I can't stop hating myself - what should I do?
I really, really hate myself for not getting a teaching certificate while in college (I graduated in December) because it was my life-long dream and I realize how much FUN I would have had student teaching. Up to today, I don't know why I failed to get a teaching certificate, but I can't help but literally beating myself up about it. I've been pounding myself on my arm and now it's sore. I also pound myself on my legs and head (ouch!). I HATE myself because of it! Not only that, I think I'm taking it out on innocent people! Has anyone ever had a problem with hating themselves? What did you do about it? Am I being immature about this? Should I just focus on what I do have? For instance, I have an iPod and laptop, and some people are so poor, they don't even know what an "iPod" or "laptop" is. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks, danke, gracias, grazie, merci...
Answer:
yes your acting like a 2 year old hitting yourself!
i assume your goal is to teach!
okay so you didn't get your certificate... can i ask you what is stopping you from trying AGAIN? is your goal not moving you enought to keep trying?
You can focus on what you have but is it what you WANT? if not then why are you sitting on your butt waiting for a hand out!
work harder if you really want what you say then the work won't be too hard some times unpleasent sometimes challengeing but if it gets you to your goal it's whtat you need to do!
So why do you want to teach? if is to share your knowledge then have you set up tutoring at a local school? What steps have you done to get expreicnce in this!
Who knows why you didn't get that certificate find out why and work on that and try agani!
we all fail it's how we grow.. and it's not what happends to us it's how we react... and your reaction shows me your not ready to be a teacher so that is your challenge... over come disapointment and learn to let go when things don't go your way to giveyourself a break and focus on what you want out of life!
it will not be handed to you on a silver platter don't forget you have to work hard for it.. and if you don't feel like working hard for it then get goals that MOVE YOU or gett ya up off your butt!
as for myself i was depressed and hated my life took me 3 + years to overcome and realize that my goals where not one with me. and to be honest now that i got that all straight and even thought stuff goes wrong all the time.. I have not been a happier person in well at least 10 + years!
when your talking about what you have compaired to other peeps that shows me again your not ready to teach compair yourself to where you want to be not blow joe down the street!
when you can do that you will have better reactions from mishaps and you will be able to have something positive to strive for!
Best of luck for you
if you need to soul search this website helped me tons!
I still go to now and then to ensure i have balence!
coping.org!
love yourself or no one else will!
go see a doc...he has more education than you ...good luck
materialistic things are only that, things. finish what you start or you will never forgive yourself and always think...what if? go back to school.
why should hate yourself(world is so big and there are many fields that you should enjoy),ab course hating our self is good so fancy during this periods. finally i conclude my worlds by saying you to keep smiling and be Good with others nad love our family,girl friend etc.
Don't hate yourself things happen for reasons you are not a bad person and I hope you think different.
The reason for this is that you can not get yourself out of your brain. If you would stop worrying so much and thinking about how much you hate yourself you would find a lot of things can get done. It isn't about what you own. No one needs the latest invention to do something worthwhile and to feel worthy of your efforts.
well see i thougt of me at your place. if i was at ur place even i would have done somewhat that u did but see not like hitting ur own self . understand. this is life. u get somethings in life what u want but some are things u dont. this is the way life goes and u have many things to be happy with like u said ipod , laptop. dont just think about ur self . there are others also who like u and are serious about u . just live for them.
Join the Peace corps or go to a foreign country and teach there... Do something to appease your guilt and self loathing by doing something for someone other than yourself...
People in other countries don't have ipods... and they are better off for it. Don't pity them... pity yourself for giving a **** to the point where you would actually and literally beat yourself up over it.
You just need more relaxs try to be relaxs, you need learning about your self anf find out what make you really hate your self, you need consultation with more profesional about soule, mind.
You must try to stop to hiting your self. try enjoid your life, and thinking you not bad persont, or thinking people like you only one in this world. And you must learning to share something with the poor people than like you.
First you have to accept the fact that you made a mistake. Everybody does it, the important thing is that we learn from our mistakes. After you accept your situation, you arrange a plan to accomplish your goals. Ask questions of yourself.why didn't I, why do I want to...what do I need to do the accomplish my goals.am I willing to do what is necessary to accomplish my goal. When these are answered you can decide the course of action to get you teaching certificate. But to help right now think about how much closer you are to your certificate now than you were 4 years ago. It's only been 2 months since you graduated, do what you need to as soon as economically possible, and can be scheduled.
