I don't understand myself..?
I need help... But I don't understand myself. I have a low self-esteem and I take comments given to me seriously. I also regret so many things... But these 'things' aren't so serious. For example, I try to block out the past... Like when I embarassed myself etc. I only remember the good times... But I also try to block out my Primary School memories. I don't know why... I had a normal time in Primary School... I don't understand myself. I have a low self-esteem... Even though many people have a crush on me at school... I don't know why I have a low self-esteem. I go to the train and I want to be unnoticed. I have many, many friends at school... I am considered to be the 'awesome' guy. I am sometimes called a 'friendly giant'. Students at my school respect me a lot.. But even one small comment can bring me down. For example "Ha! You're really **** at this game, aren't you, Michael?" Small comments like that can bring me down..I don't understand myself. Someone, plz help me!
Answer:
you obviously know what's bothering you and what your problems are so it can't be that hard to solve them... if you have so many friends then why should you think of yourself as someone worthless... if others see you as a great guy, why don't you too.u should try this: take a peice of paper and a pen and write down all of your good and bad sides and then you will see what's your value..
You are a teenager right? What you are feeling is pretty normal. Trust me, even adults feel the way you do.
What is it that you are really good at or really like doing? Concentrate on those things so you can be proud of your abilities, this will help bolster your self-esteem. I would also recommend finding an adult you trust (parent, friend's parent??) that you can talk to. It will help.
You just seem like a really sensitive person. You listen to people, and take what they say seriously. Sometimes they say things that aren't so nice, but you're listening and take it seriously. You just have to learn to ignore them, and realize they're just joking around. Hard to say though, I'm sure you already do try to ignore them. Girls like sensitive guys though, so that's a benefit!
it sonds like you do have some diffenrt type of confidence. but you have to try to find it, usually people who call you names and try to bring you down...those people usually have low selfesteem...not you though, you think positive and focus on your friends and the good thing in your life, not the negatives. thne you will be able to find that confidence inside of you.=)
Michael, I understand!! I don't have the magic answer, but, I still understand what you're saying. I was told once that, if for instance, you have a bad memory of something, to try this technique. Find a quiet relaxing spot. Gently go back to that painful memory in your mind and embrace it, then try to "reframe" the scenario in your mind. Basically, look at it from an adult perspective. What may have been scarey as a child is no longer scarey now that you are old enough to understand the scenario "logically". Try to go back and see why, and how it happened and the circumstances surrounding the event. Sometimes a new perspective on a old memory can permanetly alter it in your mind..Respectfully, Kandice
In the words of the infamous Archie Bunker, "STOP THAT!"
I dunno what to tell you, but I suppose someone with low self-esteem could have a big ego. Maybe you need to put your ego on a diet!
I remember when a co-worker of mine went through EST training, and he reported back that one of the first things they try to do in the training is to knock down people's egos. At the time, they called the entire audience a bunch of A-holes. "And if you don't think you are, keep in mind that you just spend $700 to come here, and someone's up here calling you an A-hole!" Or something like that. The idea was to see that the other guy and you aren't too different from one another.
Anyway, get off the mindset that you aren't perfect, and that somehow you MUST be perfect. I don't know anybody who's perfect, and to the contrary, most people are screwed up in some way, once you get to know them. We all do stupid things sometimes, no matter how cool we want to think we are, we all look goofy sooner or later.
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you obviously know what's bothering you and what your problems are so it can't be that hard to solve them... if you have so many friends then why should you think of yourself as someone worthless... if others see you as a great guy, why don't you too.u should try this: take a peice of paper and a pen and write down all of your good and bad sides and then you will see what's your value..
You are a teenager right? What you are feeling is pretty normal. Trust me, even adults feel the way you do.
What is it that you are really good at or really like doing? Concentrate on those things so you can be proud of your abilities, this will help bolster your self-esteem. I would also recommend finding an adult you trust (parent, friend's parent??) that you can talk to. It will help.
You just seem like a really sensitive person. You listen to people, and take what they say seriously. Sometimes they say things that aren't so nice, but you're listening and take it seriously. You just have to learn to ignore them, and realize they're just joking around. Hard to say though, I'm sure you already do try to ignore them. Girls like sensitive guys though, so that's a benefit!
it sonds like you do have some diffenrt type of confidence. but you have to try to find it, usually people who call you names and try to bring you down...those people usually have low selfesteem...not you though, you think positive and focus on your friends and the good thing in your life, not the negatives. thne you will be able to find that confidence inside of you.=)
Michael, I understand!! I don't have the magic answer, but, I still understand what you're saying. I was told once that, if for instance, you have a bad memory of something, to try this technique. Find a quiet relaxing spot. Gently go back to that painful memory in your mind and embrace it, then try to "reframe" the scenario in your mind. Basically, look at it from an adult perspective. What may have been scarey as a child is no longer scarey now that you are old enough to understand the scenario "logically". Try to go back and see why, and how it happened and the circumstances surrounding the event. Sometimes a new perspective on a old memory can permanetly alter it in your mind..Respectfully, Kandice
In the words of the infamous Archie Bunker, "STOP THAT!"
I dunno what to tell you, but I suppose someone with low self-esteem could have a big ego. Maybe you need to put your ego on a diet!
I remember when a co-worker of mine went through EST training, and he reported back that one of the first things they try to do in the training is to knock down people's egos. At the time, they called the entire audience a bunch of A-holes. "And if you don't think you are, keep in mind that you just spend $700 to come here, and someone's up here calling you an A-hole!" Or something like that. The idea was to see that the other guy and you aren't too different from one another.
Anyway, get off the mindset that you aren't perfect, and that somehow you MUST be perfect. I don't know anybody who's perfect, and to the contrary, most people are screwed up in some way, once you get to know them. We all do stupid things sometimes, no matter how cool we want to think we are, we all look goofy sooner or later.
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