How Do You Encourage A Friend to Show More Affection?

I'm curious. Say I have a friend who is really great to talk to. We can talk about nearly anything. I know they care...they talk to me all the time...but I feel like there is still some kind of barrier to getting closer. I'm fairly open with my feelings. The friend is not. They can talk about feelings from a distance, but sometimes I need this person to just say point blank, "I care about you" or "Our friendship means a lot to me." They may imply it, but without actually saying something, I feel a loss. For me, I need someone to tell me I matter to them. Call it an insecurity, but I just feel more solid when I know I'm special to someone and not just another person to waste time with.

How have you encouraged people to be more affectionate without actually asking them to tell you how they feel about you? I know it's ok to ask for what you want and all that, but I think some people don't respond best to direct requests.

Answer:
If they weren't shown as children by example (being given love), they cannot learn it as adults. ~
It feels too strange to them.
We all have our boundaries set. Some set them at different lengths. You cannot change those boundaries just to satisfy yourself. It makes them uncomfortable.
Let your friend(s) be themselves. Some people open up more easily than others. A friend is someone that lets others be themselves. Don't try to control or manipulate others.

If you can have an intelligent conversation with someone you are not wasting time with them. You don't need to be "solid" with everyone that you know.

One thing about friendship is that you can't try to hard to be someones friend. It is important not to push the issue. If you want to be a friend let the other be them self. Do not control.

Remember that you are not in charge of the emotions of those around you.

Leave some room for fate.

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