How do you deal with losing everything that matters in your life?
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You need to go through a "mourning" period, during which you accept these losses, remembering the people and re-living the good times you had with them, and acknowledging that while they are gone, they will live on in your memory, accessable whenever you want to "call them up". At the same time, you also need to get on with your life, both the mundane, day-to-day chores and living activities, and also some new things. You need to reach out to new activities, new people, and get involved with things outside yourself. Take your time doing this, and be cautious, but also be willing to take a few risks in order to re-connect with society.
Don't try to look too far forward if all the previous sources of your goals and dreams are gone. You will have to find new ones, and that will take time. One good thing you can do is to volunteer to do charity work of some sort. That will get you involved with other people and you will probably be able to make new friends and get involved in new activities with others.
Sorry to hear that your life has taken such a dire turn. The only advice I can give is the words of your namesake: "This blood don't run." It's not what life throws at us that makes us who and what we are; it's how we deal with the things life throws at us that define us. Dog never backed down and refuses to give up despite facing deportation to Mexico over that Andrew Luster business -- take a page from The Dog and keep on keepin' on. Good luck!
we as human beings, can bounce back, just takes time
we have a way of ,rebuilding our life's , its built in,
called self preservative, you need to start new friends ships, just one good friend; is better than 5 bad ones.
look at you self, look at what you can do , job wize maybe a new job, mite help you succeed. heres to you my friend !!
Sad times are just a phase, they will go away. Be patient, take things slowly and have faith in God and you will be fine. Don't be too hard on yourself , sometimes things are just outside your control. Pray, listen to music, pamper yourself, take up a hobby that will occupy your mind and prevent you from brooding over things. It is difficult to be optimistic when things go wrong, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. During times of depression, we lose scope of things, talking to a professional will help you get through this difficult time. Good luck!
I can see the loss of a fiance. I can see the loss of family through death. I can see friends getting mad at you for being a idiot. BUT - how can someone take your faith from you?
To change you must determine what action caused the reaction.
Basically, you will keep experiencing the same thing over and over until you learn to accept it with love.
This is what was happening to me: I grew up in a normal, stable family. My mom cooked dinner every night, and tucked us in bed every night. My father was hard-working and responsible. It never occurred to me that once I was 18 and on my own they wouldn't call me (except on my birthday). They never came to visit. When I'd call occassionally, they didn't care to hear about my life, and it stung me and surprised me like nothing else. My childhood was normal! Where was this coming from? (when I ended up in the ICU when I was 22, they drove up to see me, and were going to turn around and drive 2 hours back home "because I was ok.. I was alive" they said! I was so scared I begged them to stay... Then, when I was 23, my friends stopped liking me, for no apparent reason! I felt like I was in the twilight zone, I kept asking people what was the matter with me and they said nothing, it's their problem not mine. Finally, when I attended college when I was 25, I made no friends. None. People avoided me, and even the professors didn't like me. By this time, I realized something is going on, because I'd been to other colleges and made friends and was well-liked. At this point, I came across (by accident) the sources I've listed below. When I slowly came to believe (I was raised as a conservative Christian) that maybe reincarnation is real, and maybe things DO happen for a reason (ie Karma), I accepted the fact that I had somehow brought this on myself, and I accepted it with love.
It was ok that people didn't like me: I would still like them. It was ok that my family wasn't attached to me: I'd still call them and love them, etc. etc.
Now, my friends are slowly coming back into my life (through no effort of my own), and my family calls me. I found out they were planning a surprise party (but there was a power outage) for my last birthday. Something that's never been planned for me. My grandmother, during my last visit to her house, picked one of her precious flowers to give to me as a mother's day present. Something very uncharacteristic of her!
Basically I went from being a conservative Christian to believing that what these people saw on the other side, and what Edgar Cayce brought us, is the truth. Reincarnation, and karma are real. It explains everything, especially the unfairness in this world. It also agrees with physics (I'm a science major).
Once you let go of everything except love (bitterness, anger, sadness, hopelessness) your life will change...
I swear I'm not a crazy hippy! LOL ;)
u have plenty to look forward to. this is just another chapter in ur life. it simply means u will be doing it with different people, is all. stop focusing on what u r losing, and look forward to the challenge to evolve urself and grow.
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