In domestic chores, who is the boss?

ok i ask this, because i live with my parents now ( after 5 months of living in spain with spaniards) and my mom wants me to do chores, and i want to do chores right. but it has happened many times before that when i do chores, i dont do them to her satisfaction, and she yells at me. so she yells at me whether i do the chores or whether i dont. so i usualy do nothing, considreing why put forth effort if youre only going ot get yelled at? I opine that if i wash the dishes, she ought to be satisfied with the way i wash them, if i clean the floor, she ought to be satisfied with what i considre clean. what d oyou opine? who has teh standard of clean, the person who's doing the cleaning or someone else?

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If You want to try and live with me, You wouldn't have such problem because i'll clean the floor, cook meals for you, do the dishes and so on...yes You are my favorite

as long as what you clean is clean, she should butt out. i was a nit-picker, until my husband finally said if i wanted him to help, i should not pick at the way he did it! i stepped back and realized i should be happy it was getting done and i was getting a break. i would do something else, or treat myself to a well-deserved break and be satisfied that i had some help!

Are you old enough to move out?

Well, it is her house. To her you are probably thought of as still a child. You should do chores sense you live there and do them to her satisfaction. If this is to big a problem, you need to get your own place.

You're old enough to live away from home for 5 months? Now you want to live back home with mommy. Do it her way, or find your own place.

Think about a couple things. If she doesn't like the way the dishes are done, it's because you consider them "clean enough". She couldn't possible want more than completely clean. So, clean them completely the first time, and there's no argument.

For the floor, apparently what you consider clean is not clean, since there must be dirt left.

Do the chores right, or don't do them. If you're not willing to do the chores, get out. You need to conform to her standard of clean.

She is probably trying to teach you the correct way to do something.
When you are out on your own, you can set your rules, under her roof, she rules.

Instead of doing things half heartily, or not at all, sit down and talk to her.
Tell her you are doing the best you can, (if you really are) and she if she will cut you some slack...
She is probably thankful for the help, but if you are doing dishes, and just rinse them off instead of really washing them, would you want to eat off them?
.good luck.

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