight back they tend to run and stay away. most bullies, most of the time,but not all the time. good luck.
Sounds like you need to train yourself in self defense. It will give you the confidence and capability to handle these types of situations. Personally I hate to see people intimidating others , each situation has to be handled appropriately. The more tools at your disposal makes things a lot simpler and less taxing. Most bullies are all show and no go, if need be , you can kick the crud out of them!
wow lots of good questions... lets see I feel that we have every right to stand up for ourselfs... I don[t care what the "schools" think i have always told my children... Don't start a fight but always defend yourself. As for a friend I think I would try to talk the fight down, If I couldn't than i would seek help from the police of security... I would not stand by and watch a fight happen without trying to do something to help my friend as for standing up for my friend yes I would but not with my fist's.
Ignore them. They really can't sucessfully bully you without your consent. If they touch you report them. If it is just intimidation then you can ignore it. Bullies generally only get their jollies from bullying someone who they percieve as less powerful than themselves. Work on an attitude of self confidence, take courses in self defense. Stay with a crowd, there is safety in numbers. High school should not become something to be endured, although for a significant number of people it is just that. Report any and all bullying behavior, involve your parents. I was being bullied in middle school by a big kid who had lots of cousins and friends etc. As soon as his dad found out about it though it stopped. I had to report him and get my mom involved but it was worth it.
High school doesn't last forever though and college kids generally don't act like that.
It depends on how they are doing it. If they're doing it in public around people you both know. Turn it around on them. Start making fun of that person for being a bully. "Bob, You just like to pick on people cuz your so damn ugly" "Real funny BOB!!" "BOB your SOOOOO cool now arn't you?" "Look at me i'm Bob, Your stupid" You have to take the situation and turn it around to make him look bad. Once you can do that he'll loose his momentum w/ bullying you.
Good Luck
Of course it's right ot stand up for yourself! What matters is who threw the first punch. You never start a fight, you END IT! ^^
I beleive that after they throw the first punch, you ahve every right to kick their ***.
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