Why do people including myself get nervous even when telling the truth?
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I get a little nervous with the truth sometimes because it means being vulnerable. If I have to tell someone "truth is..." it usually means that I am telling them what happened, and it might not reflect to great on me.
Long term though it is great because I do not have to ask myself, did I lie to this person or give a wrong impression because of something I said. short term gain and long term loss is the issue when you neglect to tell the truth.
Being honest with someone puts you out on a limb and you are chancing someone taking that information and hurting you, but if you love that person and they love you, you are only making the relationship stronger by putting yourself out there.
Not all people get nervous telling the truth, I used to when I was younger and had to "own up" to some bad stuff I did, but as an adult, if I mess up, so be it, I admit it and get on with my life.
I think that most people want to be judged favorably. When giving an answer, truthful or not, you are setting yourself up to be judged. Hence, people who care little about the good opinion of others should feel less nervous than people who seek approval.
You are afraid of getting punched on the face.
speaking the truth makes people weak and nervous..because truth are always not readily acceptable by others, and they will think otherwise of U, which every1 will aviod..
If you look at yourself and others really close, you will see that everyone has a guard up to protect themselves from defeat. It transaltes into game playing. In little ways we manipulate, become political, jocky for position and power. It's mostly our competitive culture that teaches us by conditioning that you always have to watch your back, beat the next person out for that seat, that job, whatever is better. If you don't keep up with the Jones family, or at least get them thinking, you feel that you are losing your edge and falling behind. So when you tell the truth you feel that you may be giving up your competitive spot and that someone will take advantage of it by deceit and pull ahead of you. When you tell the truth you are putting your life on the line by actually trusting in the God of truth, which few of us have a strong enough faith to actually do.
Getting nervous about telling the truth may be a sign of low self esteem. If you are bringing bad news with the truth your subconscious may believe that you are unworthy of forgiveness. If you are bringing good news, your subconscious may believe your information is not going to be interesting to the receiver. Telling the truth about a mistake can be turned into a good experience. I learned a long time ago that saying... "well.. I made a mistake here's what it is, now how do we fix it?" I skip right past the judgment and lectures by assuming the position that I 1) recognize that I was at fault, 2) am not trying to cover it up and make it worse and 3) am seeking advice on how to fix it and learn how to avoid the mistake in the future.
If you are telling the truth about something personal in your life and are nervous, then you may be feeling it is none of the person's business that you are speaking with. If it is someone you are intimate with (a family member, friend, date, spouse, etc.) and you feel that withholding it is a form of dishonesty, then pray for guidance from God. It may be that you have not forgiven yourself.
What ever makes you nervous about telling the truth, remember that an untruth is not a good substitute as it always comes back to bite you in the END. :-)
Good luck!
Have you been around too many that dabble in assumption/control freaks/people who don't like truth etc?
~~~~State the truth/set boundaries~~~~
If they don't respect your verbal honesty tell them to go look at themselves in the mirror and stop blowing their steam all over U. If you have these concerns about a person you are seeking guidance from they ain't for U ; )
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