Why are self-harmers so caring towards others?
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I don't know that they are. I have a niece who self halmed, and she is without a doubt one of the most difficult, unplesant people I know.
Perhaps the reason why they are self harming is that they are sensitive and/or have been through difficult times so can empathise with others.
Well .. Its a mentel thing.. They feel there not worth life.. Its there parents fault not making the child fee loved.. So they will treat you kind but one day.. you may be even killed by one because he/ she will snap.
Maybe because they feel like that if they can't stop themselves from hurting, maybe they can stop other people before they start?
Caring toward other people who self-harm or just others in general?
Maybe empathy or just because they know what it's like to feel sh*tty.
very interesting question.
Maybe it has to do with stress...
... or maybe it's just selflessness, where a person thinks more of the people around them than they think of themselves. It can be part of a person's personality, and almost impossible to change.
They are trying to please. Been there done that and came out the other end with a rewarding job helping special needs kids.
becouse they properly know what it feels lke and why they do it. i mean non self harmers nornally dont really understand what it feels like (the relief and good pain) or why they do it (normally because they feel they deserve the pain as a punishement or takes away pain from somthing else).
They are probably more caring toward others because they believe that other people are more worthwhile. Self-abusers typically have low self-esteem so it seems logical to them that everyone else deserves more care and attention than themselves.
They are selfsih self centered personality disorders i have neevr seen one of the be caring towards anyone but their own self...
and if they arent doing something to create drama and attention for them selves they are just not happy
Continue to think on this .It will be interesting
cant agree, my ex wife use to claw herself bloody, it was even recorded in the mental health hospital, but one day she got mad at me and did it again, and called the police, when i told the officer i didn't do it and she had a history of it , just call the hospital, the officer wouldn't listen ,so i went to jail for two days, when the DA looked into it i was let go and told to go back home, of course i tried to sue the police department but got no where, one officer told me latter i would rather live under the bridge than go back to that woman, but i went back, thank God i remarried just last summer, so the story finally has a happy ending. :)
A lot of people lash out at others convinced they are the root of the suffering in their lives
The self harmer is introverted, sensitive and usually intelligent. They are NEVER the type to get drunk and start swinging their fists about in a town centre, behaviour considered 'normal' by this strange society we live in
Schizophrenics might attack themselves and others but they are rare in number. The introverted self harmer outnumbers them by a great deal.
*If you dont have a clue on the subject, ie not read anything on the subject and have not known anyone who has done this, why do you answer? Your ridiculous paranoid and uneducated remarks embarrass you
they may be more sensitive
You're right hun. I have a great deal of compasion for other people but not myself. I developed problems three years ago which i can not cope with and started to self harm about a month ago.
You care about others who do not care about you. Why is this?
I used to be one, but at the time it was only myself I cared about, no one else. Now that I'm past that though..I do care more about others and not so much myself
I kow what you mean i used to self harm alot i would never ever dream of hurting anyone else, i would always do anything to help others i even ended up working in a care home and looking after old people.
I think we are this way because it makes us feel needed, appreciated and worthwhile cos normally when you self harm you don't .
Because the person they believe needs to be punished is not others, just themselves
I wonder whether it's a way of seeking approval from others and improving you're self-esteem. I've been a self-harmer for most of my life, which I put down to low self-esteem due to a partial disability. By chance, I discovered a website for self-harmers which enables us to offer and get all the support we need. All the best.
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