Attention moms that seem to have it together!!...How do you do it??

I know nobody is perfect but compared to other parents I am NOT as organized as a lot of people I know. This is a major problem in my life. A lot of people tell me I am just not a very organized peron but I know there must be a way to be because I have such a desire to lead a better life. I feel like I go around in circles and I cant find any balance in my life. I am divorced so I am a single mom. I have three little ones who really need a more balanced mom. They thrive on structure which I seem to be lacking. Any advice would be appreciated.

Answer:
I think the question here really is "does your level of organization bother you?" If it is only that others do not like your organization level, then you don't have anything to correct. It is your happiness in your day to day life that is important.

If, however, you are not satisfied with your level of organization, make a schedule for you and your family.
For example:
7:00 - 7:30 Breakfast
8:00 - 8:30 Drive kids to school/daycare
9:00 - 5:00 work
6:00 - 6:30 Play a game with the kids
7:00 - 7:45 cook dinner (while kids do homework or play outside)
etc. etc.

Some people live very productive, happy lives without schedules and strict organization. If you are getting done what needs to be done on most days, smile and enjoy your life. Don't be hard on yourself or judge yourself harshly...you are raising 3 kids by yourself. Sometimes you have to blow off the dishes and choose to do something fulfilling for you.

People are just finding out (*eye roll*) that even though you may look unorganized, that doesn't mean you're not. Just make time for yourself everyday, even if it's just five minutes to have some coffee (believe me, my mom goes through a pot of coffee and half a pack of cigarettes a day; my mom's single and about about to get remarried). And laugh a little, there's not a single shred of evidence that you have to take life seriously! ^^

Believe it or not, you have already provided structure to your children. Maybe it just needs tweaked a little.

I am far from organized as well, but you need to maybe have some sort of schedule written out, just as a guideline to help you. For instance, when school is in, we take the one child to school, and then when we return the morning is all ours. I do nothing but read the paper, watch a little tv, play on the computer. Noon comes around make lunch for whoever is home. I need to take the morning to myself, because I don't wake up right away. After lunch, clean, play with the other child that is home, and get supper ready to be cooked later on that day.

School is out now, and nothing changes. Well, one thing, I take a little more time in the morning mid-day for myself.

I am also in school full-time doing distance studies for my B.A. of Psych. and then I need to devote time to that. I do this when I sit the kids down usually around three, or four (when school is in) and we work on things that they are doing in school. Sometimes it takes my away a coupla hours from them when I making dinner, but they understand. Bath, snack, bed, book in that order.

See, you can make structure so much less complicated than it already is. Don't forget to take time for yourself. You are important enough to do that, and don't forget. Things don't need to be right away. Get them done when you can...enjoy your children.

Good luck!

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