Is there any way that I can stop from hating people?
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You find it hard to tolerate others because you expect the same abuse you have grown accustom to. I have obese family members. I know all about the discomforts of being overweight. I think you need people to talk to that can relate to your situation. "Fat" people aren't the only ones who have to put up with a bunch of sh*t either. As you get older, you realize that other people don't control your happiness. You need to focus on the things that you like about yourself. Do things that bring you joy that cause no pain to others. Not everyone is as mean as those a**holes you had to deal with. Those kind of people will continue to bring you down if they see that it bothers you. You have to grasp on to something you love and ignore harsh words that are meaningless anyway. Those people are the ones with some serious issues.
If people hate you it is natural to hate people, but your never going to stop hating if you can't pull yourself into society and meet someone who would rather love than hate...maybe then they can help you with your problem and open up more possibilities for you.
you're jaded. Very common when we are exposed to a certain group of people for a long time. You need to expose yourself to some kinder, gentler people.
Maybe voluteer at an old folks home or homeless shelter, childrens hospital. You say you don't belive in God, which is too bad, because church going folk would not call you fat, and are generally trying to be good people.
Find some nice people, be nice yourself, like attracts like!
Do this quick, angry people don't live very long.
I'd offer to be your friend, but you sound mean.
nope! i myself don't believe that i don't want to have enemies or hate someone but its reality. its just that you just have to believe in yourself and look for the friends that would be there for you. its hard to look for those friends but if you did that would really help.
one thing you could do now is how about try to go on a diet and get f*ckin rich so the next itme you see those people making fun of you. you will see in their face what you've become.
btw, watch the movie "just friends". maybe you could get inspired here somehow.(ok im not making sense anymore :))
goodluck!
First, try to forget yourself for a bit - join some voluntary charitable organisation where others benefit - forget that you hate them - just enter into the spirit of righteousness for a while. Impartial goodness is theraputic but there is no room for self-satisfaction, just head down, work hard and do your best. When you come up for air, you could feel quite differenty.
hating and hatred are natural, remember "whatever you do, however good you are, people will still hate you". Just cool off there lots of obese people and they proud of it.
in our culture we have a saying that " out of 10 people you meet, not all will hate or love you" From what I read, it is you who hate people hence that tattoo.
The more you keep that anger and hatred tensed up, it may explode.
1ST U CAN'T LOVE OTHERS UNTIL U LOVE UR SELF HOW DO U FEEL WHEN U LOOK AT UR SELF IF U HATE IT THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT I KNOW IT'S EASIER SAID THAN DONE JUST DO IT BUT IF UR COOL WITH THE WAY U LOOK AND UR SATISFIED THEN 2 HELL WITH WHAT OTHERS THINK RIGHT DON'T ALLOW PEOPLE 2 EFFECT U LIKE THAT YOU'VE ALLOWED THEM 2 IMPRISON U EMOTIONALLY WHICH HAS EFFECTED UR WHOLE LIFE ONLY U CAN CHANGE THAT NO 1 ELSE AND DON'T LET PAST EXPERIENCES STOP U FROM SPEAKING 2 PEOPLE AND TRYING 2 MAKE FRIENDS THERE'S AN OLD SAYING (HE WHO HAS FRIENDS HE HIMSELF MUST BE FRIENDLY ) EVERYBODY DON'T MAKE FUN OF OVER WEIGHT PEOPLE SO GO OUT THERE AND MAKE SOME FRIENDS AND COVER THE TATTOO CAUSE HOW CAN U EXPECT 2 LET GO OF HATRED WHEN UR REMINDED OF IT EVERY DAY
Sure there is a way, start hanging with positive people, people who have the same interest you have, take the initiative and make new friends. People can be so cruel, its horrible. Most of the time these stereotypes that you have to deal with, are usually unhappy about something in their life. So they need a scapegoat, to make themselves feel good. Please, stop blaming yourself. If it is not you, it will definitely be someone else. You have to ignore those jerks. Stop walking around hating and being angry at people, it is bad for your health for #1. You might not realize, all that anger, stress and being frustrated, can lead to high blood pressure, headaches, or a ANEURYSM. Usually when a person is antagonized, they are the ones that become withdrawn, lonely, and mad at the world. Don't let them do this to you..be strong, and again "IGNORE THEM". If you think about it. who is the one walking around , being a hater, unhappy, getting tattoos? Y O U and only you. These people are going back to their everyday lives, and you are mad at the world, hating etc..Honey let it go, if these people are not doing you bodily harm, let it go. My advice to you, find new friends and people who hold "Your own interest". GOOD LUCK!!!There are some good people out here, I hope you meet some, soon.
Joe, this started long before you were overweight.
The tattos only remind you of hatred and anger.So you've talked about what you hate and why. Who loves you and who do you love?
You're not a man of faith in yourself.
You cant tell me family reunions are all peachy and the trouble is outside the picket fence.
Once upon a time Joe was not overweight. Once upon a time Joe lived a tough time before he got to kindergarten or some other early grade. Maybe no one saw that Joe was hurt. Maybe Joe felt good when he ate. Maybe eventually Joe hurt AND Joe was overweight. Joe felt powerless to feel better. Then Joe was hurt and overweight and powerless. Joe clung to school but school is where he ran into jerks that made him feel like a humiliated spectacle. Humiliated spectacled hurt overweight powerless Joe became resentful. And angry. Humiliated spectacled hurt overweight powerless resentful angry Joe started hating. But...Joe's good to decide that if he put tatoos on the outside, the hatred and anger would shift OUT of him. Thats a good try. Except looking at the words, well, it just reinforces all the gunk instead of helping to remove it.
Seems Joe is a good writer. So.....
Tho your words convey very strong emotion, I have no idea if you are right now just generally p!ssed about something and your feelings are running exaggerated and amok. That would be the good news.
If thats the case, seems you would help yourself by journaling, chronicling, and since I think you could probably do it, I think you should use your experience to write fiction? Oh, no, I dont think this is fiction, but I do think that you have enough fodder to have your characters and plot work out the way YOU would have it work out.
If truly you are feeling an overwhelming sense of hatred I believe you have some resource-a school counselor, EAP, or you have insurance to find a physician who can put you on antidepressents and offer counseling. You need to speak with a counselor on an ongoing basis for awhile.
You are right to ask for help. Dont waste your intelligence, gifts and life.
If you dont think you are valuable, you cannot think anyone else is either.
Please email when you have a resolution. K?, K!
So you know, you're in my prayers.
hello,
i understand you.
but you don't want to be hating people for the rest of your life, do you?
i'm sure you're craving for some joy and hapiness and it is there waiting for you too, as for everyone else.
first of all, i thnk that if you want to get help and change and stop hating people, seek for counselling, it will help you really really!
then you'll start seeing changes without you forcing yourself.
but you must first of all seek for help.
i know that people are nasty and i had times at school where i hated them too because of my looks too, butif your weight is a problem for you then make a change for yourself and go to a dietetician and start losing weihgt slowly.
if you work hard i'm sure that in about one year or even less you'll satrt feeling different.
good luck to you.
and let us know.
have a nice day!X
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