Do you know someone who commited suicide?
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Firstly, I am very sorry to hear of your loss.
I know a couple of people in my lifetime personally that have committed suicide (I am 32 now to put this into context). However, I am a mental health professional, and have seen many clients over the years that have also committed suicide. When I was 17 a friend's younger brother committed suicide at the age of 15 after experiencing years of homophobic bullying. He poisoned himself. I didn't know him very well, other than seeing him at my friends house when I went round to visit, but he was a lovely guy, he had so much going for him. Sadly, so much bigotry in school age kids.
The second person I knew personally was a friend, who jumped off a high rised car park. He had been suffering depression for quite some time.
One of my friends Mom's did. He was 12 at the time and was the one who found her. It made me feel terrible just knowing how bad he felt.
The pain will heal in time
yeah, i've known 2 people who've committed suicide, it's horrible at first, but you learn to accept it, life goes on, the last thing they would've wanted is for you to have a horrible life.
i know someone who commited suicide, it hurts. the fact that he decided to end his life, and not god hurts a lot... you'll be fine though, time heals every wound. no matter how deep it is...
yes, I do. It's so unfortunate. I highly recommend that you take a look at the following website (browse around and feel free to call there--they'd be happy to send you free brochures and info re: grieving support groups and various material that can be really helpful). I used to work at this facility and it's phenomenal. I am so sorry for your loss.
http://www.suicidepreventioncenter.org/...
Well..I KNEW someone who did it.
It was my ex boyfriend's brother. He shot himself on his mother's birthday infront of his mother, father, sister(who was 7 months pregnant) and til today nobody knows why but i honestly think its the most selfish act anyone can ever do. The ones you leave behind are so traumatised and cannot go on with life like normal.Its sad.
Yes i remember my home town guy who killed himself becase of chronic illness.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, my heart goes out to you. (hug)
My boyfriend's brother committed suicide a few years ago, he drank a bottle of anti-freeze. I guess he was about to be evicted from his apartment, also he was gay.
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my best freind 4 years ago in october i miss him
I have known a few but not real close family though. The strangest one was a lad that my partner and i got friendly with as he drank in a pub we used. He had a great s.o.h. good looks and appeared everything would be going his way. It was a real shock when he hung himself in his parents garden shed, i think xmas eve,? He was late teens early 20's? such a waste and why? But i can imagine the hurt you must be feeling over your mother...Take care LEX.
How sad you must have been !
such aćcruel memory. it must be a great pain to live on with that memory . i admire your spiritual stamina and i really really hope you find good people to talk with . even cyber -friends I had an acaintance whose husband killed himself some time ago.
I did. He was a very good friend of mine, and it came as such a great shock when he died. We (friends and family) had no idea what so ever that he was mentally ill. He was always so happy and chatty and was a very clever electrician.
Then one day he went home, taped up all the windows, letter boxes etc. Turned all the gas appliances on in his home, filled the bath tub with cold water, stripped naked cut his wrists and died in the bath.
It took a long time for me to recover from the shock, if only I had known, I could have done something about it. I felt very guilty that I couldn't help. I don't think that that guilt will ever go. But I know that he wouldn't want me to grieve over his death.
I am so sorry for you and your Mum, you must still be going through a very traumatic time, but time is a good healer and I promise that you will feel better soon. Best wishes, Steve.
A friend did this some years ago. Some people will use words like "selfish" to describe suicide but pay no attention to those people. Suicide is the culmination of clinical depression, a very real and very serious illness - just as real as any other illness which can lead to death.
I was really sorry to hear about your mum. It must have been an awful time for you. I hope that this help you a little.
I knew knew a young lad who shot himself in the head after taking his mum's car and bumping it. He was 16. It was a small commumity but the turn-out at the funeral was amazing - standing room only. He was my friends little brother. This happened over 20 years ago now. My friend says that the pain fades in time, and she remembers the happy times when they were growing up, but she will never forget hearing about it (she was pregnant at the time) and will never forget him.
She also says that what helped her was believing that there is a place for every child in Heaven, so she will see him again one day.
In time the pain of grieving will fade and you will come through this time. I lost my mum to cancer, which is different I know, so I only know a lilttle of what you are going through. I wish you strength and comfort, Lynette
my husbands friend did it 8 years ago. he found out his wife was having an affair and couldnt cope with it. he hung himself in the woods. he left 4 kids under 12. it is selfish but still personal choice. his wife moved her lover into their home straight after the funeral.
I have, but it was 22 years ago. All i can say is that, initally you will be VERY angry at the person, then you will cry buckets and get depressed. After which you will be sentimental, and eventually be able to go through the days and weeks without thinking badly of the person, but cherish what you had.
yes 2 good friends committed suicide, each one years apart. the 1st one I was at school with & lived for years 3 doors away.the second was a friend from my local. we used to chat and have a drink and go to various bars-3 or 4 of us.when I heard of each 1 i was devistated but that`s life. I felt sorry for the people left behind.sorry for your loss but things do get better.
Hi.
First of all, good on you for reaching out - great step!
And yes, I have had two times in my life when I have had to deal with suicide. The first was when a guy I was seeing killed himself. At the funeral I found out that I was one of 6 women he was seeing & he also had a wife & 2 kids. (We all had a "we hate _______ party" after the funeral - I still keep in touch with most of them!).
The second time was only recently when a good friend attempted suicide by dousing himself with petrol & setting himself on fire in front of his family.
I found that in both cases what helped me was talking about my feelings & how their selfishness had impacted the people around them. I have not yet been able to speak with the second friend & have no plans to in the near future.
