Stop being so reserved?
How to stop being so reserved? I am quiet but can make small talk with people, but next day they tend to avoid eye contact with me or talk to me. I don't say anything offense. This happens with everyone. It feels so awkward.
Answer:
wow good question!
you just need to try to step out of your comfert zone try 1 time each day to put yourself in an awkward sistuation once you do this as an ongoing thing it will not feel so awkward and you can slowly learn and rebuild your habits!
coping.org
the more scarry risks you take liek that the less of an issue it will be to you!
so aim for 1 time a day to step out of your zone and do something you normally wouldn't do
keep it logged at 43things.com <-forum based
or joesgoals.com <- point based
it's educated risks tho don't jump before looking down!
You have to trust yourself, that's the most important thing. You have to feel comfortable with yourself. Why don't you take drama lessons ? I did and I have become more open today. It may seem scary, but remember; you have only one life, and don't waste it of ignoring your problems.
GOOD LUCK !! :D
the next day you may have to talk to them first
I'll tell you first thing I am like you, so I know where u r coming from. Well, unfortunately in this culture, people tend to like the outgoing ones more. They fail to realize that there are just different kinds of people! It could either be that they feel a lil uncomfortable or that they simply dont deserve ur worry becoz they are just meant to be acquaintances. Or perhaps they neither hate u nor love you. They are in the neutral zone. So dont always take that personally. Plus not everyone wants to be our friend, or wants to know us better. There are some who do, and it'll be obvious. They will like you for who you are.
I would say go out of ur comfort zone and become a lil chatty with people. But u dont have to be someone u r simply not. When u talk to them, seem genuine and really be interested. But dont be too good. Sometimes, people tend to walk all over a really good person. For people to notice u, be good, but be your own person. Be comfortable in your own shoes. U dont have to smile too much, or be overly agreeable. That might look fake to them even though we might be genuine.
So be nice, and be your own person. Get comfortable in ur skin, and say what comes to mind. Be more spontaneous.
Hope I helped some.
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Answer:
wow good question!
you just need to try to step out of your comfert zone try 1 time each day to put yourself in an awkward sistuation once you do this as an ongoing thing it will not feel so awkward and you can slowly learn and rebuild your habits!
coping.org
the more scarry risks you take liek that the less of an issue it will be to you!
so aim for 1 time a day to step out of your zone and do something you normally wouldn't do
keep it logged at 43things.com <-forum based
or joesgoals.com <- point based
it's educated risks tho don't jump before looking down!
You have to trust yourself, that's the most important thing. You have to feel comfortable with yourself. Why don't you take drama lessons ? I did and I have become more open today. It may seem scary, but remember; you have only one life, and don't waste it of ignoring your problems.
GOOD LUCK !! :D
the next day you may have to talk to them first
I'll tell you first thing I am like you, so I know where u r coming from. Well, unfortunately in this culture, people tend to like the outgoing ones more. They fail to realize that there are just different kinds of people! It could either be that they feel a lil uncomfortable or that they simply dont deserve ur worry becoz they are just meant to be acquaintances. Or perhaps they neither hate u nor love you. They are in the neutral zone. So dont always take that personally. Plus not everyone wants to be our friend, or wants to know us better. There are some who do, and it'll be obvious. They will like you for who you are.
I would say go out of ur comfort zone and become a lil chatty with people. But u dont have to be someone u r simply not. When u talk to them, seem genuine and really be interested. But dont be too good. Sometimes, people tend to walk all over a really good person. For people to notice u, be good, but be your own person. Be comfortable in your own shoes. U dont have to smile too much, or be overly agreeable. That might look fake to them even though we might be genuine.
So be nice, and be your own person. Get comfortable in ur skin, and say what comes to mind. Be more spontaneous.
Hope I helped some.
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