Resolve the issue. Apply for Teach America (they will train you over the summer to be a teacher, and then you can have your own classroom and teach for a couple of years with them...and help people).
Don't have regrets...you can't change the past, only the future. Take the opportunity to do what you think you missed now, so that you don't keep regreting it.
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yes your acting like a 2 year old hitting yourself!
i assume your goal is to teach!
okay so you didn't get your certificate... can i ask you what is stopping you from trying AGAIN? is your goal not moving you enought to keep trying?
You can focus on what you have but is it what you WANT? if not then why are you sitting on your butt waiting for a hand out!
work harder if you really want what you say then the work won't be too hard some times unpleasent sometimes challengeing but if it gets you to your goal it's whtat you need to do!
So why do you want to teach? if is to share your knowledge then have you set up tutoring at a local school? What steps have you done to get expreicnce in this!
Who knows why you didn't get that certificate find out why and work on that and try agani!
we all fail it's how we grow.. and it's not what happends to us it's how we react... and your reaction shows me your not ready to be a teacher so that is your challenge... over come disapointment and learn to let go when things don't go your way to giveyourself a break and focus on what you want out of life!
it will not be handed to you on a silver platter don't forget you have to work hard for it.. and if you don't feel like working hard for it then get goals that MOVE YOU or gett ya up off your butt!
as for myself i was depressed and hated my life took me 3 + years to overcome and realize that my goals where not one with me. and to be honest now that i got that all straight and even thought stuff goes wrong all the time.. I have not been a happier person in well at least 10 + years!
when your talking about what you have compaired to other peeps that shows me again your not ready to teach compair yourself to where you want to be not blow joe down the street!
when you can do that you will have better reactions from mishaps and you will be able to have something positive to strive for!
Best of luck for you
if you need to soul search this website helped me tons!
I still go to now and then to ensure i have balence!
coping.org!
love yourself or no one else will!
go see a doc...he has more education than you ...good luck
materialistic things are only that, things. finish what you start or you will never forgive yourself and always think...what if? go back to school.
why should hate yourself(world is so big and there are many fields that you should enjoy),ab course hating our self is good so fancy during this periods. finally i conclude my worlds by saying you to keep smiling and be Good with others nad love our family,girl friend etc.
Don't hate yourself things happen for reasons you are not a bad person and I hope you think different.
The reason for this is that you can not get yourself out of your brain. If you would stop worrying so much and thinking about how much you hate yourself you would find a lot of things can get done. It isn't about what you own. No one needs the latest invention to do something worthwhile and to feel worthy of your efforts.
well see i thougt of me at your place. if i was at ur place even i would have done somewhat that u did but see not like hitting ur own self . understand. this is life. u get somethings in life what u want but some are things u dont. this is the way life goes and u have many things to be happy with like u said ipod , laptop. dont just think about ur self . there are others also who like u and are serious about u . just live for them.
Join the Peace corps or go to a foreign country and teach there... Do something to appease your guilt and self loathing by doing something for someone other than yourself...
People in other countries don't have ipods... and they are better off for it. Don't pity them... pity yourself for giving a **** to the point where you would actually and literally beat yourself up over it.
You just need more relaxs try to be relaxs, you need learning about your self anf find out what make you really hate your self, you need consultation with more profesional about soule, mind.
You must try to stop to hiting your self. try enjoid your life, and thinking you not bad persont, or thinking people like you only one in this world. And you must learning to share something with the poor people than like you.
First you have to accept the fact that you made a mistake. Everybody does it, the important thing is that we learn from our mistakes. After you accept your situation, you arrange a plan to accomplish your goals. Ask questions of yourself.why didn't I, why do I want to...what do I need to do the accomplish my goals.am I willing to do what is necessary to accomplish my goal. When these are answered you can decide the course of action to get you teaching certificate. But to help right now think about how much closer you are to your certificate now than you were 4 years ago. It's only been 2 months since you graduated, do what you need to as soon as economically possible, and can be scheduled.
Resolve the issue. Apply for Teach America (they will train you over the summer to be a teacher, and then you can have your own classroom and teach for a couple of years with them...and help people).
Don't have regrets...you can't change the past, only the future. Take the opportunity to do what you think you missed now, so that you don't keep regreting it.
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