Was he not sincere since he has a mental disorder?

Met this guy who is very bipolar and on lithium. we had a great time together and now it's over. He said amazing things to me while we were together ... but I think he was just on a bipolar manic high. I feel bad that maybe he didn't mean any of those things... although, at the time I believed them to be 100% sincere. Even though we no longer talk, I don't want to lose those things and regret everything as if it were a total lie. Can I do that -- or was he not sincere since he has a mental disorder?

Answer:
I am sorry to hear about your problem. It sounds a lot like the one I had. My ex fiance had boarderline personality disorder. That and bipolar have some similar traits and can be confused. She put me through absolute hell. I had never loved anyone so much in my entire life. I used to pride myself on the fact that if anyone ever cheated or mistreated me (talked down or anything crazy like that) I would be gone. I always did before. Love or no love if I didn't like it, I wasn't in it. Not with this one. Here is why. No matter what else she loved me when she was in a certain mental state. She convinced me completely every time she told me (which was quite often). I believed her every time she said it. I used to think that was because I was a fool and she was always lying. NOT TRUE. She believed it as well...she was just so screwed up that she couldn't handle anything about us. She couldn't endure any kind of distance between us. She couldn't handle it if I so much as mentioned another girl...etc...The worst and best thing about our situations.they weren't total lies. It is a blessing and a plague. It will hurt no matter what path you choose, but make sure you choose one and stay the course. Don't half a$s it. That can turn you suicidal...I know first hand. It will get better and there are some wonderful people out there that deserve you and you deserve. Trust me...this was a learning experience. The nice things were just that. They were there to let you know that you can feel the way you did. He most likely meant what he said sweetie, he just is so messed up that he can't follow through. Not something you could've fixed, or toughed it out through. Hope I helped somehow.
I had a boyfriend when I was in high school, and he was bi-polar, and I asked my Doctor what she thought about it, as far as taking what he says to heart, and she said, if he has been taking his meds like he should be and he didn't seem to be overly depressed to take everything he says as truth. So I hope this helps.

Have a nice day
Could go either way. There's no way for you to know without asking him, so why not just assume he meant them? Just because he has bipolar disorder doesn't automatically mean he is insincere or incapable of feelings. You might as well work under the assumption that makes you feel better rather than the one that makes you feel worse, especially since things are over and in the end it doesn't matter much anyway.
Sophie Just be his friend sincere or not if he wanted to keep you he would of gotten help a long time ago Icy

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