If you feel comfortable talking to a therapist then go see one. If you feel more comfortable with family & friends then stick with them, but remember, the experts are there to help & there is no shame in needing a little help from time to time!
sorry but before or after ? sometimes you know a person more after, but not in your case being your mother, just remember the good times and i am sure there must have been many, but like me i had two friends many years ago who not seen for a long time only to find that had happened to them , but i found out more about them after
Yup! I have got two, very close friends, which attempted for it but..
Hi!
You are far from alone. My guess is that most people will know someone during their life who took their own life. Its always tragic and leaves people feeling bewildered.
Of those I know, the one that still puzzles me most is a special forces officer who left his parachute behind on purpose when jumping from a plane. He was a good man who had saved a lot of lives.
Its sad that many young people who have not yet worked out the pattern of life take such a decision at a time when they are at their most vulnerable and things seem unbearable. If only they hung on, the wonder of life would have opened up to them.
People often try to work out what they could have done different that might have prevented the person taking their life. In the case of those tormented by bullies, the bullies need to do some serious self-examination, but in most cases there was little anyone could have done.We must give people who take their own lives the dignity of accepting that they took the decision. It may puzzle us - but it was their choice.
Good wishes.
Live In The OBe assured, you're experience is not the 1st or the last!
We are left with unanswered ?Yet life goes on! I feel for your family as I did mine when my husband shot himself!
\WHY??? Only God Knows!I & myfamily have to live with thefallout! Life May Stink- There Is A Reaction For Every Reaction!? Is What Ya Gona Do About It??
a townmate of mine who hang himself 2 days before his wedding day. it was never revealed what decided him to end his life but of cors! speculations has a lot to do with his incoming wedding at that time.
Sorry to hear about your mom but ye! some people do choose to end it rather than face the unbearable.
it is commendable of you to have accepted & actually be here at YA & can openly talk about it. You are a strong woman. Keep it up.
My uncle did, he was elderly and disabled, his wife had died a year or so before from cancer, and they had no kids...
I have thought about it a lot myself, but in my mind it seems like the ultimate f**k you to everyone and I just wouldn't want the people left behind to feel badly about it.
There is always a sense of "if only" If only I had known I could of done more / something / something else / stopped it happening.
I think you have to accept that if people want to die, they will find a way to do it and nothing you say or do will stop them. Its really sad, but its just one of those things. We all have that option, always, but most people choose not to take it.
You find something worth hanging around for. even if its something relatively minor like wanting to see if it stops raining tomorrow!! I wish!
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Honey.I'm so sorry for your loss & also for the pain that your poor mother must have gone through.
People DON'T commit suicide because they're selfish.taking ones life is an act of desperation, no one chooses to die just to get back at someone else or because they're being selfish.
Whatever the reason someone chooses to end their life isn't always apparent to others. The human mind can be so simple at times yet at other times so so complicated.
Physical ailments are easy to see, so easy to understand.mental health problems have an image of someone being all ga ga, so when a person ends their life we tend to feel that we failed to notice something was amiss..we didn't see them running around like some crazed lunatic, we didn't see them acting in any "strange" way & more often than not, didn't hear them speak of anything much being "that" wrong either (to us).mental health in reality isn't like that at all. That's an image we have from the media & from films etc;
Media feeds the stigma surrounding both suicide and mental illness. In-fact neurological research has strongly linked suicide and suicidal behaviour to neurochemical imbalances and other problems with neurophysiology
A very good friend of mine decided that she would take her life just a few weeks ago, she finished it all by drinking weed killer...were we shocked?
God, yes! she was the most beautiful person.I'm not talking looks here but real deep down beauty, she had what we would consider everything to live for. Very successful business wise with close friends all around her that all loved her a lot (whom she knew loved her)...A loving husband who made sure she never wanted for anything & so the list goes on.
But looking back over her life it was hardly a surprise really.given her up-bringing & low self esteem that had been ingrained from childhood & perpetuated by the media..it left me in a state of shock for sure, but knowing that she's no longer in any mental pain brings a fraction of comfort I guess..it's the only comfort you have too right now.to know the torment your mother must have felt, is finally gone from her.
You're not alone babe..I haven't lost a parent to suicide & cannot imagine what you must be going through.but there are many others out there who do know..more people commit suicide each year than those that die from being murdered.
People who take or attempt to take their own lives feel trapped by hurt and hopelessness. Whatever the reality or support available, they feel isolated from family and friends, from life itself. In short, death seems to be their only option.
Not so much that they choose to die as much as choosing to end unbearable pain.
But, you, as the survivor of that choice.are the one that needs to be able to go forward with your life.
Right now you must do what feels right for you, if you want to talk about your mother, do it, if you need to cry, then do that too, whatever you do don't bottle things up inside & pretend everythings fine, it's very early days for you right now....
I dont know how long it will take you to get over your loss, but I promise you this..one day you'll be able to think of her & your heart won't feel as though it's breaking & the dark cloud that has followed you around this past year will slowly lift, it'll take time, but it will happen.
I'm thinking of you babe.
change the environment
Avoid being gloomy or alone
know the symptoms those reflect that you're gloomy
Help each other
Seek comfort from the Creator
know of one person who did,
A very close friend of mine killed herself last year. However, she suffered from severe depression and as our Support group was closed down without notice, a lot of us at the time had no support. So she took and overdose and died. Then suddenly, the social work department miraculously reopened our support group. Coincidence?
I still miss her so much.
3 family members haved killed themselves - manic depresson runs in our family. There are many support groups out there that can help you feel less isolated...
My best friend killed himself because he could not cope with what other people would think if they realised he was gay. I had actually guessed he was several years before, and now regret that I didn't speak to him about it.
I have bought and lived in three houses in my adult life. Every single one of them was the scene of a suicide. Just as well I don't believe in ghosts
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